To ask if anyone really knows you?

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Just that?
I don’t think anyone in my life knows me, not at all, not even the tiniest bit. I can’t decide if it’s comforting or scary that I can have had people in my life for 30 years of more as friends or family and still feel they don’t know me. Facts about me - yes. But they don’t actually know me, I feel completely removed from everyone most of the time.
Maybe I don’t really know anyone else either.

Is that how everyone is?

Keep it that way.

My husband and my mum.

I don’t think anyone knows me 100% inside out. I wouldn’t like that though. My mum and my sister and my two or three closest friends know the most important bits of me though.

Absolutely nobody, not fully, no. I would hate anyone to though. That belongs only to me.

I think this is normal
everyone has inner (sometimes weird) thoughts - they won’t be know to anyone else

Nobody knows anyone 100%

Most people i interact with regularly (family & colleagues, even those I considered friends) know my birthday, that I have two children and that I'm incredibly forgetful but that's roughly it

Only my partner really knows me, my likes, dislikes, my behaviours, quirks, fears and darkest secrets.

Isn't there a quote or something that states everyone has 3 masks/personalities etc
The first you show to the world.
The second you show to those close to you, friends and family.
And the third you never show anyone, only you know it as its the truest version of yourself.
This makes sense to me.

I think my closest friends and husband know me pretty well. I think we all have an inner life and thoughts that we don't share with anyone though. I'm not an extrovert and I'm quite a private person so a lot of what I think about goes unsaid - I probably live inside my own head a bit too much!

I think people can always surprise us, even when we think we know them. I have no idea how other people see me, to be honest.

I feel like this too.

Perhaps your children see who you really are. It’s difficult to only show your public face to them when you have leaking breasts, zero sleep and got to get them to the child minder and yourself to work.

I don't think you can truly know yourself though. I don't know how I might react to certain situations so I guess I couldn't expect anyone else to know.

I like what @Lovehearts82 says about the masks. Dh thinks he knows me so well but there is a lot I conceal and just as well. I can have some negative intrusive thoughts I could never share with him. I also get really angry about stuff he doesn't understand so there is no point in sharing. Sometimes I don't know why I am irritated by something so can't explain anyway.

That makes complete sense and I feel that's true in my case...

No. I would never let them.

I was pondering on this recently.

I wonder if the people in our lives know us more than we realise. I think my DM knows me more than I'd like to believe. OH knows what I'm like, scarily so. I don't give much away to others, just the basics. I hide my personality or maybe I just lack confidence in who i am..

Well this just made me feel more normal!!!!!! Yes, I totally think/feel this too, thought it was just me

DH is the person who knows me best, but there is plenty that I keep from him. I think he wouldn't approve of certain things, or would interfere with them, so it's best to keep them hidden.
There are lots of traits I have that would meet disapproval from others, and some things I do would get me into trouble, and I think it's wise not to reveal them. My family don't know me well at all, and I don't have close friends because I keep people at arms's length.

Sadly I think I am transparent to all. I have difficulty hiding feelings and thoughts which can be a blessing and a curse for me and others.

I feel completely removed from everyone most of the time

No, I don’t think that’s normal at all.

I agree that people probably don’t know you completely but to feel that friends and family of 30 years don’t know you “even the tiniest bit” is unlikely.

I think you should say this to your GP.

This. I think our children know us best.

My DH, sister, and best friend know me. DH more so than even the other two, I don't think there's a single thought that passes through my head I'd not be able to tell him. He can always guess what's going on in my head, and is eerily good at being able to slip in and soothe worries before I've even fully clicked I've got them.

I don't know what's normal and what isn't, as we're all different...but this sounds a little isolating to me. But then, what's normal for me could feel uncomfortable for you.

I think different people know different aspects of me so old friends know some bits, DH knows some and DCs know some but some are mine alone...

I bloody hope not!

I mostly live inside my head. So nobody can truly know me. I don't think anybody can know anyone 100%.