For texting fighting neighbours?

[MissKittyFantastico84]

Just after a general consensus really...

We live in a house with neighbours either side and the walls are thin - a fact we're all aware of as we all have kids.

All relationships are good natured and polite, we do little favours for each other when people go away - feed cats, water plants etc. Normal neighbour stuff.

Our neighbours to the left have clearly been having some marital issues over the last few months. I work from home and have been party to some huge rows through the walls in the daytime. Absolutely none of my business however, and I'll walk to a different room to avoid the noise and stress.

But the fights have been quite nasty, and the general tone has meant we have backed off from socialising with them. All still polite, but just want to create some distance.

However last night, when I was putting my son to bed, a huge row erupted in their child's bedroom - which they absolutely know is directly next to my son's room. There was shouting, banging, pulling stuff out of drawers maybe - this was around 8pm.

I moved my son to a different bedroom to go to sleep. He wasn't upset, but he was asking questions.

The fight continued then eventually came downstairs. Stopped half an hour later and all was silent.

My question: should I send a message on our group chat and mention how unacceptable I found that situation? I don't care if they fight at 2pm on a Monday because I have no interest in their personal issues - but my husband and I do not behave that way, and I don't think it's OK for my son to be disrupted by it, especially when he's trying to sleep.

Or should we stay well out of it?

Advice please!

This and obviously no woman could ever be the abusive partner!

My friend was being physically and emotionally abused by his wife a neighbour went to speak to his wife when he left for work one day thinking he was hitting her. It made it 100x worse because she then beat him so bad he ended in hospital as punishment for "being a little loud bitch and not taking things quietly"

As someone who works with abused victims I can tell you actually it's statistically more likely that the woman is the abuser. But women do it differently to men. Women will act like they're being abused shout and scream "stop it your hurting me" etc make comments to friends that imply they're being abused and hurt themselves so they've got evidence. And then emotionally abuse their male partner and make it so they don't tell anyone "because who would ever believe that a man is being abused"
However; it's statistically more likely that a man will face legal action than women!

100% agree with this. I grew up witnessing my mum abuse my dad for 20 years.No one believed it as she played the victim and had him arrested for violence she inflicted upon herself. It came out years later. It’s a shame when people automatically believe it’s always the woman being abused, there should be more awareness for this. It really messed me up, when children are involved it’s everyone’s business.

No one should have to sit in their own home having to listen to their own TV/music turned up to an uncomfortable loudness due to inconsiderate people next door having a slanging match.

Once a neighbours behaviour starts to affect yours and your families own immediate environment they've made it your business to interfer.