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BF views on Trump

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Itsbeenalongtimee · 06/11/2024 08:47

Had a debate last night with bf about the US election before waking up to this morning's news. He has declared he is happy Trump has won. He has been clear he doesn't want any more kids. So I asked him what would happen if we lived in the US and I got pregnant with a baby he didn't want. His response was that we would just travel to another state for an abortion since it's state law not federal. We have been together for years but I wonder if this is the biggest red flag that you should run from that he supports this verdict?

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KoalaCalledKevin · 06/11/2024 15:05

AddieLoggins2 · 06/11/2024 09:34

I couldn't be in relationship with a Trump supporter, but I guess it depends on how far your views differ from his.

I hate this idea that it's a 'difference of opinion' and that grown-ups can/should overcome it. For me at least, it's a hell of a lot more than just a difference of opinion, it's a difference of core moral values, and I couldn't be with someone, or raise children with someone, whose core values differed from mine that much.

I agree with this.

Obviously it's fine for people to have a different political view to me. But in my relationship, I'd want someone who I have shared values with. I

ReignOfError · 06/11/2024 16:27

MumtananoBay · 06/11/2024 13:32

Quite a lot of people agree with all those things though. Quite a lot of people will be happy about it all. I’m happy about quite a few of them, I’m worried about NATO, not Ukraine. Ukraine was never going to win it was always going to be a negotiated settlement.

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For sure. But whether people approve of them or not, they are still direct impacts of Trump’s win, whereas the OP said they wouldn’t face any.

Circumferences · 06/11/2024 16:32

It's a bit of a myth that trump supports abortion, or introduced a "ban on abortion".

He didn't.

Ro Vs Wade was overturned while he was in office, which meant abortion laws were returned to state-by-state level.

If you agree with states being able to make their own laws according to the wishes of their population, then you agree with Trump.

No amount of sulking or complaining will change the fact that actually, a LOT of Americans are personally opposed to abortion.

poetryandwine · 06/11/2024 17:51

Come on, @hamstersarse : Keir or Kemi?

Bluedabadeeba · 07/11/2024 03:32

AddieLoggins2 · 06/11/2024 09:34

I couldn't be in relationship with a Trump supporter, but I guess it depends on how far your views differ from his.

I hate this idea that it's a 'difference of opinion' and that grown-ups can/should overcome it. For me at least, it's a hell of a lot more than just a difference of opinion, it's a difference of core moral values, and I couldn't be with someone, or raise children with someone, whose core values differed from mine that much.

Couldn't have said it better myself. 100%

Miniopolis · 07/11/2024 03:36

hamstersarse · 06/11/2024 08:59

You really need to accept that people can have different views to you and that doesn’t make them a bad person. It’s called being grown up

Although saying that, I’d be super suspicious of any man supporting Harris, Beta male would be the polite way of putting it

Well, that depends on the views, doesn’t it, obviously?

XChrome · 07/11/2024 04:08

How important are your political beliefs to you? Our political beliefs reflect our values. If he does not share your values, that is definitely a red flag for incompatibility. I could not be with a Trump supporter or any man who is dismissive of sexual assault. But the question is, how do you feel about the fact that he supports a rapist and is dismissive about rape? If it's a dealbreaker, break the deal. You have to decide what you can live with. I would think it would erode your trust in him to know he thinks so little of women.

XChrome · 07/11/2024 04:10

Penguinmouse · 06/11/2024 11:17

If you were sexually assaulted, do you trust your boyfriend to believe you or would he consider it a smear?

Great question.

Flyhigher · 07/11/2024 09:51

Supporting Trump isn't being a grown up.
It's gross stupidity and or selfishness.

Run run run.

Flyhigher · 07/11/2024 09:52

Supporting Trump does make you a bad person.
The effects will be awful for the planet and many people and women especially.

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