To find this SO rude

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

Issue at work last week. Was told to find a member of leadership about this as they were looking for me.

Went to find them during the collective break we all have. They must have been on a meeting. I knocked and politely waited. They ignored me for a second after seeing me. Then raises their hand and said firmly “no”.

I just find this rude because if I’m in a meeting I’ll smile and say “come back later”

In isolation this wouldn't bother me.

It must be industry/type of workplace specific because if anyone knocked whilst I was clearly in a meeting, unless it's an emergency I'd be considering them rude and having a word later on.

Hmm not sure about this. Generally, it's considered rude to interrupt someone, but you haven't given us much info here

It would irritate me.

There’s an issue, someone wants to see you, you find them. If they’re busy, it’s just as easy to mime an “I’ll call you” signal as it is to rise the palm of your hand and say “no”.

It is a bit rude but equally you didn't take the hint when they were deliberately ignoring you!

If I saw them in a meeting I'd have gone away.

If possible I would have emailed to say

"I heard you wanted a word and I came round but you were busy. Please let me know when you're free and I'll come round. Thanks "

I think it's rude. It only takes about a second longer to say 'Later, please'.

I definitely wouldn't care enough to start a thread about it.

Rude but I’ve had far, far worse!

Wouldn’t trouble me, particularly if it was a one off.

Is this in a school? I have noticed some SLT think it's appropriate to speak to staff the same way as they'd speak to a naughty child. One of the many reasons I left.

It is rude, but if they were in an important meeting and trying to concentrate, it was probably a reflex response to an interruption.

You don't know what they were in the middle of.

This would piss me right off, don't speak to me like a dog! So rude what a twat 😂

Unless it's life or death why would you interrupt a meeting. That's actually really rude

After you were ignored, you still waited. Should have got the hint,
They were busy.
Don't worry over it, learn for next time, move on. Things like this happen us all. Head up.

Did you knock and then enter without them saying “come in”? The etiquette is knock, wait for “come in”, open the door. If you knock and don’t hear a “come in” then it is rude to open the door.

The thing is I’d be irritated if you interrupted my meeting too. If they were looking for you and also in a meeting then the best thing to do is send a teams message or an email to the tune of “ I came by to speak you about “xyz” but I saw you were in a meeting. I’ll try again later.

That acknowledges that you understand they want to speak to you and you’re going to be proactive about getting a moment to speak to them.

If you’re smart you’ll drop a 5 or 10 min slot into their diary.

Can you set the scene in more detail? It’s really hard to picture this scenario.

Agree!

Did u open the door?

To be honest, I used to ignore people who knocked when I was obviously in a meeting!

I only ever shut my office door when I was in a meeting so everyone knew but they still knocked and it is really irritating.

I don’t think what they said was too awful! You should have come back later.

I think it's pretty likely that OP didn't know the manager person was in a meeting when they knocked on the door

Sounds like you're both up to scratch with usual office etiquette.

Offices are where people doing the real work send their garbage.

I loathe it when I'm in a meeting or a call and people come and hover. Can't they see I'm busy.

Go and come back later.

This!
It would definitely happen in my workplace!

Firstly, she should just use a sign on the door. Secondly, they were typing on the laptop which didnt look like a meeting. Thirdly, I knocked and waited.