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AIBU?

Share your dilemmas and get honest opinions from other Mumsnetters.

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To think my BIL is a W***ER

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madcol · 27/04/2008 20:06

I've never really warmed to him. He's always seemed relaly aloof and cold towards me. The rest of my DH's family tell me that he just quiet.

We didn't know what to buy him for his birthday . He is a partner in a massive law firm and earns loads - much, much more than us -so there's nothing he can't get for himself and presents are really tokens.
So I got him some CDs and a couple of books. The first book he unwrapped and immediately said ' It's amazing that you can tell you won't like a book from just the cover'
I was dumbfounded.

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Chequers · 27/04/2008 20:20

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madcol · 27/04/2008 20:21

I like your present suggestions. At moment think I will never want to see him again.

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cornsilk · 27/04/2008 20:22

Next time buy him something really hideous so that he is left in no doubt that you absolutely cannot stand him.

Chequers · 27/04/2008 20:23

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sarahsixtoes · 27/04/2008 20:54

he's such an arse! buy him some loo rollwith his face printed on it

eenybeeny · 27/04/2008 20:58

oh my DH loved Cloud Atlas! And for the record he does sound like a jerk! I agree you shouldnt get him anymore presents!

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madcol · 27/04/2008 20:59

That's great SST. Maybe for Christmas. I might keep it for myself (and DS's toliet training).

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madcol · 27/04/2008 21:01

Good eenybeeny - was beginning to think it was my fault for buying the ' girly book'. it's not as if it on pregnancy or periods is it?

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spicemonster · 27/04/2008 21:06

That is unforgivably rude. Buy him books on manners in future. Or Bear Grylls survival guides or just stupidly macho stuff.

What a tosser

Janos · 27/04/2008 21:09

What a rude and unpleasant man. YANBU. And there's nothing wrong with your present, it's HIM.

Please don't buy him anymore presents, ever again! In fact, just keep away.

I honestly can't fathom people like this. Why on earth be so unpleasant?

themildmanneredjanitor · 27/04/2008 21:11

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madcol · 27/04/2008 21:15

Oh dear - haven;t read it. Next time I'll use his present first before giving it to him.

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Janos · 27/04/2008 21:16

Bloody hell woman, don't buy him ANY presents ever again!

eenybeeny · 27/04/2008 21:16

Well my DH loved it. Books are obviously down to personal taste.

Janos · 27/04/2008 21:17

Sorry, that sounds a bit rude, really, don't waste your energy on this horrible man a moment longer.

CoolYourJets · 27/04/2008 21:21

if not for the lawyer bit I would have thought this was my brother.

I bet he can turn on manners when he thinks the person is of value to him.

Make your kids make him something next time.

eenybeeny · 27/04/2008 21:30

sorry coolyourjets I disagree. Imagine the hurt to the kids if he rudely rejected a piece of their own work? I say buy him a copy of the financial times and be done with it.

CoolYourJets · 27/04/2008 21:31

I know what you mean eeny but I was imagining him being a twunt in front of as wide an audience as possible...

lucyellensmum · 27/04/2008 21:47

you have two options here, you either let it go, happy in the knowledge that he really is a prize twat. Or, and i think this is the way i would go - spend some time researching what makes him tick, what he likes and dislikes and what would really annoy/embarras and make him squirm to receive in public, then buy if for him for xmas or birthday next year and make him open it in front of others. Oh yes, as you can see, i bear grudges

eenybeeny · 27/04/2008 21:48

yeah but a lot of people are clueless and might not even notice the rudeness but you can bet the kids will. I know you totally mean well coolyourjets I just think with someone who is an arse its best not to involve little ones who might get bruised feelings.

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