To ask for opinions on these age gaps?

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I’ve got no kids - but am interested in what you think - my best mate from college is expecting her 5th in March.

By the time new baby’s born - her existing kids will be the following ages :

15
9
5
3
Opinions on this family structure?

Why?

Sounds fine to me. Every set up has pros and cons.

Interest that’s all

Mumsnet would have a lot of family oriented types

I just wonder how stressful my friend finds family life

she’ll always be one of my role models - she’s run a marathon etc and a few years ago she was my main weight loss inspiration ❤️🙌

Thank you. I agree with you

Cross-posted.

Would instinctively judge that as none of my business.

Different strokes for different folks. Some people like tiny age gaps to get all the baby stuff out of the way quickly. Others would really struggle with that and space them out more. There isn't a one size fits all.

Not at all. I think it seems a great family structure

I just want to know what actual parents think or if not parents - people with generally more ‘family’ experience than me

This is such a strange thread to start without any context on why you would ask such a thing about someone else.

Has your friend been receiving unpleasant comments from someone?

She was 18 having her first and is now 34

as I say - it seems great - but would it be hard work ?

You seem confused by the simplest things OP.

With such a big spread of ages I'd find it hard to keep them all happy on holidays/days out etc. Five would be hard work regardless though!

Such a weird post. So your friend is having another dc. She is 34. Ummm. Am I missing something here? What is the point of the post? What do you want to know about the age gaps? They seem pretty generic

Does she know that you've posted on mumsnet about her future family structure. If not, you're weird.

You first.

What do you think of this family structure?
What have you posted about it on Mumsnet?

Why did you post about this one and didn't post about one of your other friends family structures?

I think it’s a lovely spread of ages but people are different in their opinions

No you don't, you feel like she's done something wrong and want mumsnet backup for your feelings of smug superiority.

This couldn’t be further from the truth

No - why on earth would someone want to make unpleasant comments ?

So why do you care?

Why didn't you ask what my favourite colour of lightbulb is?

There are a billion pointless questions you could ask, why are you invested in this one?

Just interested in how this kind of age spread is perceived

I think it’s lovely

I think 4 children would be hard enough, let alone 5. I assume she is very well off and lives in at least a 6 bedroom house to be able to house that number of children?
Do all the children have the same father? Asking because there's a large gap between first and second, and fairly large between second and third.

Because people DO have opinions (including unpleasant ones) on all manner of things and some are not shy to express them. Especially when it comes to women and motherhood.

And it would provide some context on why you've started this strange and random thread.

Sounds busy and tiring but exciting. I often wonder what a big family would be like as I was only 1 when my sibling was born so don’t remember it.

I imagine it’s hard to find peace and quiet, and hard to please everyone for family days out. Also hard to get everyone into the car.

My aunty and uncle had 10 years between each of theirs - so the eldest was 20 and the middle was 10 when they had the third.

No - sadly is not at all well off

certainly no 6 bed house

all same father

This post feels weird but I’m biting. My sibling has a similar range with 5dc although they are older now and the youngest is coming up to 14, the older two have started their own families, It’s fine, it worked for them and their circumstances.