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Original poster

To think my BIL is a W***ER

45 replies

madcol · 27/04/2008 20:06

I've never really warmed to him. He's always seemed relaly aloof and cold towards me. The rest of my DH's family tell me that he just quiet.

We didn't know what to buy him for his birthday . He is a partner in a massive law firm and earns loads - much, much more than us -so there's nothing he can't get for himself and presents are really tokens.
So I got him some CDs and a couple of books. The first book he unwrapped and immediately said ' It's amazing that you can tell you won't like a book from just the cover'
I was dumbfounded.

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DANCESwithLordPottingtonSmythe · 27/04/2008 20:07

YANBU, he is, in fact, a wanker.

hatwoman · 27/04/2008 20:08

YANBU. next time don;t bother. adults don;t need birthday presents anyway - you are clearly too nice.

FrannyandZooey · 27/04/2008 20:08

LOLOL that is STUNNINGLY rude
he must have spent ages thinking that one up

YANBU

Moomin · 27/04/2008 20:10

Should just say 'you know you're right. It's just like that with people: I disliked you from the first time I saw you.'

My bil is a king-sized arsewipe as well. I just don;t let it bother me any more. MIL makes all kind of excuses for his behaviour but everyone knows really that he is a wanker. Even dh has admitted it now! Unless you have to see him on a regular basis, I wouldn't worry about it.

onepieceoflollipop · 27/04/2008 20:10

Arrogant pig (him not you obviously)

hatrick · 27/04/2008 20:10

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Boco · 27/04/2008 20:10

Wow. He is a rude man.
You should have said 'I felt very much the same when I met you!'.

umberella · 27/04/2008 20:10

LOL! What a knob!

What was the book madcol, i'm intrigued now!!

Boco · 27/04/2008 20:11

Hmm. I see everyone beat me to that gag.

FoghornLeghorn · 27/04/2008 20:11

Perfect retort Moomin

onepieceoflollipop · 27/04/2008 20:11

Apologies, I take back that last post as it is unfair and disrespectful to pigs.

I don't like the w word, so I will just restrain myself to saying he sounds a very arrogant and rude person.

Original poster
madcol · 27/04/2008 20:12

I just can't believe anyone could be so rude. Why would you feel the need to say something like that. If I didn't think I'd like something I would never say that.

It wasn't as if I heard wrongly. I checked with my DH. If someone else hadn' have been there I would have thought I had just misheard.
I tend to put a lot of effort into presents even if they appear uninteresting I've usually done quite a bit of trekking around.

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PosieParker · 27/04/2008 20:12

Why don't you get him a self help book on being polite/having humility/gratitude etc, there must be one!! Or even better one on how to find happiness or (if he's single0 the right relationship and yes he sounds like a wanker.

Carmenere · 27/04/2008 20:12

Or announce the old adage -'well you can choose your friends but not your family'

WanderingTrolley · 27/04/2008 20:14

Was it a book on etiquette?

How did you resist the urge to shove it up his arse?

Original poster
madcol · 27/04/2008 20:14

The book was the Cloud Atlas - which I hadn't read myself but a good male friend had recommended.
Later he qualified the comment by saying it looked like ' a girl's book'.

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Boco · 27/04/2008 20:15

for his next birthday?

Quattrocento · 27/04/2008 20:16

What an arse

Why don't you do some of that deep meaningful eye contact stuff and then say look that was really very hurtful - do you speak to your staff like that?

WanderingTrolley · 27/04/2008 20:17

Oh good idea, Boco.

And it's a hard cover so she might really inflict some damage with it if he doesn't say thanks.

I'm a stickler for manners.....

Original poster
madcol · 27/04/2008 20:18

He's not single but should be IMO.
I going on about it but just feel completely taken aback. Should just forget about it but have taken it personally.

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Boco · 27/04/2008 20:18

or maybe vouchers for a short motivational course?

onebatmother · 27/04/2008 20:19

for Christmas

What an arse.

Spidermama · 27/04/2008 20:19

I would not want to spend any time with him if I were you.

Unbelievably rude. What a tosser.

onebatmother · 27/04/2008 20:20

Oh. too slow.

May I suggest no more presents ever?

PosieParker · 27/04/2008 20:20

Never give him a moments more thought, he's probably that rude to everyone.

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