Ex swinger

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My boyfriend of 8 months was a swinger before me but won't stop talking about it asking if I'd join in I tried it once and it wasn't for me but after tht he stopped and then he start working away and now messages me everyday talking about what he wants to do iv found out by 3 people he was having phone s...ex with them and he said he didn't but the proof was there can he ever change are am I fighting a losing battle should I walk away are fight

Run!

8 months on and he's pressuring you into things and having phone sex with other people?

Drop this one, there's nothing to fight for.

Jesus why is this even a question? Run.

Nothing wrong with swinging but by it’s very nature it does require both participants to be willing and happy to do it! It’s absolutely fine to say that’s not for you and stick to that.

Also if he’s already had phone sex with others 3 times after 8 months, what would you be fighting for really? Is that a relationship you would want?

He tried to add you to his main interest. You’re not the main interest.

Throw him back in and find someone who shares your likes and doesn't try to change you

He's a cheat and sexually coercive. He's not a good man.

8 months in and he's having phone sex with other people? Don't waste any more of your time on this disrespectful waste of space. Chuck him back, there's plenty more fish in the sea as they say!

Throw him back.

He moved in with me 4 months ago give his place up so if u give up he's homeless I love him but I dnt think he knows what love is

There is nothing to fight for here.

That's a him problem

Swinging is, by its definition, something that you both have to be enthusiastically consenting to for it to work. Definitely not a fake-it-till-you-make-it scenario.

The homeless issue- he should have thought of that before he cheated shouldn’t he!

I don't think you do either, moving in with a guy after 4 months and wanting to fight when he's cheated with 3 people and pressuring you to do things you're not comfortable with isn't love.

He will absolutely start love bombing you if you suggest you're unhappy, there's nobody more in love than a man with nowhere to live, but you can either cut your losses at 8 months or carry on with your boundries being pushed for the next few years before he buggers off with someone else.

What a catch, get rid. No one falls in love quicker than a hobosexual.

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Is he an adult? If so, his housing is his problem. Why did you let a man move in after 4 months? Don't do that again!

Iv new him for 15 years he was my first love I thought I new him and I moved him in because he lived 4 hours away and got offered a job near me

Nah game over on this one.

He will never stop cheating/swinging whatever he wants to call it. Talking from a wealth of experience.

And it absolutely has to be agreed by both parties which is clearly not the case here

Walk way at speed.

As others have said this is not your problem. You don't shit where you eat and he should have known better than to repeatedly cheat on someone who has been good to him.

Run don't walk. He's showing you who he is - believe him and look for better. This is very much a case of knowing your worth op.

Eight months, ffs. My Botox lasts longer than that and actually makes me happy.

Why all the drip feeding OP 🤨
I'm out.

If you moved him in you can move him out!

Hobosexual is my new favourite word.

OP, run like fuck.

FGS woman, locate your spine