AIBU speaking to the nursery about another child's illness?

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As the title suggests we seem to be suffering with multiple nursery illnesses. My DD is 18 months old and has been going to nursery for 6 months, 3 days a week

DD started with the usual illnesses pretty quick coughs, colds hand foot and mouth. I accept this is part and parcel of nursery and will boost her immune system however as we have no other childcare me and my partner have had to take alot of time off work, again this is an annoyance but was expected the first year at nursery

My gripe is, in October she started developing what I assumed was a dummy rash, I noticed a child with a rash around their mouth but it was 10x worse and was very scabby and sore looking. Well suprise suprise my DD woke up the next day to something very similar, we went to the drs and were given antibiotics and advised we had to keep her off nursery until it cleared as it was highly contagious. After a week I took her back and the same child was sat there with the rash looking even bigger and more painful. I commented to one of the staff members it was similar to what we had and maybe they should advise the parents to go to the drs as it was highly contagious.

So fast forward to this morning, I do drop off and the same child has either what looked like a cold sore or the same rash forming again on his mouth. AIBU if I speak to the nursery and ask if whatever he has is contagious? I just dont want my DD catching the rash or a cold sore and being so poorly again if it can be avoided to an extent

I’m 59 so parenting all doen……All 3 of my children grown and flown …,took care of them just lovely…..my 3 GD now being taken care of just lovely as well…..and guess what….they went to nursery when they weren’t 100% ….they now go to school when they aren’t 100%….such is life ……..yours will all grow up little ❄️s 🤣🤣🤣

You have no idea what the other child’s medical complaints are or what treatment they are undergoing. The first year of nursery is brutal for bugs you just need to crack on best you can and save your sanity.

advised we had to keep her off nursery until it cleared as it was highly contagious

By the doctor? Did you ask nursery?

Where we are, we have one central nursery that is quite strict on illnesses, and one that is more lax. Obviously the more lax one is more convenient for parents, but there's more illnesses that go around. The other means you have your child home more if they're more sickly, but they pick up less things from nursery.

As others have said, nursery won't discuss someone elses' medical information with you, and if you've noticed it, they have too.

We've been at nursery for 16 months now and so far have only bought home two illnesses, a cold and a vomiting bug, which I think is really lucky so far - but it's probably really personal to the child and their immune system, as well as what bugs are going around.

Imagine the schools response if you kept a child off for weeks with a cough! Fever or vomiting diarrhoea or anything actively contagious yes keep off or they'll send them home otherwise they want them in.
Awkward about the rash but no they can't discuss it with you. What kind of contagious rash is it ?

This. Not just the first year either mine is 2.5 and it's all started again this autumn

If it's impetigo then yes contagious! Starting antibiotics and should be fine within a few days. Not sure what to do about it though

Only until 24 hours after you start antibiotics. At 18 months old my son has the impetigo rash for over 6 months - the actual infection had gone (went for blood tests etc) but my son's skin tastes a good while to repair itself. If he nicks himself shaving now he'll have a scab for weeks!

Nice story you’ve made up there. Neither you, nor op have any idea a)what the illness is that the child has, or b) whether they’ve sought medical treatment. Why make up unpleasant things about a situation you have literally no insight into?