To be worried about this increase in libido(?) when in sight of a sportsman?

[HighestCatcher]

I'm 54, long time happily married, 3 adult DC.

I've never had a high sex drive, never fancy sex though throughly enjoy it when I have it.

In the past year or so I've become completely aroused while watching a certain player compete in sport. Totally twanging loins, uncomfortably so.

It's both televised and in person, though a lot more obvious when it's real life presence. I think I feel it when I see him on television because it's become habitual or associated with remembered feelings.

I watch this sport regularly both locally and at international (set in England) whilst sitting next to DH and I feel like a teenager with a pash, but it's a more physical rather than lovestruck reaction.

Actually starting to think of stopping watching the sport, which will be hard to come up with a plausible reason to cover the truth.

AIBU to think this is concerning?

YABU - this is a weird, something to be concerned about.

YANBU, accept it's part of hormonal vagaries?

I'm sad.

Enjoy it!!!
Use it as a springboard to lovely times with your dh!

Why are you sad? You found something which turns you on, use it! Have sex with your hubby while "under the influence" of this newfound trigger.

It's normal. Use your husband as an outlet.

What's weird about being turned on by an attractive human? The fact that you think it's weird is weird.

Why not, I've been single for so long, lusting after hot men happens daily for me 😅

The reason I think it's weird is because I'm old and have never experienced this before.

It sounds awesome. I’d roll with it.

54 is not old!

(I hope)

Perfectly normal, and just means that everything is still working as it should x

Normal. Every time I see an actor I fancy I can't contain myself.

Oh, well jel, enjoy 😘

Who is it!

Who is it? Let's have a look

I think I probably mean past child bearing age, so I would have expected my already low sex drive to be reducing, not being stimulated in certain situations, if you see what I mean?

Take it out on DH. I'm sure he won't mind :)

Provided you will never meet or interact with this person in real life then I wouldn't worry, roll with it and use it to fuel your time with DH.
If it was a 'real' person that you know or work with or have any interest other than physical then it would be a problem.
I get why you are a bit freaked out though, I've never gotten turned on by a stranger so would be confused and alarmed if I randomly did now!

I understand that you find it a strange situation because it's been outside of your lived experience up till now.

For example many people who lust after pop stars probably feel this way and have been doing so since their teens.

Don't feel in any way guilty towards your husband, if that's what you are worried about.

Menopause

In my experience, now being past child-bearing age has had a HUGE positive impact on my libido. I suspect it’s because I no longer associate sex with danger of getting pregnant. I see sex as pure recreation / enjoyment. My libido has sky-rocketed.
I too have discovered an almost insane fetish for men doing a particular sport. It’s very distracting when trying to drive! 🙈

When I started peri menopause I also found I went through a VERY 'busy' phase! 🤗. Now it's done, I thoroughly enjoy admiring and imagining and hope I always will.

There's an Instagram account called gainlinesfitness and oh good heavens. I say. Gosh. Just leaving that there.

Yep I'm well into menopause and it has not at all had a negative effect on libido.

A reel of French rugby player Charles Ollivon came up on my FB feed this week.
Dear God, 6'6" and 18 stone of rugby honed muscle, with the finest bum I have ever seen on a man.
OP, I totally know where you are coming from!

I see your gainlines and ollivons and I raise you swfarriers

I think this is a totally normal aspect of human sexuality. Taylor Kinney in his fireman getup rescuing people from burning buildings on Chicago Fire inspires similar in me! 😂

You’ve no plans to do anything to disrupt your marriage because of it, being attracted to an attractive person is entirely to be expected! Especially if we’re married to middle aged men who have become one with the sofa…

I know, those lucky horse owners! Plus he has a Yorkshire accent, ( but I'm a bit biased there)😉