To be concerned about this member of staff at the nursery??

[RaspberryJammy]

I work in a nursery and I’m starting to get concerns about a member of staff. I never see her interacting with the children really or doing very much. When they are crying she tells them ‘you can have a cuddle but only if you stop that crying, I don’t want to hear it’. She is quite harsh with them. She’s also quite rough when trying to steer them away from something, just pretty much grabs them and pushes them away and I’ve heard her raise her voice quite a lot at them, pretty much shouting. When of the little boys today was upset and she said his cry was ‘pathetic’. She seems to have no sense of wanting to comfort them or see what’s wrong, she just gets frustrated at them. Aibu to feel she is being harsh and have concerns?

Perfect response! @RaspberryJammy this is great supportive non hysterical advice. I hope you’re ok, it’s a very difficult thing to do but knowing you’ve raised it will give you peace of mind.

Have a word with your manager OP.

Me too.

I work in a school and there is an imbedded culture of being curious and speaking up and therefore all of us know how to report and are encouraged to do so even at a very low level.

She’s evidently in the wrong job. I’d def, have a word with the manager. I dare say it’s not easy to recruit the most suitable staff, though.

Please do report OP. Abuse like this tends to escalate and children in her care could be in danger if she's left alone with them.

Sorry, not to be impolite but who is it that you feel is evidently in the wrong job - the new young employee who doesn't understand why another colleague's inappropriate behaviour towards the children is tolerated and is trying to gain advice about what to do to bring this up? Or the colleague who is doing the inappropriate behaviour towards the children?