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Original poster

To not expect DP to come in from work at 6.30 and get in the bath for an hour!!!!

42 replies

lucyellensmum · 28/04/2008 19:52

Yes, he was dusty from work but an HOUR??? When was the last time I had an hour long bath before 11pm thats what id like to know. Not only that, DD wont be bathed tonight because it is too late now - if i have a bath during the day, i have a ten minute wash down - he gets to relax with cup of coffee (that i made him) and leave me to prepare DDs tea, whilst trying to keep her from pestering daddy in the bath........

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nametaken · 28/04/2008 19:54

couldn't she have got in with him.

When my husband was in the bath I used to send all 3 of my little ones in with him

emkana · 28/04/2008 19:54

you are SO not unreasonable

I would be flipping mad

scottishmummy · 28/04/2008 19:56

oh ease up! he has been at work and obviously needed it. your dd wont expire because no bath tonight.have a chat and glass of wine with DH

moondog · 28/04/2008 19:56

Deffo kids in wirh him.
Jesus, there are some tossers about!

rookiemater · 28/04/2008 19:57

Oh what is it about OHs and their washing times. In the time it takes DH to shower in the morning I am washed dressed, made up and have got DS up and dressed as well ( unless I have to wash and dry my hair in which case it takes me ages)
YANBU send your DD in to splash around with Daddy.

Original poster
lucyellensmum · 28/04/2008 19:57

nametaken, now theres a thought but he was covered in brick dust and lime so not great for DD.

He does this whenever he says "do you mind if i have a QUICK bath" , which of course i don't but at bedtime, when im knackered after looking after narky two year old who is going to bed too late because HE can't get himself organised - grrrrrr

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Gobbledigook · 28/04/2008 19:58

Umm, it would depend what mood I was in.

I'm quiet on the work front atm so had all the children ready for bed, homework done etc by the time dh came in so if he'd wanted a bath I wouldn't have minded.

Normally it's completely manic around that time though and I'd be livid if he bogged off for an hour to soak in the bath.

Having said that - he never moans if I want to go and lie in the bath.

scottishmummy · 28/04/2008 19:59

so he has been doing physical work covered in brick dust and you begrudge him a bath.Sheesh

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lucyellensmum · 28/04/2008 20:00

To be fair, he is pretty helpful and does bedtime everynight because DD wont have me . So apart from this, oh and this really annoying thing he does - he picks all the fluff off of his socks into the bath and then doesnt rinse it away - oh fuck it, im leaving

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onepieceoflollipop · 28/04/2008 20:00

rookiemater perhaps it is not just the time in the shower, I find it is shaving, contact lens and "toilet" time as well. Or is that just in our house?

I leap in and out of the shower (several times) to check out the latest wail/shriek/bump from teh dcs!

tassisssss · 28/04/2008 20:01

Threads like this remind me of how wonderful my dh is (and how much i expect of him!)

i would be seriously unimpressed at this.

Have to say that dh came in one night recently at about 5pm and I promptly disappeared off to the bath with my book, but I feel that's different somehow! And I was joined shortly afterwards by my adorable 19 month old!

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lucyellensmum · 28/04/2008 20:01

yes but scottishmummy, you are forgetting a very important factor here - i am the original spoilt brat!! I don't have an issue with the bath, but it doesnt take an hour to wash down and wash hair - 15 minutes tops

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notjustmom · 28/04/2008 20:02

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lucyellensmum · 28/04/2008 20:03

i'll forgive him though - cos most of the time he is superdad and my soulmate

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VacantlyPretty · 28/04/2008 20:03

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lucyellensmum · 28/04/2008 20:04

i have stewing off to a fine art dont you know

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scottishmummy · 28/04/2008 20:04

LEM have a word with yourself and stop fretting about trivia.if a working man wants to soak in the bath so what?after a day humphing and physical work i thing he deserves it

amytheearwaxbanisher · 28/04/2008 20:09

when dh does that i strip ds and chuck him in the end of the tub

scottishmummy · 28/04/2008 20:17

my boyfriend works away from home and 12-14hr days if he wants to soak for 1hr bath FAIR ENOUGH

lilolilmanchester · 28/04/2008 20:51

I'd have no problem with DH spending 30 mins or so in the bath to unwind at the end of a long day. But I do think an hour is taking the wotsit.

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lucyellensmum · 28/04/2008 20:52

fair enough yes, but not when i have specifically said that i wanted to put DD to bed early because she is exhausted from too many late nights, that have all been due to DPs working arrangements. But if DDs health is trivial, then i will catch myself on

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scottishmummy · 28/04/2008 20:55

oh unclench no one said your dd health was trivial you are in a lather about nowt.dont go huffy

amytheearwaxbanisher · 28/04/2008 20:59

no one said her health was trivial but will having a bath a day late put her health at risk?

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lucyellensmum · 28/04/2008 21:03

thats the whole point SM - it was HIM who was in a lather .

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IAmMummy · 28/04/2008 21:04

YANBU My DH does this too and it drives me mad!! He also lies around in bed instead of getting up when the alarm goes off (1 hr after I get up)and then chucks DD out of the bathroom because he's "running late" Gah!

"after a day humphing and physical work" Sorry but that made me

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