To not be very sympathetic to dh

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DH has a bad cold. It has been going on for over a week now. There have been a lot of symptoms. He now has occasional dizziness if he stands up or moves his head awkwardly. I am pretty sure this is blocked ears/nose.
He has just: walked dramatically into the garden and straight back in leaving doors open, announced he might need to seek medical help (and then changed his mind), told me he is afraid the dizziness might be causing him permanent harm, announced he has to go to bed with something light to read, asked for an apple, asked for tea (fresh ginger please), asked what the symptoms of a stroke are.
FFS!
should I just ignore?

He needs a Dressing Gown of Doom

And some Slippers of Shuffling Despair

Ahhhhh! I'm not normally v patient with man flu! 🫣🥴 However, maybe he's actually v poorly? He's got me worried!! The symptoms don't sound great. Hope he'll b ok!

He also refuses to take any drugs that might help him instead seeking out weird old vitamins he was given about 5 years ago and never touched.

the man cold

Why not give him a cuddle and a cup of ginger tea instead. We all feel poorly every now and then. As long as it's not everyday, why not show some care and compassion?

I empathize. I live with a chronic catastrophizer. Every illness is undoubtedly the onset of something very very serious. I love him but fuck me he can be a nob. You've just got a fucking cold!!!

That is brilliant! You have won the internet today.

How is he when y^^ou are poorly...?

I’ve done all that

I'd tell him to shut up unless he's tried the cold and flu remedies no doubt stocked up in your household. Then he can ask you for advice.

He obviously needs to see a GP. A bit of sympathy wouldn't go amiss. Don't overdo it.

🤣🤣🤒

I had the cold last week. He let me get on with it although he did make the dinner every night so that was kind

Internal eye roll but obviously keep an eye out, just in case.

Two weeks ago I had a horrific cold/virus. Nothing stopped. Didn't occur to DH to get up early to help out. 'Help' was telling the DC on Thursday night, 'mummy's really unwell so behave. I have an important role at my (hobby) now & if I have to come home I'll be very unhappy'. Then ate the dinner I cooked (but didn't eat) & left me to it.

Friday night, DH got it. Spent all weekend on the couch, snoozing with an alternate snoring & death rattle breathing (mouth open), all day. Wouldn't stay in bed. Wandered around like a zombie & moaned about how ill he was. Did nothing, too ill apparently.

It'd be hilarious if not so infuriating!! Yes, I did point out the disparity & got told I had to ask if I needed help!! Considering he didn't have to ask, just assumed I'd do everything, that's a bit rich!!

Just checking he doesn’t have BPPV? Apparently it’s very common. When I had it, I was worried I had a stroke. It made me feel very vulnerable.

@Saltandvinegarflavourcrisp offer him sex!! that usually results in sudden improvement of health!! 😄

@sprigatito 😂made me laugh

"He needs a Dressing Gown of Doom"

"And some Slippers of Shuffling Despair"

It sounds like the dizziness is probably blocked sinuses. Tell him he's better being upright so they can drain and he needs to take a decongestant, Sudafed is good. If it's not getting better, he needs to see the GP as he might have a secondary bacterial infection. Unfortunately, if he's not willing to help himself, there's not much you can do! I would run out of sympathy very quickly too!

No one is ever as ill as a man which is precisely why it was designed that it's women who give birth.

I do also like the slippers of shuffling despair 😂I may need to deploy these upon my next illness!

You're more patient than me OP. By now I would have said ffs stop whinging. Which is probably why I'm single.

@allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld I reserve that for extreme nursing requirements

He also refuses to take any drugs that might help him

Why do they do this? Why is the answer to “have you taken a couple of paracetamol/had a Lemsip (or whatever)” always a surprised “no”? My dad did this. My husband does this. It is infuriating…..

Tell him it sounds like the syndrome named after a Russian physician; Dr Rotacokoff. That if he doesn't feel better in 24 hours he may need an amputation.

He’s now saying he is afraid he has a virus which is damaging his nerves. But he won’t seek medical advice, take anything, have a hot water bottle etc. he says when he doesn’t think about being dizzy he’s ok but when he thinks of it it comes on !!
I have gone to bed in other room along with dog who is scared of the fireworks.
i really hope he is better tomorrow …