Husband is stupid and aggressive

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Probably wording that wrong.

Beginning to think my husband is just completely thick. Just 3 examples from this weekend....

Went to Christmas tree farm....got on this sleigh thing, girl driving it said do not stand up, signs saying do not stand up, husband stood up to take a video...

Got back to place to pay after we got tree, young guy asked would you like us to put a hole in it for the stand...husband ignored him for the first time, then second and third time told him 'yes ill hold it for you' 🙄🙄 he has no hearing difficulties just doesn't listen.

Then my son this evening said Dad got lost taking me to my match yesterday....this was a HOME match that is 3km from our house...there is a big huge well known hotel right beside the pitch. Son has had 15 matches there this season and he still got lost going there yesterday. He said his Google maps didn't work. Then got up in a temple, flung a door open causing a dent in the wall, roaring and shouting at me to take him to matches in the future (which i will be!!!) They were 12 mins late yesterday, our house is about a 6 min drive from it.

My daughter was crying because she wanted him downstairs to watch us turn on the Christmas lights. He doesn't care he upset her, it's all my fault apparently. I am so sick of him.

For background he has a very demanding job which requires a lot of concentration etc no bother delivering there but absolutely useless at home. My daughter has drama the same time my sons matches are on usually but I guess I'll have to ask my Mum to bring her. I might as well be a single parent.

I am a stickler for good punctuality. Husband is not. I consider it bad manners. He just doesn't care or blames my son for delaying them.

Thanks for reading x

Nah, he's just an arsehole!

Yes although we had a couple of arguments like every couple it was never like this. He was always very stubborn though. At start he was very thoughtful and romantic. He is ambitious and can be funny. He has always struggled with weight and emotional eating. He can be very focused and productive but only when it suits him.

This 😂😂 always at work. He works in a stressful role but nothing in particular no. He's sending messages today because I said i won't go to the work event tomorrow that he's 'not changing his position' and that he was ridiculed in his own home by me and children. He thinks it's just a 'simple mistake' that he got lost on a 3km drive that he had been to 10 times before. I said we weren't ridiculing and sorry if he felt that way. Usual thing on my side trying to make things right...but he said no 'I was ridiculed'

This is actually laughable if it wasn't my own marriage 😞

Thank you

Yes he is saying now I am stopping him going to the matches. I dont know what else he wants from me. He clearly cannot get there on time. DS was already spoken to about punctuality through no fault of his own. He is never ever late when i bring him to football or anything. My daughter does 6 activities, never late to anything.

MN the one stop shop for simple answers 😊

Sometimes you have to call it like you see it. No complicated analysis required.

Look, OP.

If you leave this arsehole, you and your kids might not benefit that well from his financial provisions,
but the peace your kids would experience would be worth it and you would see for yourself.
It really makes so much difference.

And a bit of my own opinion at 45 yo - most men make women's lives more difficult than they would be without their involvement.
Doesn't apply to my 75 yo husband.
Seriously, leave.
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I feel like this is a blog at this point 😂🙈
I'm going to this work family thing only for my children. My DD burst out crying last night saying our family isn't the same anymore and we don't do stuff together etc. ...this was before I even mentioned not going today.
I'm doing it only for my kids. I absolutely can't stand him anymore but its Xmas and I can't break her heart. Also my cousin works for same company as husband so ill enjoy chatting to him and family, we get along great so I'm hoping to just get through it.

Also, It's a massive company, 800 people attending the party so I don't trust him to find his way around or mind the kids especially youngest.

Wish me luck, thanks to one and all on this thread, believe it or not you have kept me sane these past few days ❤️

Are you sure he's not struggling with dementia here (or early signs of?). Seriously - not being able to find something that he's been to loads of times before, getting lost, getting angry, the disconnect..........there's stuff here......that could be more than just being a cckwomble. It's the anger bit might be the give-away?. And maybe he's worried at work because he's suddenly off the pace or there's been a mistake and he's trying to grasp the fact that he can't understand how? I'm just saying - it could be a telltale. He's probably just an arsehole as everyone else is saying but......maybe there's another side to this. The lack of hearing......might not be deafness.......it might something a bit more sinister.....mini-stroke?......that he's secretly seriously worried about but its manifesting itself in anger.........Just an alternative thought.

He is a worthless motherfucking cunt. Just dump him already before it gets worse. Think of the children.