Daughter on OE and war

[Doodlybug]

Our family moved to NZ from the UK in 2007 when our children were 8 & 6. Our daughter *25 yrs old) has just gone on her OE with her partner and have ended up in London and are looking for jobs and a flat. I am generally very pragmatic and definitely not a worrier, but for some reason I have recently been having nightmares about WW3 starting and my daughter being caught in the thick of it. I literally cannot stop thinking what would happen if war broke out and she was stuck over there but don't want to worry her by suggesting she comes back to NZ where it is safe. My husband is v dismissive of my fears and says the media are blowing it out of proportion which isn't very helpful! Should I let her know the potential danger she is in or is it not a real concern over there?

OE?

Overseas experience

But no. WW3 is not a genuine concern in the UK

What is OE?

Cross post! Thanks! (Although I still don’t understand what it means… a holiday? An adult “gap yah”? What is an overseas experience?!)

Hopefully, you are being unreasonable.

Overseas experience?! Like a grand tour?! 😂
is this because New Zealand is, not to put too fine a point on it, in the arse end of nowhere so they need a proper Victorian travel scenario to actually see the world?

It is not a real concern.

Putin has fired one missile at Ukraine and he notified the Americans and other western nations in advance.

Eh?

Were doing just fine in the UK

She's 25!! She can make her own decisions.

There are billions of people living in this hemisphere and, while we have some concerns about geopolitical situation, we are not quite preparing for ww3. And if ww3 does happen, there won't be a safe place on earth.

Nope you’re worrying unnecessarily.

And don’t forget, Fear is a weapon. And it sells - clicks, views, listens - and products.

The fearmongering has reached new heights across global social, digital, news media and is trickling into communities too. Try to switch it off if you can. ☕️

The world is riddled with wars.

As for Putin. he is a very intelligent man. He's currently playing mind games and is very successful at it.

No, you should not let her know your fears about WW3. Do not burden your DD with your mental health problems. If you cannot get yourself back to a more rational frame of mind you should get yourself therapy.

@RawBloomers no need to be unkind.

YABU

Apologies - OE is "Overseas Experience". Probably like gap year but OEs are generally for several years, which is awesome. And I did the same - went to Oz when I was 18 for a couple of years and didn't give a 2nd thought to my parents. Just different when you experience it as a mother I guess!!

London's fabulous, I'm going there for 3 weeks at Christmas. No we are not at imminent risk of war! More likely your DD will enjoy life over here so much that she'll decide to relocate. That's what I'd be bracing myself for if I were you.
Why don't you make a plan to visit her? Then you'll see for yourself how completely normal everyday life is.
Sorry you are feeling these anxieties @Doodlybug.

I don't believe he will start ww3. I do believe he may send a smaller nuclear missile into Ukraine which is very worrying.

I also believe we are in for a lot of disruption to travel and other services that relies on IT.

I'm pretty sure they have the capability to do that

However your daughter is an adult and there
Nothing you can do. Mums job To worry I'm afraid.

@RawBloomers jeez, seriously? Having concerns about my daughter's wellbeing while travelling overseas does not equate to me having mental health issues. I am simply enquiring whether there are concerns over there about the possibility of WW3. Here in NZ it is clearly being blown out of proportionate I was wanting to get some "on the ground" feedback from one caring mother to the majority of other caring mothers out there.

I would say WW3 has been a concern since the end of WW2. But you just have to get on and not worry about it.
What's worrying going to do.

Well we have not heard that they are prepping the bomb shelters over here yet or kitting out the undergrounds just in case. I have young adult DC and I know the worry is real but worrying about WW3 is the least of the things I worry about for them.

Nobody is worried, OP. And even if you are, you absolutely can't say anything to your daughter - she us an adult who makes her own decisions.

I know. Why talk in riddles😂

She's an adult. Your greater fear should be that they will relocate here permanently, have a family and you will be as far away as you can possibly be. That would keep me up at night. WW3 ....nah.

my own dd has been living abroad for a few years,
i was so relieved when she came back recently