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To say that if the assisted dying bill isn't passed....

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OnceUponATimeInTheWest · 24/11/2024 14:06

that, regardless of where you personally stand on the issue, it will finally be undeniable that we do not live in a truly representative democracy at all?

Given the latest poll in the Times, it is clear that the vast majority of the population support the bill (65% for and 13% against) and yet most of the media seems to be full of story after story about this person or that coming out against it (unsurprisingly, often people with a religious background). I don't remember seeing nearly as many stories about someone telling us they support the bill. The narrative feels as though it is being steered in only one direction.

I mean, it's already fairly much clear that our elected politicians prefer to tell us what to do and what we should think, rather than actually representing our wishes. Otherwise immigration and transgender issues would not still be dominating the headlines. The fact that an amendment to remove bishops from the house of lords failed recently should also tell us that religion still plays far too much of a role in what is an overwhelmingly secular society.

If this bill fails, then anyone in future trying to tell us that we live in one of the greatest democracies in the world is, at this point, just gaslighting us.

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username8348 · 24/11/2024 17:10

Littlemissgobby · 24/11/2024 17:02

To many strawman arguments here. This bill is not about encouraging people to commit suicide no pressure at all.
You say that it's wrong to compare humans to dogs I disagree. I think when I see a dog that is suffering, the has a very bad illness. You put it down because you don't want it to suffer. I would love to be able to say that about other people too. And you talk about vulnerable people But who is going to be encourage them to do this? The law is that you're going to have to do it in front of a judge?So sadly, those who cannot even speak might not even have to have this, which I think is really sad because they don't get a choice

I wish I saw the world through rose tinted spectacles.

But who is going to be encourage them to do this?

Medical professionals who want the bed and are strapped for cash.

It's part of the bill that a Dr can raise the issue.

Relatives who are abusive or want to save cash.

People do bad things - I'm sorry to burst your bubble.

This bill won't remain as it is, it will be amended to include other disabilities and medical issues. The NHS doesn't have the resources to provide proper palliative care never mind run this appropriately.

Drs have to decide if there is coercion,not a judge and our judicial system is so underfunded there are huge backlogs.

Exploring an issue is not a 'strawman'.

AuntieJoyce · 24/11/2024 17:11

Annabella92 · 24/11/2024 17:05

It's very clear to me that given the cost of social care and the strain and enormous burden on the state the NHS is that the culture will rapidly shift and the criteria will expand even faster. It's recklessly naive to pretend otherwise. The polls say that people prefer better palliative care as an option.

It's like abortions, it needs to be signed off by two doctors that it will adversely affect the mothers mental health to continue. When was the last time a doctor didn't sign off on an abortion?

Good. Because women should be able to choose whether they want to carry a child to term or not. Just as an individual at the end of life should be able to choose whether they want to carry on living or not

MrsTerryPratchett · 24/11/2024 17:11

Annabella92 · 24/11/2024 17:05

It's very clear to me that given the cost of social care and the strain and enormous burden on the state the NHS is that the culture will rapidly shift and the criteria will expand even faster. It's recklessly naive to pretend otherwise. The polls say that people prefer better palliative care as an option.

It's like abortions, it needs to be signed off by two doctors that it will adversely affect the mothers mental health to continue. When was the last time a doctor didn't sign off on an abortion?

I think your first point is excellent. The question shouldn't be 'is this person's life intolerable?' but 'if we had proper MH and physical health provisions, pain clinics and management, great support for carers and financial support for families dealing with this, would this person's life be intolerable?' Because I think the answers are important.

I was chatting with a Canadian youth worker I know and her concern was that Canada was slowly moving towards a system where it was going to be easier for a young person with depression to get MAID than get counselling. Canada has delayed getting to this brink. But do I trust the government (this one or the last) to make sure the UK avoids this? No, I don't.

LoremIpsumCici · 24/11/2024 17:12

OnceUponATimeInTheWest · 24/11/2024 14:29

To be frank and given the format of this bill, which sets out the strictest criteria in the world, at this point this would just an excuse for someone to vote against it whilst trying to make it look as though they weren't.

The bill doesn’t set out “the strictest criteria in the world”
That was a bit of political propaganda by Leadbetter. Politicians are not subject to truth in advertising laws, which is how the Brexit bus got away with its insincere ‘promise’ to fund the NHS an extra £350m/week.

OnceUponATimeInTheWest · 24/11/2024 17:13

Annabella92 · 24/11/2024 17:08

Also, Democracies are suited to homogenous societies 10k or less.

Not millions of people from diverse backgrounds with competing interests.

Bless your cotton socks if you ever thought this was a democracy. I'm baffled it's taken you this long.

I've been aware for a long time - maybe you should re-read the opening post again (I know it's a bit long, but give it a try). I'm fed up of people telling me it is and if this bill fails, then hopefully they will stop (and at least one good thing will come from it).

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Lovelysummerdays · 24/11/2024 17:13

username8348 · 24/11/2024 16:54

You don't speak for me and are offering platitudes instead of reasoned arguments.

Human beings aren't animals, it's dehumanising to speak of people as though they're dogs. Just like it's dehumanising to pressure people into suicide because you want to save on the budget or free up a bed.

State sanctioned suicide is a seismic change in the way we view life and the value we place on it. These poorly thought out safeguards will soon loosen like other countries.

This tunnel vision where you only see how this effects you, means that others who are vulnerable could be unnecessarily killed. Try to imagine a world where it's not just you effected but other people as well.

Human beings are animals though surely? We might be at the top of the food chain and of developed all sorts of technology but at the end of the day aren’t we just mammals with an inflated sense of self importance.

I really dislike the you should suffer for the greater good arguement. Perhaps I should be entitled to die for the greater good. Save the NHS some pennies to be spent on the vulnerable.

OnceUponATimeInTheWest · 24/11/2024 17:15

LoremIpsumCici · 24/11/2024 17:12

The bill doesn’t set out “the strictest criteria in the world”
That was a bit of political propaganda by Leadbetter. Politicians are not subject to truth in advertising laws, which is how the Brexit bus got away with its insincere ‘promise’ to fund the NHS an extra £350m/week.

That's a matter of opinion. I'm afraid I disagree.

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MrsSchrute · 24/11/2024 17:15

Lovelysummerdays · 24/11/2024 17:13

Human beings are animals though surely? We might be at the top of the food chain and of developed all sorts of technology but at the end of the day aren’t we just mammals with an inflated sense of self importance.

I really dislike the you should suffer for the greater good arguement. Perhaps I should be entitled to die for the greater good. Save the NHS some pennies to be spent on the vulnerable.

But you are arguing that vulnerable people should be put at increased risk for the greater good.

LoremIpsumCici · 24/11/2024 17:15

MrsSkylerWhite · 24/11/2024 14:29

MillicentFaucet · Today 14:27
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I think that if the state wishes to get into the business of killing its citizens then it should start with murderers and paedophiles

Hyperbole. No-one is proposing the state killing its citizens. It’s a personal choice, to be carried out by the individual concerned.

It will be the state’s business though- signed off on by two state employed physicians, rubber stamped by a a state judge, the lethal dose paid for by the state health system and the dying happening in a state run hospital. NHS is cradle to grave, so it’s all done by the state.

RhaenysRocks · 24/11/2024 17:16

username8348 · 24/11/2024 16:54

You don't speak for me and are offering platitudes instead of reasoned arguments.

Human beings aren't animals, it's dehumanising to speak of people as though they're dogs. Just like it's dehumanising to pressure people into suicide because you want to save on the budget or free up a bed.

State sanctioned suicide is a seismic change in the way we view life and the value we place on it. These poorly thought out safeguards will soon loosen like other countries.

This tunnel vision where you only see how this effects you, means that others who are vulnerable could be unnecessarily killed. Try to imagine a world where it's not just you effected but other people as well.

You say "could be killed" but we don't know that. Why are we always assuming the worst will happen?

Maybe its time that we accept that not EVERYONE does value their own life above all else, that simply to exist is somehow always the preferred option. I find it terribly patronising to be told that I must want to live at all costs. Maybe one day I won't. The idea that human life is absolutely sacred and untouchable in all circumstances (including the autonomy of the individual) is, I think, an outdated one and makes no sense if you believe in evolution and are not religious. There is no fundamental, theoretical reason why a human life is more precious than an animal so if we accord animals this compassionate end, when they are not in fact, in a position to request it, why can we not do that for humans?

I'd like to ask those opposed this question: In an imaginary scenario where we COULD guarantee that no-one would be coerced or pressured, would you allow it to be an option for those who wanted it? And if so, in what circumstances? Only terminal illness, or "intolerable suffering" as in Belgium? If not, if your objections are not just based on fear of abuse, can I ask what they are please?

There are a couple of very interesting a recent documentaries on this - one was Prue Leith and her son, its on C4 and one is on iplayer and its representing the POV of the disabled community. Both are extremely thought provoking in different directions.

OnceUponATimeInTheWest · 24/11/2024 17:19

LoremIpsumCici · 24/11/2024 17:15

It will be the state’s business though- signed off on by two state employed physicians, rubber stamped by a a state judge, the lethal dose paid for by the state health system and the dying happening in a state run hospital. NHS is cradle to grave, so it’s all done by the state.

Would you be happier if it was all private then? I don't get the argument I'm afraid.

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username8348 · 24/11/2024 17:20

OnceUponATimeInTheWest · 24/11/2024 17:15

That's a matter of opinion. I'm afraid I disagree.

Why do you disagree?

MrsTerryPratchett · 24/11/2024 17:21

I'd like to ask those opposed this question: In an imaginary scenario where we COULD guarantee that no-one would be coerced or pressured, would you allow it to be an option for those who wanted it? And if so, in what circumstances? Only terminal illness, or "intolerable suffering" as in Belgium? If not, if your objections are not just based on fear of abuse, can I ask what they are please?

Yes, with reservations. Additionally, I think you need services to be available. Because 'pressure' could be pressure from people, or it could be pressure from a lack of services and unmet needs.

If you can rely on people to be killed quietly, that will cost less in end of life/MH/pain/palliative services. It incentivises poor care. Very easy to see where the invisible hand of the market will be.

sequin2000 · 24/11/2024 17:22

EmmaMaria · 24/11/2024 14:22

Given the latest poll in the Times, it is clear that the vast majority of the population support the bill (65% for and 13% against) and yet most of the media seems to be full of story after story about this person or that coming out against it (unsurprisingly, often people with a religious background)

I have faith, and I am totally in favour of assisted dying provided there are safeguards in place. I am appalled at a society that allows me to be kinder to my dog than I can be to myself. I speak to many people of faith in favour of it. Please don't assume that what the media portrays is actual life - people of faith are just as complex as anyone without it, and the people the media choose to speak on the subject are exactly that - their choice.

As an aside, I was watching Joy on Netflix last night (go watch it anyone who hasn't - it's fascinating) and was utterly shocked that in the 1970's some churches / church people opposed IVF because it was interfering with God's will. That's within my lifetime. At some point, maybe not now but in the near future, we will look on not having assisted dying in the same horrified way that I felt seeing how opposed some people - not just those of faith, but also leading scientists and the media - were to the idea of IVF.

IVF is still against Church teaching in the Catholic Church amongst others.
Since IVF has a relatively low success rate it will often end in unintended abortion which, though unintended, is inevitable.Catholics believe that embryos are individual beings with souls and should be treated as such. The Church also disapproves of cryofreezing embryos for later use which is usually part of the process.
It can also be argued that without IVF the large numbers of children over the age of 4 who desperately need adoptive parents would be more likely to find them.

LoremIpsumCici · 24/11/2024 17:23

QueenOfHiraeth · 24/11/2024 14:39

I agree that the result of this vote is unlikely to represent the will of the people. I wrote to my MP and got a letter back which said, in essence, "I understand you want this and your reasons why but us clever people have to think of more". I understand there will need to be safeguards but, in the meantime, people are suffering and dying without a shred of dignity.

It's all very well saying we need to improve palliative care, and we do, but that should not be held as an alternative when there is no reasonable prospect of that happening in the near future

This makes no sense, improving NHS palliative care would be far cheaper than adding on a nationwide system of suicide clinics and suicide physicians. Why do you think Wes Streeting has asked for the costs? Legalising assisted dying creates an entitlement that the NHS will have to set up and staff. That’s not going to be free. So the argument that improved palliative care isn’t a viable alternative is bollocks.

MollyButton · 24/11/2024 17:23

Anotherparkingthread · 24/11/2024 14:32

I think those arguing other points here are blissfully unaware that sooner or later this issue effects everybody. We are all going to die of something, I have seen elderly relatives at the end of their lives and it's was horrific. The pain, the lack of cognitive awareness for one, the constant screaming, the lack of control. And it went on and on and on, this wasn't a case of weeks but months and for one years.

I would never wish to live through that, if you can call it living. And anybody who expects somebody else to endure that just to make them feel better is selfish. Of course it needs to be addressed on an individual basis, but allowing people to suffer like that I totally inhumane. We don't even allow animals to live like that.

The issue is have you had a very suicidal relative/friend who because of a medical condition really doesn't feel it's worth continuing to live? Then a few years later is leading a happy and fulfilling life.

Assisted dying is much cheaper for society than providing the proper supports.

Oh and I watched my mother die from cancer, which was probably "hassened " by the high levels of pain relief.

Do I am conflicted but this issue has not been debated enough, and the safeguards just aren't there.
We need to be far kinder to the living before we take this step.

NeedToChangeName · 24/11/2024 17:23

Littlemissgobby · 24/11/2024 14:46

Do you understand how the law works? This is a statute, that's how it's going to be made. They would have to go and debate it again in parliament, and the government would need to change it, which would need the parliament to go through that again.So right now.Nothing could be changed

If you look at UK abortion legislation, abortion is only permitted in limited circumstances. In practice, the high test is not applied

This may be a good thing, and I don't want to derail the thread, but it's a good example of supposedly tight limitations not being applied in practice aka safeguards being watered down

Usernamesareboring1 · 24/11/2024 17:24

Littlemissgobby · 24/11/2024 14:42

But the thing what gets me is, even if you had gold standard palliative care, you are going to have pain, some people are gonna be still in a lot of pain, not every illness means you can just drift away. God damn it. I put my own dog to sleep the other. Week because he was suffering, why can't we do that with a human being

I think the issue with everyone comparing it to their dog is that you and your vet decided to put them to sleep. The dog didn't get a say on when or where they were ready or if they even wanted that. Yes we euthansie them to be kind but trying to apply that concept to humans with complex needs and lives is just not comparable at all. The fear people have with not having enough safeguarding in place is that it will become a situation like that where others are deciding it's time for someone to go or that they would be better off rather than needing X adjustments and care etc which isn't appropriate and we have groups of disabled people shouting from the rooftops that this bill will put them in harms way, something we have seen play out in Canada and other countries that have adopted assisted dying.

OnceUponATimeInTheWest · 24/11/2024 17:24

username8348 · 24/11/2024 17:20

Why do you disagree?

Because I think you're wrong? Strange question.

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Snowxmas · 24/11/2024 17:27

Littlemissgobby · 24/11/2024 16:44

Precious last moments would not be lost as you get to say you want to die and your family could be with you.
You do know that withering in pain at the end isnt precious.
Human life is sanctosant is a religious point if view in my mind and shpukdnt play anything to do with this

The principle that human life is sacrosanct may be religious but one does not have to religious to agree with it.

JumpingPumpkin · 24/11/2024 17:27

The problem is that it's being rushed through as a private member's bill. I know most people want a law change of this type but has it really been considered carefully with the consequences? This is a huge change in the law and shouldn't be rushed.

Once it's through it'll be incredibly hard to go back.

username8348 · 24/11/2024 17:28

OnceUponATimeInTheWest · 24/11/2024 17:24

Because I think you're wrong? Strange question.

So far, your argument for this is: I want this to happen and that's my opinion.

It doesn't come across as particularly nuanced or well thought out.

alpenguin · 24/11/2024 17:29

I’m wholeheartedly in favour of assisted dying in specific well defined circumstances. That we allow people to suffer in the run up to death in a way we wouldn’t allow any other kind of animal to suffer is cruel and unnecessary. However I totally understand the fears of disabled anti-assisted dying campaigners which is the most persuasive argument against the proposal.

When we as a society cannot value and nurture sick or disabled lives then we are in danger of stretching any legislation to allow for the deaths of people who are medically inconvenient or expensive. In a society where social and medical care was both appropriate and easily available (in practice not just theory) it may be less of a worry but in a society hell bend on demonising sick and disabled people and making them pay for failures of neoliberalism or business in politics, assisted dying could easily be turned into a form of eugenics or cost cutting.

I’d love to believe this was just me and my tinfoil hat speaking but I’ve spent a long time bearing the brunt of people’s discriminations towards disabled people and I can see in the most recent rapid changes to society (particularly the huge swing to the far right) that it could easily become general practice to euthanise inconvenient sick or disabled.

I am someone who would benefit from the right to assisted dying. In the future. I do not want a long painful drawn out death… nor do I want a legislation unable to protect the most vulnerable from the negative cultural associations with or costs of chronic sickness or disability.

I hope it happens one day but it needs to be good and proper legislation with appropriate safeguards and a much stricter regime for being able to alter it than our current concepts of parliamentary sovereignty allow
for.

Annabella92 · 24/11/2024 17:30

AuntieJoyce · 24/11/2024 17:11

Good. Because women should be able to choose whether they want to carry a child to term or not. Just as an individual at the end of life should be able to choose whether they want to carry on living or not

You have the right to end your life whenever you want. It's different expecting the state and other individuals to facilitate that.

Usernamesareboring1 · 24/11/2024 17:34

The other thing is our healthcare is already not set up in a way where clinicians are able to adequately discuss with patients their best interests and what they would like. Part of the suffering at end of life comes from unnecessary treatments and medications because people are too busy / too scared to be sued/ haven't had time to build a relationship with the patient to discuss if they really want to go through all that and what other pathways they can go down. Throwing assisted dying into the mix before we fix the NHS and patient care experience would be disastrous..it's an ideal in principal but we aren't there yet as a society.