To ask if you could honestly do this ?

[ChicRaven]

If your partner left you, would you be able to move away and live alone, financially supporting yourself? This isn't based on what you would get out of a divorce because in this scenario you wouldn't have that security.

I can definitely manage my budget and live within my means

I am also willing to eat a lot of lentils!

Yes but why would I? He can be the one that has the hassle of moving out and away, I'll stay here.

I had to. 15 years ago. I genuinely had nothing. You just somehow have to when you have to. It’s not easy to rip the bandaid off! I had to have it ripped off then I had no choice. X

You can do this. I did, was hard initally, but come through the other side

Well for people in a different position they might have to because they can’t afford the mortgage alone or there’s no equity in the property etc. I think the post was more referring to ‘if you had to’ situations.

Yes. I’d never solely rely on someone else financially for that very reason.

I’m the higher earner so it would financially be easier for me.

😂 yeah this! I lived on potatoes for about 3 years!

It would have to be a little flat or something but I could do it.

I could and have. And I could do it again if I left my current partner. I'm the higher earner and actually it's my house so I wouldn't be the one leaving.

Well I likely couldn't buy and I would have to claim UC so potentially not?

All of my friends are in the same position too, part time work, low wages, kids. One is not married or living with the high earning boyfriend, one is already claiming UC with several children and the other 2 are married.

It is what it is, I've never had a well paid job even before we got married and had kids so other than reducing hours I'm in the same position I was when we were renting together if not better because I get half the house. Not that £50K would get me very far even if I worked full time.

You do realise that many people don't ever have the privilege of living in a two income household?

Yes, I did it.

Yes and no.

No way could I afford to support myself on my salary alone.

But with my parents' help, absolutely.

Yes, about to buy our first joint house after living in just my house for 5 years and have made sure I could afford it solo if it all goes wrong. 2 DC to think about and wouldn’t want to disrupt their lives.

Yes and I have done. He didn't pay a penny towards DD and she's aware that being financially independent is a pretty good idea.

You do realise that 30% of people in the UK live alone? so many of us have to live on a single income.

Yes, I absolutely could. I've worked incredibly hard to ensure that I can provide a comfortable life for myself and my daughter all on my own if I ever need to.
In my opinion, it's very important that women are independent and are able to take care of themselves and their children financially if they ever need to. Being a parent means being responsible for your children. I know many women do not subscribe to this view and that's fine as each to their own.

Yes, I did this on my own with just a backpack and a carrier bag in each hand. Made full use of government support, including council housing and benefits. It was all fine, for me it was just a matter of being resourceful and having the pride in myself to go it alone.

I'm single so yes, I do it every day
Never shared finances with anyone

Yes, I could support myself and my son on my salary.

I did it. Had no income of my own at the time but got a job, got into huge debt, started to pay down our joint debts (he "disappeared") and came out the other side much happier and more secure. DCs were 5 months and 2 yrs old when he left.

You do what you have to do. It was a nightmare and I was a hair breadth's away from having the house repossessed (defaulted on mortgage). A bit of luck, advice from Martin Lewis's MSE website and I got through it.

Honestly, there is nothing better than being financially independent.

Yes. I earn as much as dh. Our mortgage is nearly paid off and the dc are older teens. My parents would also help me financially if necessary (which hopefully it wouldn't be).

I am the sole breadwinner, so absolutely.

Yes I could.

I've been married before and after a horrid divorce I swore I'd never be financially dependent on someone else, in fact I made sure that not only could provide for myself, but id buy my own house and make sure I have a good pension.

It's the one thing I always make sure I bang home to my dd, that she needs to be financially secure in her own right.

Yes I've never been financially dependent on a man. I could also house and support ds