To bin this conversation off

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

Been speaking to a dating app guy for 5 weeks. I’m ready to hit the block button because he’s making no date arrangements and we’ve been speaking for 5 weeks now. I feel like I’m being insensitive but the older I get the less nonsense I can tolerate.

If I just block him. Is that unreasonable?

Have you asked him on a date and he’s reluctant or have neither of you asked? Either way, after five weeks without meeting I’m not sure I’d be that bothered.

I don’t think it’s a woman’s job to ask🤣but no I haven’t. It just seems a waste of time

block
for his sake!

Personally, if a guy hasn't made any attempt to meet up after, say, three days of messaging, I just stop replying because it's unlikely he will at that point. I bet his chat is dry af too. Bin him.

He could be waiting for you to ask! But you don't seem bothered.

Don't be so sexist. Of course it's not a man's job.
Don't block him, be honest and say you dont want to carry in the conversation because it's not going anywhere amd you're in the app to physically meet up with people.

You don't need a reason to block someone on a dating app - if it's not working out, move on.

Unreasonable and immature.

Why can't you just end the conversation like a normal person? "Been nice chatting with you Charlie but I've decided not to take this any further - best of luck to you and I hope you find who you're looking for" - you know, that sort of thing?

Do you then accept that it is a woman's job to cook, clean and singlehandedly raise children? There are definitely plenty of other blokes on dating apps who agree with your view so maybe time to chat with some others.

Blocking without explanation is pretty childish if he’s done nothing wrong.

Just say ‘Ive enjoyed our chat but I’m looking to date not for a penpal so wish you well.

If he’s interested that might prompt him to ask but if not move on politely

If you're just going to block him you really don't have anything to lose. Just ask him and if he says not then you know you can stop wasting your time.

Perhaps this is an unpopular opinion but I think you’re both in the wrong for not arranging a date. You’re both adults and just becuase he is male doesn’t mean he is the reason you haven’t met. You haven’t got your finger out either. 5 weeks of speaking on a dating app with no mention of meeting up seems like a waste of time on both parties.

If you are really “getting older and not tolerating nonsense” maybe it’s time to step up a bit and start gaining the confidence to ask a man out x

Don’t be so silly, that’s a very sexist statement. I agree five weeks chatting and no date is ridiculous but you need to ask him, if it doesn’t happen then move on.

If you’re going to get involved in dating apps you need to be proactive.

Good grief. Are we still in the 1950s?

If you wanted a date, then there's absolutely nothing stopping you from suggesting one. It's madness that you're critical of him for not asking for one when you haven't either. And blocking is just pathetic.

'We don't seem to have made much progress after talking for five weeks, so though it's been nice chatting, I think it's time for me to move on'.

Five weeks? Jesus I wouldn't go past five days. I say to people I'm talking to I want to arrange meeting ASAP and if they don't agree it's over. What a waste of time.

I spoke to my partner for 5 weeks before we met but I’m not someone that wants to meet after 1-2 days of talking. I liked to know it’s worth the effort before I spent my free time meeting a man.

Ask him? If he doesn’t want to then you know what to do but just blocking him without even bringing it up is weird.

Poor guy, yeah block him, he deserves better

I always asked on the first conversation. I will be in town on Saturday, shall we get a coffee at 10? If they said no then move on. It's a numbers game, I wasn't looking for a penpal.

I don’t think it’s a woman’s job to ask

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OP, I'm with you. If you have to ask him out, you'll have a lifetime of cajoling him to do anything and everything else.

Just block. You owe him nothing.

To those saying blocking is immature, have you done online dating? It's a numbers game and you need to treat it like a full time job. Therefore, sorting the wheat from the chaff ruthlessly is a must.

I like to chat for a few days before agreeing to meet and I’m upfront about that. Surprising how aggressive some men get when I’ve said that - unless I agree to an interest meet they’re not interested.

Im talking about a few days no more than a week but without planning a meet.

I agree with this. You wouldn't like it if he suddenly blocked you for no real reason.

How about saying that you don’t want to keep chatting without meeting in person? Sounds reasonable. Then he can either ask you out or make an excuse in which case you can say goodbye and block him.

Hi Brian, I've enjoyed chatting to you but I joined this dating site so I could actually meet someone and if you're not interested in meeting up, I'm going to wish you all the best and move on.

That gives him the option to arrange a date or to say goodbye.

God, he might not ask because he wants to wait until you're comfortable as there's more risk involved for women. You could be blocking a really kind man with zero communication to explain why he's been blocked!

If you like him, ask if he wants to take you on a date. Then it's still his responsibility (if that's what's important to you) but you get to move things along a bit. I'm no expert but I feel like "So when are you going to take me out? 😉" is what flirtatious people would say...