To try and find some good teens books that don't push the LGBTQ agenda?

[Lifeofthepartay]

Trying to get some books for my daughter who is in S1, books are either too young or they all have a blurb that alludes to the main character's sexual preferences. Would love it if anyone could recommend something your pre-teens, or young teens are reading that don't include those topics? They already get enough information about it in school and the internet.

How would you feel about people saying they didn't want their children reading books that featured people of your race or nationality?

Wow for someone that claims to be so open minded you surely make a lot of assumptions 🤣

Let's not be hard of thinking here, @Lifeofthepartay has not said anywhere that she is banning her daughter from reading books about LGB T or with LGBT. She is asking for suggestions for books on other topics? Maybe she wants her daughter to expand her reading range? Maybe I'm wrong and maybe this is a goady bait thread (we'll never know) but let's not put words into the OP's mouth here. We are assuming a lot that she hasn't said.

I mean, you can keep quoting me until you're blue in the face but I'm not responding to your "arguments". You're homophobic, you know you are, so that's that. I'm not joining your "bashing the gays" fun, because that's all you're after.

That is not what the OP is saying about LGBTQ people though.

She's looking for books that are about something other than sexuality or gender identity, i.e., books with a plot or a central theme that doesn't hinge on discovering a sexual identity.

Why is this so hard to understand?

Exactly, she hasn't even hit puberty yet and people here already saying she might be asexual and I am depriving her from reading stuff she needs to read to validate her sexuality 🤣

Surely that's within an age appropriate bracket?

This is why I was asking for suggestions..I googled preteen books and most of them have sexual themes,partly about LGBTQ struggles.... unfortunately it turned into a political conversation

So reading certain books made no difference to your sexuality but you think not reading certain books will make a difference to my daughter's? 🤦‍♀️

Don't despair.

There's plenty of thought provoking and well written literature out there.

Not so much in 'fast fashion' style bookshops, but there are online retailers if you don't mind a preloved book.

But at 11, sexuality and relationship based books ARE age appropriate. Whether or not your DD wants to read them or she’s not ready is another matter but it’s her choice to read them (or not) as she sees fit.

Why do you think an 11 year old isn’t old enough to read relationship books and why are you trying to police it? I could understand you wanting to police highly sexualised themes, but otherwise you’re unreasonable. That’s what people are saying, not that she SHOULD be reading certain things, just that you shouldn’t be trying to suppress it. You sound like one of those precious parents who doesn’t allow her children to grow up at their own pace.

I think the point here has gone right over your head. It will make a difference to your daughter for the simple reasons that IF she is gay then she will feel better about it and 2. It will help her become more tolerant of other people, so yes, I do think books and other influences can be beneficial, though not for changing sexuality.

And what is the rush about her reading about this at 11? I never said I never want her to read about these themes, just that I don't find the topics appropriate/of relevance at the moment.

I suppose that is open to interpretation. Not all kids get to puberty at the same age and therefore the relevance of these themes don't have an exact age for everyone.

There isn’t a rush but the point is that you shouldn’t be trying to police what she reads whether they are books about sexuality and relationships or not. 11 isn’t young to start becoming aware of who you are and is completely normal to be curious and interested at that age. As long as they aren’t graphic novels, there’s no need to be so uptight. Let her grow up instead of mollycoddling and sheltering her. There’s nothing worse. It does the kids no favours at all.

And I hope you get the support you need in real life rather than getting some angry, swearing at randoms in the internet 🤔

When SHE decides she is ready to read them, she will pick them up. She doesn’t need you to tell her when the appropriate time is. The types of books you are referring to are written for your DDs age range, there won’t be anything traumatic in them 🤣

If the most interesting thing about a person is who they fancy, they are a very dull person. Equally a dull character in a book.

But this is a child who isn't interested in boys or girls, and just wants an engaging or well-written yarn.

According to you, she needs to read books whose raison d'etre is representation, because representation is the most important element of literature.

"Typical boy/girl tales" aimed at eleven year olds are actually not that typical.

Having periods at 11 doesn't automatically mean a girl is interested in her sexuality, and being boy/girl mad at 11 is perhaps an impression given by a loud and forward element in any given class, but these kids are probably not representative of the entire group. (The same goes for class or year group musical taste, incidentally).

It it's absolutely ridiculous here there are people in the comments making assumptions about my daughter might be asexual and that's why she cringes at romance in movies 🤣 , if this is what adults just assume from one line of information, imagine kids! Unfortunately in my opinion the LGBTQ feels forced and no doubt they will be kids just saying they are a different gender or sexual preference because of all the information and pressure they are under. I've heard about kids running around pretending to be animals and labelling themselves furrys, do we really think this is also common? Or could it be more that they read it somewhere and jumped in the bandwagon? It's undeniable that kids are impressionable at that age and this is the whole reason on rating shows, films and books.

I’d say mastectomies of healthy breasts are pretty traumatic?

There are plenty people against people of my nationality, I know I can't change peoples opinions or thoughts, everyone is free and unless someone is physically attacking me or being aggressive to me in-person it's. Ot something I would lose sleep over.

The OP hasn't said anything about that, she's worried about her DD reading about gay or lesbian characters.

Trying to get some books for my daughter who is in S1, books are either too young or they all have a blurb that alludes to the main character's sexual preferences

I wasn’t replying to the OP.

The same way I don't give them books about war, or murder or other sexual preferences that some people would argue are natural

Why are you comparing being gay to war and murder? Being gay is not something horrific, harmful or perverted.

a child reading a story that contains a gay relationship is no different or less appropriate than reading a story that contains a straight relationship.