To think it's rude to let your kid sit on a video call eating and slurping away?

[lasagnelle]

My brother always does it. I'm fed up of seeing and hearing my nephew eating. They are 5. It's gross. I don't know why he does it. Aibu to just ignore the call as it's rude or is this what people do with their kids.

Urrrrrgh yes it's like that only the whole time he's eating an apple or a pepper??? Or a watermelon

Usedtobeslummy... or perhaps still is?!

This is exactly the sort of thing I would do and have no idea it had the potential to offend.

Much like I learnt the other day on MN its rude to put a crisp wrapper in someone else's bin.

I can see its a bit tedious but lots of interactions with 5yos are.

He’s your brother, just tell him!

Say “it’s all right for you but you aren’t getting the camera close up in his gob the whole call! Call us after you have finished dinner time and I’ll put Dd on”

This is a strange thing to get worked up about. Surely you have conversation at meal times with children? Go ahead and tell your brother and nephew you’d rather they not call at all. They’re trying to keep a relationship going, but you’re not interested.

But you didn't specify in your original question that you suffer from misophinia. You just said that you think it's gross, and went on to refer to your nephew as "the kid". It just makes you sound like a resenting family member

And? I'm not asking if me with my misophonia name being unreasonable I'm asking if anyone with the same view would be unreasonable.

it's really weird to me that you lie about your dd being there because you don't want her to eat noisily on facetime calls. I mean how many facetime calls is she making? Does she have a tendency to copy everything other people do? Can't you just tell her not to do it?

You sound like a very strange person. Do you even like your nephew? It doesn't sound like it. He's being a typical 5 year old and you're being a lying, judging adult. I know which I think is worse. Are you happy for your dd to pick up your judging and lying and copy those behaviours?

I suffer from misophonia (eating sounds) so I would have to hang up

How old is your DD?

“Do you want to call me back when you’ve finished eating”?

Imagine judging a five year old, who thought of his cousin,🤦‍♀️. That would be a you issue, poor kid.

I'm not judging him I'm judging his dad

He is a five year old child. Talk about being miserable. Leave him be honestly the ridiculous standards held for barely school going children.

I think you've all got me wrong. It's not the slurping and eating. I know kids are terrible eaters. I just don't know WHY he thinks that's a GREAT time for him to phone me.

Can’t you just speak to your brother and ask him to get DN to call when he’s not eating? Say you can’t hear what he’s saying when he’s eating which I’m sure is true. I would also hate this!

Mine were around this age when lockdown started. They hated doing video calls but happily sat still while eating. Unfortunately my DM tended to not focus AT ALL on them and go on to me about some shenanigans with her supermarket delivery or online bridge group while the poor DCs were bored rigid.
I'd rather they sat still and ate than didn't sit still.

He is a child being a child 😂. Honestly I am sorry but to me a child being a child is not offensive.

Speak to your brother and ask that your DN calls when he’s finished eating. I think posters are missing the point. There’s no way I would sit on FaceTime to anyone eating, it’s not difficult to have food at other times rather than on FaceTime, how can people speak without a mouthful of food if they’re eating? I wouldn’t sit around a table with someone talking with their mouth full and I wouldn’t do it on FaceTime no matter the age of the person.