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Hannah Ingram Moore. AIBU Not To Be Surprised At Charity Commission Findings?

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Curtainqueen · 21/11/2024 00:35

After the bulldozing of her luxury spa I really am unsurprised at the findings that her and her husband did after all benefit significantly from the charity and repeatedly had their hand in the till. Did she honestly believe this would never come out?

www.bbc.co.uk/news/articles/c86qdq67dd5o

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ARainyNightInSoho · 21/11/2024 18:12

Uricon2 · 21/11/2024 13:45

When I was a young woman, practically every late 50s/early-mid 60s man (and a fair few of the women) had served in WW2. In our small office alone, we had men who had gone ashore at D-Day and Anzio respectively, 2 sailors who'd had their ships torpedoed from under them, a Far East POW and someone who'd been involved in literal house to house, hand to hand fighting while liberating a Dutch town. There were others.

I respect Tom Moore's service but it was no more remarkable than any of the above. The novelty value was in him outliving most of his generation, with the addition of shrewd marketing that appealed to the zeitgeist at a very weird time. It seemed clear to me from the start that H I-M was loving every moment of her new found fame and it was not surprising that this has descended into a sorry tale of grifting.

The lesson is about not turning people into National Pets, at least not without a great deal more discernment.

Yes, agree with every word of this.

user1471538283 · 21/11/2024 18:17

It always felt off to me. And also I was concerned that all this raising money thing was implying that the NHS is a charity. It is not. It is funded by our taxes. We were one step removed from the government sending us back to almshouses and pension clubs.

His family are grifters.

SoWhat21 · 21/11/2024 21:26

It’s surprising to me how lightly Penguin are getting away here. They allowed a book to be published with what they knew to be a misleading forward and premise. One that they knew would increase sales and their own profits. They may say that they were told a donation would be made but they made no attempt to verify that information or get a signed agreement to that effect. Any business knows that an informal undertaking like that means nothing. They allowed a charity name to be used to manipulate money out of people for which they benefitted. Why aren’t they been asked to donate some of the profits they made from people they allowed to be tricked?

Tontostitis · 21/11/2024 21:59

Isn't this how all charities behave? Loads of expenses giving the top dogs a great lifestyle off the back of volunteers. The problem here is she wasn't part of the charity middleclass boss circuit so they've called her out on the bullshit. I wish all charities and foundations could be held to the same standard.

BustingBaoBun · 21/11/2024 22:07

No, all charities aren't the same

Grandmasswagbag · 21/11/2024 22:08

I never understood the Captain Tom hysteria at the time and I still don't. I file it firmly in the 'driven to madness by COVID'. I can't believe people are still talking about them all these years later! The radio did a whole hours phone in this morning about it Confused

Grandmasswagbag · 21/11/2024 22:11

GreenTeaLikesMe · 21/11/2024 08:06

YY to the above.

There was such a weird febrile atmosphere at the time. If you tried to question anything, you were "mean" or not approaching things with the right spirit. This kind of thing does not help when it comes to ensuring accountability.

It was like a cult!

EvilsElsasPetSnowman · 21/11/2024 22:17

Yes 2020 was bonkers. Especially on MN. The MNer who told people to put cheese in their coffee rather than go out and buy milk, and another who said washing powder isn’t an essential item, had me pissing myself (heaven forbid you made fun of them at the time)

SchoolDilemma17 · 21/11/2024 22:24

DysonSphere · 21/11/2024 01:20

I feel fairly neutral about it.

Undoubtedly it was probably Sir Tom's daughter who got the media involved at the very beginning. Without that, there would have been little attention given to his efforts and all that money would never have been donated and raised for the NHS. He would have been a nice old man walking in his garden with not a great deal of reach. Sir Tom's family had probably been managing everything in the background all along and 38 million is a load of money. They never touched that money.

I feel it's not moral, but I can't be asked to be upset over them getting some personal cash on the side since then. Trustees in all these big charities get huge salaries. Why are the CC making it seem like a £85,000 salary was extraordinary?

I also don't see why there was such a fuss about the £18,000 payment by Virgin O2 being personally pocketed. There doesn't seem to have been anything strictly stipulating that it must go to the charity.

I feel the SPA and home cinema was wrong, but demolition was unnecessary.

I feel these people are shifty, but they have done good too. Unless someone is saying that the big mainstream charities never spend funds on superfluous things (Travel? Eating out in expensive restaurants? Conferences in expensive locations etc etc) and there aren't people on big salaries working in them, then to me they are perhaps correct to say they have received extraordinary scrutiny.

Trustees in charities don’t get paid. Some charities pay expenses, most don’t

Runssometimes · 21/11/2024 22:24

@Tontostitis no. Most charities are well run and follow the regulations. It can happen in small charities or ones run by volunteers that they unintentionally break rules because there’s a lot of them. But certainly charities above a certain size tend to be professionally run. And yes, that will often mean experienced paid staff. And generally better to have unconnected people as less chance of issues like this.

DysonSphere · 21/11/2024 22:26

SchoolDilemma17 · 21/11/2024 22:24

Trustees in charities don’t get paid. Some charities pay expenses, most don’t

Yes I acknowledged that correction on pg 3

SchoolDilemma17 · 21/11/2024 22:31

Tontostitis · 21/11/2024 21:59

Isn't this how all charities behave? Loads of expenses giving the top dogs a great lifestyle off the back of volunteers. The problem here is she wasn't part of the charity middleclass boss circuit so they've called her out on the bullshit. I wish all charities and foundations could be held to the same standard.

Please it really is not. All charities are held to the same standards which are set by the charity Commission.
countless charities in this country do fantastic work and are run by committed and passionate people on low salaries or volunteers. Maybe spend some actual time volunteering and see what charities are all about.

SchoolDilemma17 · 21/11/2024 22:32

Aaron95 · 21/11/2024 11:19

There are a lot of judgemental people on here.

They didn't do anything illegal by keeping the book advance. If you had the opportunity to keep £1.5 million for a book your father had written, or to donate it to charity, would you honestly give it away? Honestly, I'm not sure I would. That sum of money is life changing.

They marketed the book with proceeds going to charity. That is misleading and actually illegal.
They were asked to correct this twice and refused, so it wasn’t an accident or misunderstanding. They deliberately misled people who bought the book.

marmaladeandpeanutbutter · 21/11/2024 22:44

The other thread says they don't meet the criminal threshold, which is bewildering.

dayswithaY · 21/11/2024 23:06

I’m surprised anyone bought his dull book. Was it just 400 pages about walking round his garden in lockdown?

Obbydoo · 22/11/2024 08:29

Tontostitis · 21/11/2024 21:59

Isn't this how all charities behave? Loads of expenses giving the top dogs a great lifestyle off the back of volunteers. The problem here is she wasn't part of the charity middleclass boss circuit so they've called her out on the bullshit. I wish all charities and foundations could be held to the same standard.

No. Absolutely not, you could not be more wrong. The Trustees are not paid at all. The staff are paid but I can guarantee you they would earn considerably more if they worked in the public or private sector for the same jobs.

Surely the fact that these people have been caught tells you that this does not happen a lot. The Charity Commission is there to stop this kind of behaviour and when it happens, they are caught. But it actually happens very rarely as most that decide to work for a charity, knowing they will be poorly paid compared to comparable jobs in the public/private sector, do so because they are passionate about the cause. The Ingram-Moores are vile money grabbing thieves. Very rare in the charity world but by posting this kind of bullshit you are contributing to the damage they have done to the concept of charity.

At best your post is ill-informed. At worst it is part of the dangerous smear campaign that has the potential to damage charity fundraising which in turn can harm the lives of those who need charity.

Please, please can people stop spreading this bullshit, it's stupid and cruel.

SweetSakura · 22/11/2024 08:32

Tontostitis · 21/11/2024 21:59

Isn't this how all charities behave? Loads of expenses giving the top dogs a great lifestyle off the back of volunteers. The problem here is she wasn't part of the charity middleclass boss circuit so they've called her out on the bullshit. I wish all charities and foundations could be held to the same standard.

Trustees aren't paid and share a huge amount of their expertise and knowledge for free.

I don't do it for kudos.

I do it because I know I have skills and knowledge that can add value and I wanted to support a charitable cause close to my heart

Far from being paid, I don't claim expenses and at times it is like doing an additional job

SweetSakura · 22/11/2024 08:33

And charity jobs tend to be less well paid than their private or public sector equivalents

Obbydoo · 22/11/2024 08:34

Aaron95 · 21/11/2024 11:19

There are a lot of judgemental people on here.

They didn't do anything illegal by keeping the book advance. If you had the opportunity to keep £1.5 million for a book your father had written, or to donate it to charity, would you honestly give it away? Honestly, I'm not sure I would. That sum of money is life changing.

Then you are as vile and money grabbing as them. The book literally says that it will help to raise money for charity. They have deliberately misled the public. That would be a scummy thing to do if they were living in poverty but they weren't. They were already richer than most of us could dream off. It is pure and simple greed.

Hoppinggreen · 22/11/2024 09:04

EvilsElsasPetSnowman · 21/11/2024 22:17

Yes 2020 was bonkers. Especially on MN. The MNer who told people to put cheese in their coffee rather than go out and buy milk, and another who said washing powder isn’t an essential item, had me pissing myself (heaven forbid you made fun of them at the time)

I responded to a FB post about a poor confused old man clutching a shopping list in the supermarket by saying that there were a lot of these type of posts around - apparently I hate old people and wanted them to all die!
The nasty comments I got were unbelieveable, I got a load of PM's too but I didn't even bother reading them.
People went nuts

Username2101 · 22/11/2024 09:05

I was a trustee of a charity, never got paid a penny but did it because I believed in it.
From the moment you join it is made crystal clear that you are to scrutinise anything to do with finances as if anything goes wrong it's on your head. I'm glad these grifters are being held to account.

Oreyt · 22/11/2024 09:07

YouHaveAnArse · 21/11/2024 09:48

One of their kids is still at school, right? I'm sure today is going to be a fun day for her.

I feel for the kids. No amount of money is worth messing up your kids.

DrZaraCarmichael · 22/11/2024 09:30

Tontostitis · 21/11/2024 21:59

Isn't this how all charities behave? Loads of expenses giving the top dogs a great lifestyle off the back of volunteers. The problem here is she wasn't part of the charity middleclass boss circuit so they've called her out on the bullshit. I wish all charities and foundations could be held to the same standard.

Prime example of the damage that one rogue person running one rogue charity does. People use it to reinforce their own skewed belief that everyone involved in a charity is doing it for the wrong reasons.

It's mostly done to justify to themselves why they don't volunteer or donate, but it's so damaging. People are too hunkered down in their own prejudices that they won't even bother to understand what the Charity Commission is or does.

Tracystubbs · 22/11/2024 09:58

dayswithaY · 21/11/2024 23:06

I’m surprised anyone bought his dull book. Was it just 400 pages about walking round his garden in lockdown?

No,it went through his life story from birth onwards

Or at least that's the impression I got from the second hand copy I bought on ebay and the first 8 pages that I struggled through

I've read some utter shite,but this was the dullest book I've ever read

I'm told it did go on about his sex life a bit but I didn't get that far

missmollygreen · 22/11/2024 10:14

QueenBitch666 · 21/11/2024 01:37

Biggest grift going. I bet all those mugs who donated feel like absolute tits 😂

So people who donate to charity are mugs?

Classy