To drop out of interview

[PoliteEagle]

I am currently interviewing for a role at a company. This is a dream role for me, ticks most of the boxes and my career will head exactly in the direction I want to. Pay is also very good. Now, I scrolled through the employees on their Linkedin page and noticed that my ex started working there this summer. We didnt have an easy break up, even though my feelings are now gone for him but I don't want to see him again. The problem is that company is relatively small like 100 people and we will be in different teams but still. I am thinking to drop out, even if the opportunity is really amazing especially in times of tough job market,

Don’t drop out, suck it up and see how it goes first.

I had first stage already, now onto second. They want to me to go to their office for an in person interview. I am already dreaded.

I would drop out.

Life is too short.

Do the interview and take the job if you get it. Don’t let your ex have any power or influence over your life decisions.

For all you know, he could be already looking for another job and not even there long term.

100 people is huge, there are six where I work. You may never see him!

Do the interview and then decide.

Don’t let a man ruin your career.

What if your ex moves on to another job in a different place in a couple of moths? Would you regret giving up for this position? Is it a job that comes up often?

Don’t drop out, he could leave next month or you could never see him anyway. Don’t let him potentially take this opportunity from you.

He might not make it out of probation period, you might not see him, he might leave etc etc

Just do the interview.

My dp works in our building - there are about 25 of us and I rarely see him!

do what’s right for you

He is unlikely to move, he joined just like 4 months ago and he tends to stick in his jobs for quite a while. He is got a massive promotion, now head of a team so I don't think he will move.
The job like that does not come often in a current market. It is like 2nd time this year. In a good market more jobs like this can come, whether the market improves shortly is a big question. But this one sounds perfect to my skills and aspirations. My industry is also not very crisis resistant, so when there are bad times, hiring is almost non existent.

Go for it - if you get it he may want to leave when he sees you, have you considered that?

I would take the opportunity if it comes. You're over your ex now, so just be mega professional and carry on as you would if you hadn't been a couple.

Fuck him. Go for the interview.

No, I actually haven't thought about it. Doubt that he would leave, he is a bit toxic, he is sort of person who would think that I got into this company because of him....
The role involves lots of stakeholder management, so it is likely that we may have some working together. I will get a junior person though to hire, so maybe will be able to delegate that.

Thanks everyone! I decided to go ahead. 2nd round is scheduled for next week. Was thinking about wearing sunglasses 😂but actually I think I will let him worry that he will be seeing me there if I get hired. It will be unpleasant for me surely, but my feelings towards him are gone except many thinking how silly I was to spend my time with this person.

Good luck with your interview!

My sentiments exactly! Why should you forego a job because of him!?

Go for the job but only if you're 100% certain you have no lingering feelings for him.

Will you be upset seeing him with a girlfriend at the work Christmas do? If honestly no, take the job.

Good luck x

Hope it all goes well for you OP

Go anyway, see if you get the job - you can always decline their offer.

Routing for you now OP

Me too! Keep us updated :)

This.

Yeah life is too short to worry about ex partners. Dont drop out, don't give him the satisfaction of you not getting a job you really want.