To wish DH was not working from home on my day off?

[greatbellofbow]

Rare day off awarded as a goodwill gesture. And DH is working from home. Which means I will spend the day feeling like I’m in the way in my own home!

Haha, I completely relate to that. Almost feels like you're getting the side eye, even though he probably doesn't care!

Totally get it. I'd crack on with what I'd planned to blitz. I do have a cleaner and have to simply shut the door and not have the space cleaned, or move around the house when possible so she can get on with it so I would draw the line at a kango hammer but otherwise he'll have to manage.

Do try and have a sit down at some point though and enjoy the results before the toddler comes home and demolishes it !

I get it too. DH is working at home today and keeps popping out to ask technical questions (we work in the same field), rant about his team, request cups of tea, etc etc. I'm actually on childcare today not a day off but it's still annoying.

My preschooler is scared of the hoover and the cobweb duster so weekend cleaning is challenging!

When my partner works from home I'm the same, feel like I have to tiptoe around
Even worse because I've got 4 small kids running round like headless chickens and I'm trying my best to keep everyone as quiet as possible 😂
Honestly if I had a free day to be cleaning I absolutely would, especially with Christmas coming up
So yeah I'd probably feel exactly the same tbh
If I were you, I'd just get some headphones or something on and just get cracking with the Christmas tunes 🎄

I get you OP. I’m a SAHM and my older child is at pre school only 2 days a week and if my husband wfh on those days (particularly this week he said Monday would be an office day and it wasn’t) it’s so awful, it’s disrupts my whole day. I can’t do chores as he comes down all the ducking time to comment on them and pick our baby up and then pass me the baby as I’m doing chores and argh the whole thing is annoying. He’s in out in out. A house to oneself is bliss!!!

Oh I totally get you. Empty house time is just different, even if the other person isn't making any noise!

DH works from home one day a week... he is here today. We have one room plus galley kitchen downstairs, so he is sat clickety clacking away on his computer (headphones in) whilst I - retired, but still not bloody doing everything all day - watch vicar of Dibley... put washing on, clean kitchen, sort out dishwasher, put up xmas lights outside... "pootle about".

We discussed the "work from home" day, and came to the conclusion that it is our home, it may be noisy. I wouldn't have friends round that day... but I don't tiptoe around.

If you don't want to work in your house, don't. Someone else working in it doesn't affect your ability to live and relax in it. I've WFH since 2009 and have never had any issue also relaxing in the same building or even room.

Does your husband ever get the house to himself, I wonder?

Have you got any headphones ?

Gannett you know stay at home mums isn’t literal?

I hate headphones. Really don’t like anything in my ears.

I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes it's so nice to be at home, on your own. It's a different league of peace and quiet.

Not everyone feel like you, you do know that right. I have a stressful noisy job and need to be on my own in complete silence every now and again. I know research says 10 minutes a day is enough for the brain to actually start healing from noise, but I need more. And that is all noise.

Exactly. It’s no other person going to get a glass of water or going to the toilet or whatever, even if doing it quietly.

A home is not an office. But somehow pretending the home is an office trumps the home being a home where kids make noise, the dog barks, l hoover, I play loud music when doing housework. Particularly when endless teams meetings are involved and me and the kids are expected to creep around.

Fuck that. I don't want to be told to be quiet if my home environment is different to an office. I didn't want my STBEX to proxy police my and family behaviour on behalf of employers that did not contribute to the cost of the family home. If I moved my family into the office they could police my behaviour but not by using my home as an office without consent and then pretending this was a favour.

Yeah 2 days a week I’m out with the kids at various things

Thoughts and prayers op. It is a fucking travesty when this happens. I hate it.

@greatbellofbow my DH never works from home on my day off! It's the rules! I attempt to get some cleaning done (boring!) which means headphones in and singing loudly!! He hates it so stays away!

It cost money to hire another office to work in. Rental isn’t cheap. Almost our whole office work from home. It’s very common. We only go in one day a week and it’s voluntary. Most of my team aren’t in the same office as me anyway.

Did he change his plans to be at home or does he always work from home that day?

Yep I don't like it either. I like to have music on while I potter and I also feel cos he's working (and he has a very busy and stressful job) I have to make him cups of tea and lunch (he doesn't take a lunch break). I'd rather just please myself instead

I know exactly what you mean

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