To ask a question about your parents if they have passed away?

[girlfriend44]

I was just wondering if your parents are no longer alive, do any of their friends keep in touch with you?

Did you know your parents friends very well?
Did you keep in touch? Do you invite them to events?
My answer is no it never happened.

Mr Girlfriend 44s mums best friend kept in touch for a while after his mum died and was invited to a family christening.
It all fizzled out though and she probably isn't alive herself now.

I lost my dad 32 years ago in his early 60s so all of his friends were around that age. None of them kept in touch with my mam.

I lost my mam last year aged 93. I think her friends had passed away themselves by that point.

My mum died this year age 90, her best friend of 60 years keeps in touch and checks in every couple of weeks. It's nice to chat about mum with someone who knew her so well.

Yes, but they are also parents of my schoolfriends and almost like second parents to me. I caught up with 3 lots of them in person earlier in the year, onclyding staying over with one couple. I was thinking about Christmas cards to them earlier today. If I were to get married (unlikely, I'm in my 50s now,) they'd definitely be on the guest list.

Lost my mum a few years ago - she was only late fifties. I'm still in touch with a small number of her friends. Mostly not in touch frequently but for special occasions and I chose to invite a few of them to my wedding to sort of represent her.

My mother died nearly 40 years ago and my father 12 years ago.

None of their friends keep in touch and TBH I wouldn't expect them to.

Vaguely, a few of them use Facebook and one in particular always comments and ‘loves’ it if I put a photo up which is lovely. But generally no.

Yeah some of my mums friends still message me regularly a year later to check in on me. I never met up with them lots as an adult but they've known me since I was born and I was around them when young alot. I've not had any events since she died to invite them to.

Yes, my mums best friends and siblings have been massively supportive towards us. I hope we always stay close; we were relatively distant before just due to having our own lives but I think we find each other a source of comfort.

I lost both parents in 2020. Mum's best friend still gets in touch every few months but I see dad's closet friend quite a bit as he lives just across the road from me.

No they don't

My dad died a couple of years ago. A friend of his came to the funeral and we keep in touch on FB (his wife also taught me History at school).

My mum's friends kept in touch. Some of it fizzled out but I still speak regularly with two of them and my dad invited them and their families for Christmas this year... But they were always more of a family to us than some of our relatives, I called them both "aunt" as a kid.

My mom's sister, on the other hand, has broken off all contact

My mum is still alive, but got diagnosed with Alzheimer’s over 10 years ago when she was 50. Her friends are all alive - she was very sociable and helped lots of them out over the years. One visits her maybe once a year (she’s in a care home now) and texts me after that. So does another friend. One literally sends me a Christmas card to give her (she hasn’t been able to read for years). No one else does anything and I find it really sad they don’t ever ask me “how’s your mum? And how are you?” - especially the ones who I’d see a lot growing up, had at my wedding and round to meet my kids when I had them etc. So once she does pass, I don’t imagine anyone will stay in touch!

My dad died 8 years ago but I didn't really know any of his friends so no.

My mum died last year and some of her friends have been around all of my life. None of them have kept in touch with me. I haven't with them either but I thought some might, especially those who particularly seemed to love her. I expected some might check in on me from time to time.

If one of my friends died, I'd make sure to check in with their children.

We lost my dad a few years ago. His best friend called into mum with a lovely photo a while after but other than that no one has kept in touch. I wouldn't have expected them to - they were his friends not ours, I never met most of them. Some of them were really lovely when he was sick and when he died though (during covid so not much people could do really). No one has behaved badly, people just drift when the link is gone.

I still regularly have lunch with my mum's bridesmaid. The wedding was in the 1950s. It's lovely to share stories about my mum.

I lost my mum last year, in her 60's a very very short time after cancer diagnosis. I'm mid 30's and nursed her at home until she passed. Very traumatic all round. Her closest/best friend, who's known me all my life, through every stage of all our lives over 30 odd years and was more like an aunty to me, hasn't replied to my last two messages sent in May. Two of her church friends have kept in touch every few months, which has been nice. One I think holds off messaging me too much as she doesn't want to bother me. Very disappointed with the best friend if I'm honest and I know my mum would be too.

Most of my parents' contemporaries have also passed away, but I am in touch with the ones who are still alive, yes. We have a shared love of cats in common. We live in different countries so meeting up is not straightforward, but we communicate online and share photos, and on those rare occasions when I go back to my home country, I get in touch and try to arrange a visit. So far that's failed because they travel widely in summer and are usually somewhere in the depths of France when I'm around.

My dad died when I was 19. He didn’t have many friends (not lonely, just happy with my mum and what he had) but they didn’t keep in touch - tbf it would have been strange if they had, I was off to uni and we would have had little in common.

Mum's best friends take me for dinner twice a year but are always available if I need them in between. I call them my Aunties and I'd never be without them

No not at all.

Dad had a friend that lived overseas. They used to phone each regularly they'd known each other a long time.

When my dad went into a care home I notified his friend and his wife.

That was the end of that. Didn't even send a Christmas card or anything. They had the care home address.

When dad died I emailed and let them know. They said thanks for letting us know and that was the end of that.
It was as if as soon as dad had gone into.the care home that was the end of communications.

My mum had only a few very close friends. I am still sort of in touch with her oldest friend via FB. I know I could call her and that she'd be there for me (and me for her) if we needed. I hadn't really thought about it much until this post.
I might drop her a message.

I'd find it odd if any of my dead parents' friends had wanted to keep in touch with me.
I had no idea anyone would think of it.

My mum died in 2020 and her family haven't even bothered keeping in contact with me! More of her friends did with my dad but he's really crap at talking to people, frustratingly, so they've mostly disappeared too.