To bin this conversation off

[ThePerkyCoralPoet]

Been speaking to a dating app guy for 5 weeks. I’m ready to hit the block button because he’s making no date arrangements and we’ve been speaking for 5 weeks now. I feel like I’m being insensitive but the older I get the less nonsense I can tolerate.

If I just block him. Is that unreasonable?

Why not just say something polite about not wanting to speak if it’s not leading to a date and then move on. Blocking is a bit dramatic!

I did it for years, and very rarely felt the need to block anyone, I have to say. I just stopped replying 🤷‍♀️

Yes I have done online dating and i stand by my view that blocking someone without explanation is pathetic and childish. I wouldn’t have got to 5 weeks without a date tbh but to just block without saying a word is ignorant

The only ones I ever blocked were the sleaze buckets. But they don’t deserve respect

I certainly don't believe this in life but with OLD I think it's a way to filter out the time wasters.

And in all honesty if that is what you believe in real life and how you want to live then no one should be telling you you are wrong.

Block him, he's after a time filler.

If you're getting on well with him and the only problem is that you haven't met up I definitely wouldn't block him! It's not nice and he'll be wondering why. I was on the cusp of cutting off the conversation with my partner when we were first chatting online because I thought he was a penpal and that I was wasting my time. As soon as I said this he promptly organised meeting up the next day, and four years later with a house, dog, child and a baby on the way, I'm bloody glad he did 😅

I would never ask a man on a date and this is why. When a man asks me out, then implicitly he would like to have sex with me. I might rather like to have sex with him, but I'll say no to the date for various reasons (drugs, smoking, married, you name it). If I ask a man out I am implicitly telling him I'd like to have sex with him. Whatever he thinks of me he's not going to turn down the offer, is he? Btw, yes I am jaded and cynical.

Meeting someone for a date is not telling them you want to have sex. It’s meeting them for an initial contact to see if there’s any potential - nothing more than that.

To think every date is implicitly saying you want sex with them is ridiculous

What the fuck are you on about. Absolute mental.

He's married.

I think it's something like 60% of men on dating sites are.

You're not jaded and cynical, just insane.

You sound utterly bizarre and i would love to hear about the dates you’ve been on (from the other person that is!)

That's nuts, I have coffee with plenty of people I don't want to sleep with. Bizarre post

If you aren't prepared to ask yourself, I think you need to move on and set a mich shorter period of chatting so nobody wastes there time.

In my experience of OLD whenever the guy didn't ask me out, they turned out to be a time waster and disappear or unmatch if I suggested it. Sure we're all empowered nowadays and that's great but if the man wants to, he will ask

this is the way @ThePerkyCoralPoet

Absolutely insane to not ask him. I asked my DP after three days of chatting if he fancied a drink! That was 4 years ago with the most kind, loving and wonderful man. Just ask him before you block him.

But if he asks her out, he will have a lifetime of cajoling her to do anything and everything... or does it somehow works differently for men?

In my experience if he is interested he will ask you out.

I wouldn't block him. Invest less and keep your options open.

presuming you’re not referring to my post but the one i was quoting?!

Imagine the pearl clutching if a man said " I don't think it's a man's job to XX"

Block him - for his own sake

Ane maybe consider googling 'sexism'. For you, not him. He isn't being sexist here.

How you let it get to 5 weeks is beyond me. One week is enough, if you've met on a dating app it's obvious what you're there for. So get on with it or move on (both of you, not just him).

@catza - yes, women are different to men. You can disagree, but that's the way I see it. We can agree to disagree.

Wow. The 1940s called. They want you back.

This is 2024. What is wrong with you.