Is it chasing if I always text first ?

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CleverOpalPanda · 04/12/2024 18:14

Met a guy ,at first he would message me constantly until I started showing interest.He didn’t speak to me for a week and I texted him ,since then it is me texting first apart from a few occasions he has called me after texting him.Is he comfortable now and taking me for granted ?he might think it’s ok as I haven’t complained due to it being still quite casual and not a relationship but it bothers me.haven’t said anything as I don’t want to seem bothered or clingy.Generally I text once every 5 days or so and he responds.I really like him and don’t know how to let go and I certainly don’t want to play games but don’t want to be taken for granted either.

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MumOfOneAllAlone · 09/12/2024 14:54

Sorry, op, I think you should leave it. He’s a twat if you keep on contacting him you’re gonna look like the crazy party. x

SoNiceToComeHomeTo · 09/12/2024 22:41

CleverOpalPanda · 04/12/2024 18:37

@PrincessAnne4Eva
the day I told him I had texted him good morning and he called me ,I didn’t see the call so called later ,he said he is gone call as soon as he is free.I waited a few hours and asked him if he wants to stop this and this is his way of showing me ?he got upset by this.He said his mum died and I can’t think who would lie about this ,she was sick for weeks and he had talked in the past how he is very close to her.I think I became inpatient and that turned him a bit off

Sorry but losing a parent or a good friend, or a child being seriously injured, is exactly the sort of thing some people on dating apps lie about in order to get off the hook either short- or long-term. It is shocking, but I've seen several instances of it quite recently.

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