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To be surprised you mumsnetters criticised my ex’s school !!

242 replies

Jumell · 08/12/2024 15:48

My ex went to an all boys’ comprehensive school in London. It’s been slagged off to the ground on here as being rough, not being the school of choice for MC parents, results are dire etc etc .

However he did leave the school in one piece and with 2 CSEs no less!! (OK showing his age a bit!) But the pearl clutchiness about his school on MN is immense !! 🤣 - I didn’t do CSEs btw so don’t truly know how good 2 CSEs is.
He left school in 1986 FYI - I was still a young school kid then, Dunno - was 2 CSEs good for 1986?!

FWIW the comp I went to wasn’t short for ‘comprehensive’ - more compost heap - but that’s possibly the subject of another thread. !

OP posts:
pimplin · 08/12/2024 17:25

What a weird post.

AmusedMaker · 08/12/2024 17:26

This thread would make sense if you’d married him & he’s now a millionaire. But he’s an ex?

( Incidentally, quite a few people leave school with nothing and become millionaires 😄 )

MildredSauce · 08/12/2024 17:26

Jumell · 08/12/2024 17:18

His school was apparently in a deprived area.

As soon as you mention the two magic words ‘deprived’ and ‘area’ on MN in the same sentence relating to a school , you can hear simultaneously the

sharp intakes of breath - and

the gentle crackle of pearls being clutched ! 🤣

Are you trying to provoke @Jumell or are you trying to be witty?

ForkHandlesNotFourCandles · 08/12/2024 17:29

MildredSauce · 08/12/2024 17:26

Are you trying to provoke @Jumell or are you trying to be witty?

Given OPs written English isn’t bad I think it’s safe to assume she was perfectly capable of researching what two CSEs really means and
YES
this thread is a wind up.

Jumell · 08/12/2024 17:29

MildredSauce · 08/12/2024 17:26

Are you trying to provoke @Jumell or are you trying to be witty?

Neither really - but lots of people are very precious about schools in ‘deprived’ ‘areas’

and I suppose I was trying to be more lighthearted than provocative

OP posts:
x2boys · 08/12/2024 17:30

MildredSauce · 08/12/2024 17:26

Are you trying to provoke @Jumell or are you trying to be witty?

This poster has Been all-over aibu this week with some controversial threads i keep recognising the user name ..

DowntonFlabbie · 08/12/2024 17:30

Jumell · 08/12/2024 15:56

Come on - 2 CSEs are a fair old effort !

Are they though?

DowntonFlabbie · 08/12/2024 17:32

Jumell · 08/12/2024 17:18

His school was apparently in a deprived area.

As soon as you mention the two magic words ‘deprived’ and ‘area’ on MN in the same sentence relating to a school , you can hear simultaneously the

sharp intakes of breath - and

the gentle crackle of pearls being clutched ! 🤣

Plenty of us went to schools in deprived areas. We're not shocked. I'd bet mine was worse than your fellas, but I got 13 GCSEs

WhimsicalGubbins76 · 08/12/2024 17:33

Jumell · 08/12/2024 17:29

Neither really - but lots of people are very precious about schools in ‘deprived’ ‘areas’

and I suppose I was trying to be more lighthearted than provocative

Are you also bored? Because I’ve lost count how many nonsensical threads you’ve tried to start over the last week.
Also, going by one of your other many, many threads, you can’t have been any younger than 12 or 13 in ‘86, so would have a perfectly fine understanding of CSEs as you were in secondary school

Jumell · 08/12/2024 17:35

DowntonFlabbie · 08/12/2024 17:32

Plenty of us went to schools in deprived areas. We're not shocked. I'd bet mine was worse than your fellas, but I got 13 GCSEs

That’s good - you did better than me

I hated school - but went to an FE college for my A levels - I worked hard there from the very first day - not just before the exams - and got 3 As ! Everyone says I was a swot but I cared not a jot !

but my school that I sat GCSEs was absolutely shit !!!!!!!

OP posts:
C152 · 08/12/2024 17:36

Don't understand what's lighthearted about any of your responses. I also clearly don't read the same posts as you, as I don't recall a lot of 'pearl clutching' about schools in deprived areas. At the end of the day, who cares where he went to school? You don't need qualifications to be a good person. And at the time he finished school, it was easier to get an entry level job and work your way up so, arguably, although it would have helped open more doors, you didn't need qualifications to end up with a job either.

Jumell · 08/12/2024 17:36

WhimsicalGubbins76 · 08/12/2024 17:33

Are you also bored? Because I’ve lost count how many nonsensical threads you’ve tried to start over the last week.
Also, going by one of your other many, many threads, you can’t have been any younger than 12 or 13 in ‘86, so would have a perfectly fine understanding of CSEs as you were in secondary school

No - no one even close to me in sec school did CSEs I was 2nd yr of GCSEs so no understanding of the CSE system

OP posts:
MildredSauce · 08/12/2024 17:37

WhimsicalGubbins76 · 08/12/2024 17:33

Are you also bored? Because I’ve lost count how many nonsensical threads you’ve tried to start over the last week.
Also, going by one of your other many, many threads, you can’t have been any younger than 12 or 13 in ‘86, so would have a perfectly fine understanding of CSEs as you were in secondary school

She's talked about her best friend at college being 34. She's talked about life in the 70's. She's all over the place, frankly

Tubetrain · 08/12/2024 17:37

CSEs were what you did if you weren't academic enough for O'levels.

2 of them is basically leaving school unqualified. surely you must realise that?

TiredCatLady · 08/12/2024 17:39

OP you are talking out of your arse like most of your other threads on here.

Only pearls being clutched are your own imaginary ones.

FeegleFrenzy · 08/12/2024 17:39

Jumell · 08/12/2024 17:08

Cos I thought getting 2 exams of which there is a huge course work element v impressive - lots of kids CBA with coursework

in fact a lot of kids cba

You have a low bar.

plenty of kids can be bothered.

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 08/12/2024 17:39

ForkHandlesNotFourCandles · 08/12/2024 17:11

Its a shame you’ve picked up on colour there .
Not all English people are white

Education is the way up

It's not a shame, it's my entire point. White working-class English people historically had a far worse attitude to education than the Scots and the Irish. British children from families who are first, second or third generation immigrants from various parts of Asia and West Africa typically get some of the best exam results nowadays.

Ellerby83 · 08/12/2024 17:40

Whatever thought pops onto her head will be a new thread

MildredSauce · 08/12/2024 17:41

Jumell · 08/12/2024 17:36

No - no one even close to me in sec school did CSEs I was 2nd yr of GCSEs so no understanding of the CSE system

I'm sorry all, I'm going to cross threads.

So @Jumell if you were second year of GCSE's, it means you are, what, 52? So what on earth were you on about asking what 56 year old men are like, as though they are a different fecking species?

MerryTraveller · 08/12/2024 17:45

Princess Diana left school with about the same qualifications as your husband and was famously dim, so - unless your husband is dense - it is not a great reflection on the school! Pretty hard to be as dense as a royal though...

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 08/12/2024 17:46

adriftinadenofvipers · 08/12/2024 17:14

An A wasn't that rare. A load of my classmates got them back in the day. I got 2 A and 2 B.

There was no A though. A irrationally pisses me off lol!

It depends on when you're talking about. I went to a very academic school in the 1970s and it was extremely rare to get all As at either A or O level. By the 1990s it was a lot easier, possibly for the reason I've tried to explain upthread about the change in how the grade boundaries was established. There was a lot more teaching to the test by then, the National Curriculum had come in and schools were being judged by their exam results in league tables and by Ofsted.

Grammarnut · 08/12/2024 17:46

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 08/12/2024 17:39

It's not a shame, it's my entire point. White working-class English people historically had a far worse attitude to education than the Scots and the Irish. British children from families who are first, second or third generation immigrants from various parts of Asia and West Africa typically get some of the best exam results nowadays.

Edited

White working class people since the 40s I think. During the 19th and early 20th centuries white working-class people were very keen on education. Who do you think set up the Workingmen's Education Association, the Mechanics Institute etc?

derivativesruletheworld · 08/12/2024 17:47

AlwaysRight1985 · 08/12/2024 17:15

I went to a total sink school in a total sink town in the 1990s, might as well have been in a zoo rather than a school. Still managed 7 A*s and 3 As

HOW did you do that??!!

That sounds amazing! Were you the only one, or were there a couple of you who were just head down, ignore the riots, fires, stabbings, verbal?

suki1964 · 08/12/2024 17:47

Jumell · 08/12/2024 17:08

Cos I thought getting 2 exams of which there is a huge course work element v impressive - lots of kids CBA with coursework

in fact a lot of kids cba

Its GCSE that has coursework and exams throughout the study period

GCSE's were bought in because it was thought that some of the brightest pupils weren't getting the results predicted because they didnt do well in exams, so final exam on the day was a very small percentage of total mark. Hence I could have answered about 5 questions on my paper for geography and still got a top pass because I had the marks required from the coursework and the mid term exams

Gasp0deTheW0nderD0g · 08/12/2024 17:47

I know, but I think it's always been patchy. There's been a culture in England of not getting above yourself, not showing off, knowing your place. Far less of an issue in other countries. I possibly see this more clearly because I come from a Scottish family.

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