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To say that if the assisted dying bill isn't passed....

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OnceUponATimeInTheWest · 24/11/2024 14:06

that, regardless of where you personally stand on the issue, it will finally be undeniable that we do not live in a truly representative democracy at all?

Given the latest poll in the Times, it is clear that the vast majority of the population support the bill (65% for and 13% against) and yet most of the media seems to be full of story after story about this person or that coming out against it (unsurprisingly, often people with a religious background). I don't remember seeing nearly as many stories about someone telling us they support the bill. The narrative feels as though it is being steered in only one direction.

I mean, it's already fairly much clear that our elected politicians prefer to tell us what to do and what we should think, rather than actually representing our wishes. Otherwise immigration and transgender issues would not still be dominating the headlines. The fact that an amendment to remove bishops from the house of lords failed recently should also tell us that religion still plays far too much of a role in what is an overwhelmingly secular society.

If this bill fails, then anyone in future trying to tell us that we live in one of the greatest democracies in the world is, at this point, just gaslighting us.

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OnceUponATimeInTheWest · 24/11/2024 15:06

Applesandcream · 24/11/2024 15:04

The problem it won't stay just for terminal illness.

In Canada 28% of people think homelessness (41% among young people) should be included as an allowed reason for assisted dying and 27% for poverty.

www.theosthinktank.co.uk/comment/2024/01/23/a-matter-of-life-and-death-theos-polling-on-assisted-dying

How do you know that?

Answer - you don't, you are just guessing.

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Littlemissgobby · 24/11/2024 15:07

CombatLingerie · 24/11/2024 15:04

@Anotherparkingthread to witness your elderly relatives go through that must have been horrific. However I don’t think legally available assisted dying would have alleviated their suffering more quickly. As your relatives would have had to give consent for it to happen and as you say they then lacked cognitive awareness.
I find the debate quite bewildering to be honest especially as if the OP states most are in agreement with the bill.
My DF died from cancer, I and the family nursed him at home. At the end of his illness he was put on the Liverpool Care Pathway (with his consent) as he was suffering greatly. He essentially was given a cocktail of drugs in a driver syringe that kept him very heavily sedated and he died peacefully a few days later probably as a consequence of dehydration combined with the advanced cancer. It seemed to me at the time to be a way of assisting someone to die.
Now shortly after my DF died there were I believe a lot of relatives complaining about their loved ones being placed on the LCP? (I wasn’t one of them).It was discredited. Why did this happen if so many people are in favour of assisted dying for themselves and loved ones? Were people being put on LCP without their consent? It seems like we had a way of assisting people to die but it was done away with because the system was abused? Hopefully someone who knows more about it than me will come along soon.

It was discredited because people were left without food and drink, and they were dying without food and drink. As ways to get them to die faster, that to me is more inhumane than letting somebody have an injection and fall asleep and die. I am quite pleased as you say that your relative didn't suffer. That is not the case for many people, and at the end of the day. Even taken the suffering out, I don't care. I want the choice to be able to die when I want to die and if we're not allowed to do that unless you've got as somebody just said ten thousand pounds which I don't have to go abroad, then I say, f* everybody that thinks it's ridiculous, because you know what you want your choice, don't dictate to others

Cattenberg · 24/11/2024 15:08

No, because this isn't a referendum, where the majority rules. There's a saying that democracy is two wolves and a lamb deciding what to have for lunch. It's vital that any change to the law protects the most vulnerable members in society, even though they're in the minority.

I do think this bill should pass, but only because it would lead to further debates and scrutiny of the bill. I'm not convinced the current draft completely squares the circle of allowing assisted dying but preventing any abuse.

Littlemissgobby · 24/11/2024 15:08

OnceUponATimeInTheWest · 24/11/2024 15:06

How do you know that?

Answer - you don't, you are just guessing.

Even if they managed to change the law after they did this, that a lot of people are upset about what would the problem be? If somebody has say multiple sclerosis, and they don't want to live anymore, why can't we give people the choice? Why does it matter? You might not agree that it's wrong to put somebody out of their misery. But maybe they want the choice. Why can't we have a choice is better that wear than jumping in front of a f train that really destroys people's lives?Surely at the end of the day, we should all have autonomy on our own lives

Jerabilis · 24/11/2024 15:08

Littlemissgobby · 24/11/2024 14:42

We are not proposing that in the uk so why all the bloody scare stories

You think that was included in the proposals when Canada approved it?

ByMerryKoala · 24/11/2024 15:09

Applesandcream · 24/11/2024 15:04

The problem it won't stay just for terminal illness.

In Canada 28% of people think homelessness (41% among young people) should be included as an allowed reason for assisted dying and 27% for poverty.

www.theosthinktank.co.uk/comment/2024/01/23/a-matter-of-life-and-death-theos-polling-on-assisted-dying

Well, that's the biggest fear isn't it. That it shifts the overton window so far that all suffering is deemed intolerable and the value of life with suffering is diminished.

bombastix · 24/11/2024 15:10

MrsSchrute · 24/11/2024 14:58

Lots of doctors are private. And my understanding is that the majority of doctors are unwilling to do this kind of work, particularly as they took an oath to do no harm, so it is just a small number in each area who have indicated that they are open to administering these drugs. It is yet another unanswered question around this bill.

The implication is that administration of drugs is done by the patient. Doctors would prescribe. The inference you have to compos mentis to say what you want and pay for it.

Littlemissgobby · 24/11/2024 15:10

Jerabilis · 24/11/2024 15:08

You think that was included in the proposals when Canada approved it?

I listened to the radio and the way they change law is not the same way we changed law.We have a lot more scrutiny, because we have a lot of mps that have to scrutinise any changes

Littlemissgobby · 24/11/2024 15:11

ByMerryKoala · 24/11/2024 15:09

Well, that's the biggest fear isn't it. That it shifts the overton window so far that all suffering is deemed intolerable and the value of life with suffering is diminished.

But in Canada, I'm sorry to say I'm not seeing thousands of people being killed at the end of the day. People have an individual choice, and they still take that choice up, that's up to them. Maybe no, it sounds really difficult for people on here. But maybe people do just want to have the choice to die. Even if they have got longer than six months to live. I don't get why we are so concerned about that unless we decide to force people to live sometimes really unhappy for the rest of their lives.

ByMerryKoala · 24/11/2024 15:11

Littlemissgobby · 24/11/2024 15:10

I listened to the radio and the way they change law is not the same way we changed law.We have a lot more scrutiny, because we have a lot of mps that have to scrutinise any changes

So you want a referendum because you think MPs aren't representing the general population but you want MPs, ones who seek your approval every four years, to hold the line on policy creep?

MrsSchrute · 24/11/2024 15:11

Littlemissgobby · 24/11/2024 15:10

I listened to the radio and the way they change law is not the same way we changed law.We have a lot more scrutiny, because we have a lot of mps that have to scrutinise any changes

None of that mean that once we have established the basic principle that assisted suicide is acceptable, it won't be much easier to change who we think it is acceptable for.

OnceUponATimeInTheWest · 24/11/2024 15:12

ByMerryKoala · 24/11/2024 15:09

Well, that's the biggest fear isn't it. That it shifts the overton window so far that all suffering is deemed intolerable and the value of life with suffering is diminished.

'Fear' is right. Maybe we should stick to the reality of what is proposed, rather than the fear of what isn't.

The value of my 'life with suffering' is mine to decide.

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ByMerryKoala · 24/11/2024 15:12

Assisted dying rates in Canada have already exceeded expectations.

ByMerryKoala · 24/11/2024 15:13

OnceUponATimeInTheWest · 24/11/2024 15:12

'Fear' is right. Maybe we should stick to the reality of what is proposed, rather than the fear of what isn't.

The value of my 'life with suffering' is mine to decide.

I think that's incredibly naive.

Littlemissgobby · 24/11/2024 15:13

ByMerryKoala · 24/11/2024 15:11

So you want a referendum because you think MPs aren't representing the general population but you want MPs, ones who seek your approval every four years, to hold the line on policy creep?

I was replying to people who said it would get like Canada. I said, covertly under our system. It wouldn't, but since we're not going to get a referendum, I would like a referendum to begin with to then decide what the public want, then the mp, then they put a proper bill and law in place that would cover all different. Principalities, you could have both, it's not unknown

ABirdsEyeView · 24/11/2024 15:14

I don't believe this should be a matter of conscience for MPs - their job is literally to represent us, not dictate to us! So on moral issues, there ought to be a vote in each constituency and the MP should then vote accordingly. Or just have a national referendum and go with the majority view.

I strongly believe that our lives belong to us and we should be allowed to end them with dignity, in the time of our choosing, once we are certain there is no hope of recovery and quality of life will descend into something we don't want for ourselves.

Littlemissgobby · 24/11/2024 15:14

everybodystalking · 24/11/2024 15:14

Wow so hardly any

OnceUponATimeInTheWest · 24/11/2024 15:18

ByMerryKoala · 24/11/2024 15:13

I think that's incredibly naive.

I think that's incredibly condescending.

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everybodystalking · 24/11/2024 15:18

here were 334,623 deaths in Canada in 2022, an increase of 7.3% from 2021.

I'm guessing you are being facetious that this is not many

EvangelicalAboutButteredToast · 24/11/2024 15:18

I’d like the bill passed as well. We should have the right to opt for a humane and dignified death at a time of our choosing.

Nanny0gg · 24/11/2024 15:19

OnceUponATimeInTheWest · 24/11/2024 14:14

Poll after poll has shown a similar number of people in favour. It is undeniable that a large majority of the population support some form of assisted denying.

At this point it isn't even debatable.

Having read today's article written after the reporter visited a hospice and spoke to staff, patients and relatives it's made me rethink my position.

I'm glad it's not my decision

And I don't quite see how it will work. Two doctors deciding with a break in between then a judge.

How quickly will cases be reviewed anyway? I can imagine a backlog building up.

Also, how many people went into the law expecting to have to make that kind of judgment?

The article made the point that maybe if palliative care was better and more easily available it wouldn't be such an issue.

And money for assisted dying may be taken from palliative care too.

ButFirstCovfefe · 24/11/2024 15:20

I can’t explain how much I’m for assisted dying.
I wrote so much but ultimately it doesn’t count.

If I’m going to die, or worse, lose my mind (so die but exist) then no one should tell me when I can or can’t do that, or how. To have the support to do it 1) at the right time (and not too early) and not do it alone (so legally) then that is my choice.

The fact that you can’t get support and your loved ones get arrested is insane.

You can’t get elderly relatives into much needed care facilities if they are deemed compos-mentis, despite it being dangerous to their wellbeing. There’s no way you’ll be able to have them shipped off to dignitas. That concern is moot.

OrinocoGlow · 24/11/2024 15:20

MrsSchrute · 24/11/2024 15:03

No, the bill includes a 'conscience clause', so doctors are free to refuse.

Thank you @MrsShcrute, that makes sense. If it passes, I would prefer it not be a privately funded procedure to avoid there being a financial incentive for doing it.

ByMerryKoala · 24/11/2024 15:20

OnceUponATimeInTheWest · 24/11/2024 15:18

I think that's incredibly condescending.

Tough. It still stands.

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