Knowingly stealing - food shop delivery

[Ponter]

We order from one of the main supermarkets. On the day of the delivery (last week), I decided to cancel the shop as many of my plans had changed so i didn’t need some of the stuff that had been ordered.

Anyway, the food van turned up and I had a hunch that if I accepted the order I could get the groceries and still get the refund. Which is exactly what happened. It was a risk but I still needed majority of the groceries ordered so thought I’d chance it. We had similar happen once before but we were honest in that scenario.

Even if the supermarket comes back and want me to rectify the error/pay up I can do so - that’s no problem.

I know it’s wrong but I believe the majority would do the same.

Be honest would you?

Yep, absolutely this. If/when they realise their mistake it could well involve the delivery driver at some point.

No way. I once noticed 3 x cans of Coke I hadn't ordered in my online shop. Told the delivery driver and he said they were a promotion, but I'd have given them back

I think there is, if you are raising your child to think that it's fine to steal in this manner.

I've brought mine up to be honest, and they are, to a fault, as I am, and as were my parents before me.

That's a different issue entirely, and not a justification to steal.

That was uncalled for!

@Ponter Do you think this is different from walking out of the supermarket with a trolley full and not paying?

It's not.

Prices will go up because the margins for supermarkets are tiny. About 10%.
The more that is eroded by theft, the more everyone else (who's honest) will pay for your theft.

The OP is not "struggling", just plain thieving, because she can.

100% NO
Honesty and integrity are very important

You'd only lose sleep if you had a conscience and felt bad for being a common thief. Not Tesco profits.

Think you and your mate are awful. I hope they do notice and charge you.
you say you didn’t plan it, but yet got the idea from your mate?
you have either come on here to boast or for people to tell you it’s ok, but it really isn’t.
no morals with this.
We teach kids not to steal, how is this different? Really if you think?

She isn't "dwelling on it" - she's bloody delighted with her cunning!

Except theft affects the workers. Nobody cares about that.
the workers lose out on shifts, on being taken on on full time, on extra staff so staff have to cover more work etc

im very glad i no longer work in this field.

Yes you did. You got the idea from a friend. You’ve done it before. You were having a dinner party and ordered lovely expensive things and stole them.

But would prefer not to have to pay for 😳

Not struggling at all, she was having a dinner party!

And yet you’re not tempted to shoplift those nice options when you go into the shop yourself? Why not- fear of getting caught? It seems your morals are purely based on whether you’ll get caught, rather than doing the right thing because it’s the right thing. Certainly not the attitude of someone I’d want to be around.

To be clear, you have unequivocally committed fraud and could reasonably be prosecuted if they chose.

Curious as to what else you’d be willing to try.

Is that what you think of people who are honest? Shame on you.

I'm raising my child to apply common sense and empathy to peoples predicaments and not judge

I'm also raising her not to speak about other people's children during an otherwise civilised debate on mumsnet. 🙄 Please do calm down.

I stand by what I've said - big companies who price gouge and make record profits whilst chucking excuses at the average person do not deserve my sympathy when people steal from them. Somebody struggling to put food on the table isn't typically going to encourage their children to steal - they're just doing what they need to do to get by

I realise that op's scenario is different but I still don't judge her - I judge these disgusting companies who put prices up when the whole world is struggling, rather than accepting a smaller profit and passing on savings

What a depressing opinion to have, @thebigbrownbear. I’d hate to believe that every human being was a thief or a potential thief, and that anyone who says they aren’t, must be lying. I couldn’t live in a world that was as dark and cynical as yours - how can you trust anyone, if everyone is a liar and a thief?

I could tell you that I have always returned, or tried to return, items that were delivered in error, and that I’ve even gone back into the supermarket to pay for a Milky Way that had slipped under a bag in the trolley and been overlooked at the checkout, but you would tell me I am a liar.

I once sneaked a packet of sweets in the bag when a I was about 3-4 year old and got a telling off. I haven't stolen since. If it got delivered it likely you will still be charged.

I said you weren't being unreasonable as I thought "well you cancelled it,it's not your fault they still turned up" but then you've blatantly said you got the idea from your friend so was purposely done to steal.

It's way more embarrassing defending a thief.

If you think that's ok, then one can hardly trust your assertion that you "haven't stolen a thing".

Nobody is on a "high horse". I didn't seek the OP out - she posted on a public forum and I am entitled to reply as I see fit. Your reply is very rude!

Indeed. I'd sooner be on a site full of righteous people saying stealing is wrong than one where lowlifes congratulate each other for stealing.

I'd have thought you'd still be charged for a cancelled order that was delivered? I assume the money will still leave your bank at some point OP, don't get too excited!