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Why is referring to an OP's previous posts considered A Bad Thing?

54 replies

JFDIYOLO · 01/12/2024 11:15

Just that, really.

AIBU to think it makes perfect sense and allows a more realistic response?

An OP posts a question, asks opinion and advice.

People do them the courtesy of spending time thinking about it and writing an answer.

A poster mentions they've looked at their previous posts which contain a lot of pertinent info, back story, repeated incidents etc etc which weren't included in the current post.

This informs the advice they then give.

Why have I so often seen others haranguing them for going down the previous (entirely public) posts?

It seems very sensible - to get the facts before wading in to answer something that only gives a fragment of the true picture.

What do you think?

OP posts:
247BabyMachine · 01/12/2024 14:09

DrunkTinkerbell40s · 01/12/2024 14:08

How do you even see someone's previous posts??? I can never seem to work that out!

Just search for their username in advanced search

Lurkingandlearning · 01/12/2024 14:13

I see your point about background being useful for advice in terms of continuity. But as others have said it often seems like people are trying to fact check and accuse OP of lying. I’ve also noticed comments like, “you posted about this before and were given advice then” as if wanting to raise an argument issue a second time is tiresome, when people could just scroll past. Sometimes people need to talk about things more than once.

It often seems stalkerish as you said. It almost always comes across mean spirited imo

northernsouldownsouth · 01/12/2024 14:17

Because it's quite often done to try and humiliate or undermine the poster
Some people get real glee from pointing out a contradiction compared to a previous post

It can be quite unpleasant at times

FuckILookLike · 01/12/2024 14:29

TeenLifeMum · 01/12/2024 11:17

Usually it’s done by someone trying to catch people out. Someone did it to me and I’d said something had happened in a time frame and then about 2 years later a referred to the incident and my time frame was a month different to my previous post and someone was like “ah ha, you’re lying”. Nope, just have a full time job and 3dc so couldn’t remember the exact month the thing happened in more than 2 years earlier.

I’ve never seen it done in a kind/helpful way.

Exactly! It’s never done in a helpful way, more of a, ‘you’re lying and here’s the proof’ kind of way. It’s quite strange actually

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