I would not be moving your baby. My DH has told me, many times, that unless he knows its his turn to be getting up, then he is quite able to sleep through her crying. If I nudge him and ask him to go to her, he happily will. If he knows its his turn to get up over night, then he hears her straight way.
Our DD was in a moses basket then cot in our bedroom until she was almost a year old. We had no choice as were in a bed flat until the, however, I'd still have kept her next to us for at least 6 months.
Firstly, the SIDS guidelines have been developed and researched thoroughly, so are what they are for a good reason. Secondly, I'd have thought that having your baby so close, so you can easily get up and comfort is less disruptive than hearing a baby cry for longer, whilst you register him crying from your sleep, get yourself up, wander down corridor to him, etc etc..
I totally get the whole thing of DH going out to work so does need his sleep too. my DH was only home at weekends as he works away in the week, so I was very aware of him needing sleep as he had such long drive to come home. However, he did not want me going without sleep either!
Just because I wasn't going out to work every day, doesn't mean I didn't need as much sleep as possible! I was feeding her every 2 hours up until about 5 months, then still at least twice a night until very recently. She's 15 months now and only just sleeping through 5 out of 7 nights.
my Dh recognised my need for sleep being as important as his, or else i'd be a crap mother, and a grumpy partner to him
So, i'd really have to say, don't move your son. Keep him with you, as you are the one getting up to him, why should you have to be so completely disturbed too? its a time of huge change for you and your DH, lots of things to learn, to get used to and to tolerate. Sleep deprivation is one of them. It is also something that you really get used to, trust me! you do not feel the same for long, it just isn't as tiring for long as your body adapts to it more. Additionally, your DH will get better at tuning out the noise, if that is what you are happy for him to do. If he knows you are always going to get up to your son, then before long, he just won't hear him, unless you nudge him and want him too.
Lastly, I just want to add, since when did all this come about? this whole thing of trying to get your child to sleep through the night as early as possible? I am not asking you OP, this, its a general question!
I mean, it comes with the territory of having a child under a year old. Baby= sleepless/deprived nights. Its what happens, its what has always happened. They are this little and i need of you for such a short time in their lives. They don't need you in the same way for the rest of their lives! You are not still jumping up and down to your 18 year old all night. Yes, you always have half an ear open alert all night for the rest of your life as parent, but not in the same way as when they are tiny babies. Perhaps we need to all bare that in mind more. Trust me, i've been there with the no sleep and know exactly how horrendous it feels. So i'm saying this with experience. As soon as I told myself this, I honestly did't feel so bad about it. I didn't feel resentment at 4 am! I actually miss it sometimes, when I wake up and she's slept all night. someting I never thought I'd be saying. I guess it felt like such a special intimate time with her, and still does. Just me and my Dd, lying on the bed, with the moon light coming in, really close, and quiet. ( once she's stopped crying of course ) I enjoy it now.