To ask a question about your parents if they have passed away?

[girlfriend44]

I was just wondering if your parents are no longer alive, do any of their friends keep in touch with you?

Did you know your parents friends very well?
Did you keep in touch? Do you invite them to events?
My answer is no it never happened.

Mr Girlfriend 44s mums best friend kept in touch for a while after his mum died and was invited to a family christening.
It all fizzled out though and she probably isn't alive herself now.

In my family's case any contact just fizzled out after a while when my parents died.

I'd love to know that my friends' children would like to keep in contact with me if I outlast their parents. I've been there for their whole lives and they almost feel like my own.

No. Dementia killed all my mums friendships off before she actually died, sadly. My dad died when I was a teen so no again.

It's not odd if you know their friends.

Sorry for you loss OP

My father died suddenly at 47, leaving my mum to raise me at 15 and my SEN brother who was 11. At dads funeral, lots of his colleagues and 'friends' mum and dad had socialised with, had come to our house for a meal, been out with etc promised all sorts. 'If mum needed anything, to let them know', 'We are here to help' etc. Never to be seen or heard from again. It sadly seems a common occurrence really.

I think it depends what you mean by 'keep in touch'.

Yes, I am still in touch with a few, but they are people who were like (and known as) 'Aunty and Uncle' to us.
It would be strange if friends who were friends with my parents without being close to us kept in touch though, I think.
Then there are those that I see at the odd event, who will always speak and ask how the family are, and reminisce about how they miss my parents.

There was a time when I would see people at funerals of other people.
My parents would be mid 90s now though, so there aren't many friends to keep in touch.

My DM died 6 years ago age 62. I still see three of her best friends sporadically. Maybe once a year, we will meet up for lunch or go out for the day.

They are all lovely and like aunties. I'd say two of them I really like for their personalities the others I have less in common with. Only one has children and I'm closer to the mum than them.

They send birthday/Xmas gifts to me and my DD3.

My mother was 83 when she died. Most of her friends are dead. My Dad is still alive and now 95 - all his friends are dead. So that's a no.

My mum died in an accident 10 years ago and I am in regular contact with several of her friends. They are an amazing group of women that were really close and friends from their 20s so were my “other mums” when I was growing up. We were all in and out of each other’s houses, holiday together etc. As kids we had a fabulous time.

When mum died they just scooped me up and cared for me until I was able to recover from the shock and breathe. Even though they were all heartbroken too they were there for me and my family without hesitation.

They are still in regular contact now and I speak to them all regularly. I feel blessed to be surrounded by these amazing women.

My dad died when he was 36 and I was a small child. He had 3 siblings who didn't keep in touch. Now I'm an adult I can't imagine just losing touch with my young nieces and nephews if my sibling were to die. Admittedly this was in the 90s and they lived abroad so it must have been much harder... but it is still weird to me.

Yes - but they are people I knew well. People who's kids I grew up with, not just any friends of my parents.

My mother died 40 years ago and I used to visit one friend every time I revisited my home town until she died about 8 years ago. Her two other friends I exchange Christmas cards with.

My DH mum died when he was a teenager. I never met her but I certainly met her best friend. Amazing lady who didn't have kids of her own but made sure DH and his sibling were ok. When we got married she was our guest of honour. Wonderful woman I am very lucky to know