Employers attitude.

[Lallydallydune]

An employer contacted me earlier this week.

They'd seen my CV on some website (I'd forgotten it was there, I'd been on that website a long time ago).

They sent me an email asking me to do an online interview for a position.

The positon seemed good. I decided to do the interview.

The onlie interviewer was so rude. After grilling me about different things for a while.

He said

"Why did you apply for this job". I said

"I didn't. Are you aware that the company contacted me and asked me to interview"

He then said "why should we hire you over all the over people that applied for this job"

. I again said "the company contacted me to do the interview for a start. Then I did answer the question and I listed my "qualities".

He was so rude. And I couldn't understand why he kept saying "why did you apply for this job" aggressively, when the company had sent me an email asking me to interview.

Why ask someone to do an interview and then be rude to them? I felt upset afterwards.

Weird experience

Yes maybe it was this! It just didn't seem to make sense at all.

Whoever initially contacted me, and whoever I did the interview with, had completely different vibes.

You had a rude interviewer. I think "victim blamer" is a bit strong for this situation.

There was fault on both sides from your original post and your responses to other comments. Take it as a lesson learned and move on.

Victim blamer? You’re not a victim.
You both sounded as rude as each other from the conversation you said happened.

Why did you apply for this job". I said
"I didn't. Are you aware that the company contacted me and asked me to interview"

He maybe didn’t know you’d been contacted so you could have said your company contacted me to offer an interview after seeing my Cv online. I decided to interview because…. (Insert a reason here)

He then said "why should we hire you over all the over people that applied for this job"
. I again said "the company contacted me to do the interview for a start. Then I did answer the question and I listed my "qualities".

You sound rude and very short in the conversation

You haven't read what I wrote. As I said that I did answer.

I mean victim blaming as when anyone ever comes on to mumsnet to complain about someone being rude to her, some posters will always tell her it's her fault.

It always always happens.

@Lallydallydune I did read. You answered in the end after you initially more or less refused. It looks like you've tried to avoid answering it. I wouldn't be impressed.

Judging by the way you communicate, I expect he sensed a bad attitude from you and was annoyed you'd wasted his time with the interview.

I did tell him that. Obviously I am writing much more shortened answers here.

He said why did you apply and i said "your company contacted me after seeing my CV online and after i was contacted, I read about the company and it seemed interesting". And I gave a longer answer than that, I gave more examples about why I would like to work there. That it was a good company and I liked their ethos and values (I'd read up on. The company)

He asked me again later on twice. He asked me again "why did you apply for this job.

And I again said "after I was contacted by your company to apply , I read about the job and the workplace and it seems like a good workplace. And it has good values. And the place has all these qualities and a good ethos etc etc etc.

He asked me again

His attitude throughout the whole interview was just rude and dismissive. I was just annoyed especially as he had given me one day's notice for the interview.

And I felt upset when I came off. I've already decided I won't take the job even if they offer me it.

It's not your fault the interviewer had a bad attitude and that's reason enough to not want to work there. There's no excuse for bad attitude. But the way you described the situation also shows that you approached this with a bad attitude and you're getting appropriate feedback. The two overlap but they're also separate. No one's saying your a bad person and no one's saying the interviewer was a saint - at least, I'm not.

But you DID decide to 'apply'/interview. You were able to say no if you didn't want to. So his question about why you 'applied' was valid, no?

Extremely predictable comment. The bullies on mumsnet go on every thread to tear down the OP.

He contacted me to do the interview and he wasted MY time. I didn't contact him in any way.

Agree with others that these were totally normal valid questions. By accepting the interview you were applying.

You make it sound like they should be so grateful to you and that you think you are better than those who may have applied through traditional routes.

The company may have contacted you but by accepting the interview you effectively applied for the job.

Whether you technically applied for it or not I would hope you had some reasons why you wanted the job which is what they are asking. Why did you apply for this job is a very standard interview question. By repling as you did you have just told the interviewer they are wasting their time as you clearly have no interest in the role.

Fo you enjoy bullying people?

Also in future if you don’t want to do an interview with one days notice then either ask for a different day or just say no.

He didn't just ask me once. He asked me three times.

And each time I said your company reached out to me and asked me to apply.

your first answer to a reasonable question was combative and arsey

not really seeing how you were a victim

more to the point you’ve shot down anyone that doesn’t agree with you on this thread so why ask when you have no doubt in your mind did the slightest thing wrong and by your own words you are a victim

There is nothing bullying about @PinkFrogss post.

Is disagreeing with someone bullying?

I’m sorry this thread hasn’t gone the way you wanted OP, but not everyone is going to agree that you did them a massive favour and they shouldn’t dare to ask you standard interview questions because your time is more valuable than someone who submitted an application.

Because I'm not just thinking of myself. Im thinking of all the threads on mumsnet where the OP gets torn to shreds.

We ve all seen it.

It makes people not even want to start a thread on here.

Who said the thread hasn't gone the way I wanted?

I didn't say that.

You forgot to write "in my personal opinion".

Which is not everyone's

So why did you want to work for them?

Semantically you may be correct with your response but that isn't what they are trying to find out with that type of question.

So why not answer with why you decided to interview? You sound hard work.

Because you’re accusing anyone who disagrees with you of bullying, victim blaming, or just repeating the same thing as if it adds something to your post and will change poster’s minds