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Bus driver refused to make passenger leave

238 replies

MobilityCat · 16/11/2024 23:54

Last night on the very crowded bus I was unable to get to the wheelchair space to park, as it was full of luggage and people. The only place available was in the doorway.

A person stood next to me in the doorway and refused to move to allow people off, saying it was I that was in the way.

I asked him to move out of the doorway so other passengers could get off, but he wouldn't so I told him that he was being inconsiderate and he started shouting and swearing at me. I told him to move away and leave me alone.

He persisted so I called twice to the driver to get him off the bus, but the driver took no action to make him leave, so I was left to manage his abuse.

He then stood in front of me and threatened me, so I raised my walking stick and pointed it at him as a warning. He backed away but carried on threatening me.

I told him that I didn't want to hurt him but if he didn't leave me alone and continued threatening me I would.

He moved further away from me, but continued to swear at me, but since he was no longer a threat I just ignored him.

I was bullied as a child, but learned to stand up against bullies as they are basically cowards, but Is it asking too much to expect the driver to protect their passengers?

OP posts:
Curtainqueen · 17/11/2024 19:22

TwattyMcFuckFace · 17/11/2024 19:21

Come on, being disabled doesn't mean it's ok to refer to people as wheelchairs.

I must admit I did bristle when I read that post, although I accept you might have been typing quickly or something and not realised.

who the hell was referring to people as wheelchairs? I was referring to wheelchairs as wheelchairs, because thats what they are. They are a thing. are you hard of reading as well?

MobilityCat · 17/11/2024 19:24

snowmichael · 17/11/2024 18:15

So, no, you do not know what assault is

"Common assault is when a person inflicts violence on someone else or makes them think they are going to be attacked. It does not have to involve physical violence. Threatening words or a raised fist is enough for the crime to have been committed provided the victim thinks that they are about to be attacked."

His exact words were "I'm going to f... ing kill you!"

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TwattyMcFuckFace · 17/11/2024 19:24

Curtainqueen · 17/11/2024 19:22

who the hell was referring to people as wheelchairs? I was referring to wheelchairs as wheelchairs, because thats what they are. They are a thing. are you hard of reading as well?

Edited

No, but if you re-read your earlier post and still can't understand how it comes across, then perhaps you are?

However, I was giving the benefit of doubt as you might have realised how it came across.

No biggie, or reason to get rude.

MobilityCat · 17/11/2024 19:26

JubileeJuice · 17/11/2024 18:37

Perhaps you should stop referring to disabled people as wheelchairs.

Or wheelchair user.

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Cesarina · 17/11/2024 20:14

MobilityCat · 17/11/2024 19:06

I understand your confusion, many people like me are semi ambulatory and need a stick to transition from the chair to the toilet etc. I also carry a portable ramp because sometimes the bus ramp doesn't work or there's no dropped kerb, etc.

@MobilityCat
Thank you for educating me........I mean that sincerely!

Agapornis · 17/11/2024 23:14

MobilityCat · 17/11/2024 18:16

Thanks I'll try to remember that

Presuming you tapped in with an Oyster card or bank card: If you have an online TfL account you should be able to see your journey history and the time you tapped in.

If you haven't got an account already, you should have one for delay repay purposes. Mind you, TfL got hacked at the start of September and lots of systems have been offline, so it may not work at the moment.

Agapornis · 17/11/2024 23:20

I'd recommend reporting it to British Transport Police asap, as in my experience TfL only keep CCTV for a week, and BTP are very slow to follow up. The bus stop is usually also covered by CCTV.

Isatis · 17/11/2024 23:31

Curtainqueen · 17/11/2024 10:27

It's not discrimination. The company has made reasonable adjustments in providing the space. It's up to passengers to use their brains and not obstruct it.

The courts have found otherwise. Bus companies can't just provide a space and then leave passengers to fight it out between themselves. They have to make a least some effort to help wheelchair users.

ArminTamzerian · 18/11/2024 00:11

Isatis · 17/11/2024 23:31

The courts have found otherwise. Bus companies can't just provide a space and then leave passengers to fight it out between themselves. They have to make a least some effort to help wheelchair users.

Edited

No court has ever found that bus drivers need to sort out fights amongst passengers, and never will.

Isatis · 18/11/2024 00:20

ArminTamzerian · 18/11/2024 00:11

No court has ever found that bus drivers need to sort out fights amongst passengers, and never will.

And I didn't say they had. They found however that drivers couldn't just ignore it and must make at least reasonable efforts to protect the interests of disabled passengers. See Paulley v First Group plc.

JubileeJuice · 18/11/2024 00:48

Curtainqueen · 17/11/2024 19:22

who the hell was referring to people as wheelchairs? I was referring to wheelchairs as wheelchairs, because thats what they are. They are a thing. are you hard of reading as well?

Edited

You were. More than once. Wheelchairs have people in them. They don't just miraculously appear on buses. Basic courtesy.

It's so gross when I'm somewhere like a restaurant and staff will say to my DH, "The wheelchair can go there". I'm a fucking human, not a wheelchair. I'm a wheelchair USER, not a wheelchair. Describing an actual person as an object is just vile.

JubileeJuice · 18/11/2024 00:49

Oh, and my best mate is a London bus driver. If a wheelchair user gets on his bus and there are people, luggage, pushchairs or anything else in the wheelchair space, he will turn off the engine if they refuse to move, and won't set off until they do. Inevitably, the other passengers get annoyed at the person who won't move, and they end up moving. Simple really.

DdraigGoch · 18/11/2024 01:33

DragonGypsyDoris · 17/11/2024 13:16

Bus drivers are paid to drive safely. They can ask people to move, but cannot make them move. If they refuse to drive the bus, then rather than one angry person they could face dozens who are being delayed. Bus drivers can't win, and the travelling public (whether passengers or in other vehicles) often blame them for everything.

Is the bus safe if there is a wheelchair user who isn't parked correctly? I thought that drivers weren't supposed to move off until the back of the wheelchair was against the rest.

DdraigGoch · 18/11/2024 01:55

oakleaffy · 17/11/2024 16:42

Many unhinged aggressive people seem to use public transport-I too have had incidents and it’s no wonder people want to use cars to keep away from aggressive assholes like these.

Quite a lot of unhinged, aggressive people drive cars too. Pretty worrying given that a car is essentially a lethal weapon:
www.theguardian.com/world/2024/oct/18/paris-suv-driver-charged-with-after-cyclist-run-over

AutumnLeaves24 · 18/11/2024 03:08

Sleepysleepycoffeecoffee · 17/11/2024 04:43

This sounds too much of a one-sided story and I wonder what actually happened

Oh give over.

AutumnLeaves24 · 18/11/2024 03:16

JubileeJuice · 18/11/2024 00:48

You were. More than once. Wheelchairs have people in them. They don't just miraculously appear on buses. Basic courtesy.

It's so gross when I'm somewhere like a restaurant and staff will say to my DH, "The wheelchair can go there". I'm a fucking human, not a wheelchair. I'm a wheelchair USER, not a wheelchair. Describing an actual person as an object is just vile.

@JubileeJuice maybe they aren't referring to you, but the actual wheelchairs? Maybe they are assuming you'll move ie be moved to a dining chair?!

maybe give them the benefit of the doubt until the absolutely make it clear, then whether floor with them!!

MobilityCat · 18/11/2024 12:11

JubileeJuice · 18/11/2024 00:48

You were. More than once. Wheelchairs have people in them. They don't just miraculously appear on buses. Basic courtesy.

It's so gross when I'm somewhere like a restaurant and staff will say to my DH, "The wheelchair can go there". I'm a fucking human, not a wheelchair. I'm a wheelchair USER, not a wheelchair. Describing an actual person as an object is just vile.

This!

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MobilityCat · 18/11/2024 12:14

DdraigGoch · 18/11/2024 01:33

Is the bus safe if there is a wheelchair user who isn't parked correctly? I thought that drivers weren't supposed to move off until the back of the wheelchair was against the rest.

I've been thrown around in my wheelchair twice while navigating through passengers to the back rest. Reported the driver both times.

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DdraigGoch · 18/11/2024 13:32

MobilityCat · 18/11/2024 12:14

I've been thrown around in my wheelchair twice while navigating through passengers to the back rest. Reported the driver both times.

Presumably this one is worth a report on the same basis then.

MobilityCat · 18/11/2024 14:25

DdraigGoch · 18/11/2024 13:32

Presumably this one is worth a report on the same basis then.

Thank you, yes I have now given the bus number and approximate time to Tfl.

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wisestbee23 · 18/11/2024 18:08

NiftyKoala · 17/11/2024 06:00

I agree. Just from other threads there seems to be a lot of these situations happening to OP.

As a carer to a powerchair-using Husband, I can tell you that some kind of incident where folk are downright thoughtless happens EVERY single time we go out - and we go out a lot. This is our life unfortunately, so it really isn't unusual at all.

Ukrainebaby23 · 18/11/2024 18:53

Don't buses have Cctv these days, we had an incident in our tram, I gave a statement and they corroborated with tram cctv. Prosecuted and sentenced.

Gingernan · 18/11/2024 19:55

This is awful and I'm so sorry. My partner was a London bus driver for many years and they are told not to put themselves in danger from possibly abusive passengers ( some are terrifying and not all drivers are big burly people) they should call for back up including police. There is cctv.
I do remember my partner used to refuse to start the bus if a passenger was being difficult and the rest of the passengers comments were usually enough to get them to leave.

Lovelysummerdays · 18/11/2024 20:03

Up my way a child of 15 was sentenced to four years having head butted and punched a driver who refused to let him on as too drunk. He had to an underlying heart condition and he died, 56 years old. It’s stuff like this which keeps drivers in their cabs.

C152 · 18/11/2024 21:00

wombat1a · 17/11/2024 02:48

There is already a shortage of bus drivers, a lot of it due to the abuse they get. If they start getting involved in stuff like this then there will be even less of them soon. Sorry OP but your issue is not with the bus company but with society.

"stuff like this" - you mean applying the law, which IS part of their job?! The OP's issue is ABSOLUTELY with the individual bus driver and, if applicable, the bus company who possibly failed to provide him with adequate training.

There is ONE safe space on a bus for wheelchair users. Whilst others may use it if there is no wheelchair user on board, they must vacate it (and move their prams, luggage, dogs etc) out of the way as soon as a wheelchair user wishes to board. It is the driver's job to tell them to do so.

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/buses-and-coaches-features-and-help-for-disabled-people/buses-and-coaches-features-and-help-for-disabled-people#using-a-wheelchair

Buses and coaches: features and help for disabled people

https://www.gov.uk/government/publications/buses-and-coaches-features-and-help-for-disabled-people/buses-and-coaches-features-and-help-for-disabled-people#using-a-wheelchair