Please no horrible comments as I’m feeling really upset about this.
I went to hospital today to have a mole removed. I’ve had this mole for years and years, my friend noticed it looked a bit different when we were away so I went to my gp who fast tracked me to hospital and I was sent for surgery.
I was feeling very anxious about this already and had no other conversations with my doctor or anyone about it. I understood though from reading up about it that because of the awkward place my mole is on that it would leave some kind of scar for a while etc.
The doctor came out before my surgery with someone else and I was completely thrown by how he was with me. He said that he recommended I come up as “you said the mole has changed and it’s slightly irregular but i think the mole is likely benign”. Then said that he needed to let me know that due to where my mole was there was a risk of a keloid scar, which I haven’t heard of before and I know it’s stupid of me. He then said that this scar can cause severe itching, pain, and it’s raised and bumpy. Possible risk of infection too. That it’s permenant and something I’ll have for the rest of my life. And with that in mind do I want to still go ahead, as he didn’t want me to regret having it done as it will be noticeable. That I’m young and it will be with me the rest of my life. The language he used made me feel like I didn’t need to be there so made me doubt it.
I understand that they need to go through the risks but the tone and way he spoke to me made me feel so uneasy, I wasn’t sure what to do so I asked what he recommended then and he said he can’t recommend either way, but said that in my position I can either go through with it or I could wait a few months and see if the mole changes again and rebook for removal. That it’s likely benign. I said I’m worried it’s cancerous but he said it’s my decision.
he made me feel so upset, as the tone was harsh, I asked to have a couple of minutes to think and maybe call someone and he said if I need to do that then I’m clearly not ready to do it. I was already anxious and tbh after the way he came across I felt even more uneasy to go ahead with it even if I wanted to so felt I couldn’t even say yes to going ahead. I ended up crying as I felt I was leaving for vanity reasons and they said nothing and offered no sympathy. So I left and said I’d keep an eye on it
i now wonder if I did the wrong thing leaving as I’m also scared it’s cancerous and just feel really stressed and pathetic by the whole thing, i needed some reassurance and i felt like I was purposely being put off.
please im feeling very fragile so if i was completely stupid please go easy on me.