To be annoyed my neighbour came into my flat uninvited and asked about my rent?

[TheCheeryKoala]

I just moved into a new flat on Friday. The door was open because the movers were going in and out, and I was packing up one last box before we left. Out of nowhere, a neighbour I’d never spoken to before just walked into my flat, started looking around, and then asked how much I paid for it!

I was polite but firm and told her to leave and maybe consider having some manners.

AIBU to think this was way out of line? I get being curious, but barging into someone’s home and asking about rent feels like a massive boundary to cross. Has anyone else dealt with neighbours like this, or am I overreacting?

So we're you packing to leave? Or... Packing to? stay??

Your post really isn't clear - was this at your old flat or your new one?

Not unreasonable at all one of my old neighbours asked me who I was renting through as we were leaving. We had a list of issues with that house. But we were in the front street I warned her off they had damp so was looking for somewhere else. I didn't want her going from one bad situation to answer.

Maybe she wanted to see if she could afford it? Are there new tenants do you know?

Assuming I'm reading right and this was at the flat you are vacating and happened as you were packing up the last of your things to move to your new place.

I don't think what she asked was awful but yes, it's not the done thing I don't think.

Maybe if she'd knocked, waited to be invited in and said something like I hope this isn't too personal but I was thinking about renting this flat / a flat like this and wondered how much the rent was.
Or it's the same sort of flat and she said something about feeling like she might be overpaying
Stuff like that would have been a more socially acceptable way for her to behave.
Just marching in and saying "how much was your rent here?" is going to feel rude to a lot of people I would imagine.

That said, your reply was equally rude. Fight fire with fire I guess. I'd have been a bit more diplomatic but you're never going to see her again I assume.

No this wouldn't bother me at all. You were leaving, the place was being emptied. Totally fine to wonder what rent you used to pay.

You are very hard to understand.

Could you clarify whether this is the flat you are leaving or moving into? It'd help us see the context.

Personally I think you were just as rude. It wouldn’t have bothered me.

I would have assumed she wanted to know how much the rent was in order to give a friend/colleague the heads up that there was a potential rental available at £xxxx.

I don't think I would have taken offence under the circumstances. Had she barged in while I was in the bath and with no intent to move, then that might have been a different matter.

It’s odd behavior on the neighbors part - but also you seem very annoyed about something that most people would just raise an eyebrow about then have a funny story to tell friends.

You need to ramp down the outrage - save yourself somewhere to go when you get proper nightmare neighbours!

You were getting ready to leave, so not really living there anymore. Not something I could get worked up about. Pettiness. If it was a new neighbour, in the new place then absolutely CF and you should be pissed. This, is being annoyed over fuck all.

Some people are so abnormal.

You've asked for advice but it's hard to give as your post is unclear.

Why can't you just answer in a normal manner? Very odd.

Why would they want to break the ice with someone who won't be there after today? OP was moving out, not in.

Oh well, clearly (?) I thought they were moving in, not out.

The first sentence starts: 'I just moved into a new flat on Friday. The door was open because the movers....'

The confusion at this post was discussed earlier. To be honest, if I'd known she was leaving this house, I wouldn't even have bothered to answer. It's a non-entity. *Shrugs, people act weird or different. If it were a new neighbourhood, I would have made a point not to be too friendly, but I wouldn't have been outraged, mortified, or anything else. If it were my old neighbourhood, I would have thought it was weird and moved on with my life.

If it was the old flat (which as lots of people have said isn’t clear), then she probably thought she might try to rent it if she’s looking for somewhere to live. Or wanted to compare your old rent with hers if she was an old neighbour you’d ‘never spoken to before’.

I honestly don’t think it’s that big a deal. I’d’ve just told her!

I wouldn't have had a problem with this. You were packing up the last box to leave, so it wasn't really your home any more? Maybe she is thinking of moving, or wonders if her rent is a good deal/too high etc.? I would have just told her. To me it sounds like you overreacted.

Walking in on your new home uninvited? weird and poor social boundaries.

packing up a rental and moving out and never going to see the place or neighbour again? meh, couldn’t get over worked about that.

Did she not even say hello? Were the first words out her mouth literally "What's your rent?"

What you specifically said was that you were packing up one last box before you left. With the door standing open, because the removal men were going in and out.
You had, for all intents and purposes, finished living there.
Honestly, get over yourself.

I'd have been 'rude' too.
'Who the fuck are you, get tae fuck'
I find moving stressful though 🙃

new flat? bad manners
old flat? you are moving out, its a bit abrupt but reasonable

If you were moving in; definitely out of order and well done for calling her out on it

If you were moving out; maybe she knows someone who wants to move in? Maybe your flat is bigger and she wants to move in? Maybe she’s trying to negotiate a rent reduction? I’d have answered as it is no skin off your nose.

Not the politest way to introduce herself but I’d assume your flat was larger, better positioned or nicer than hers and she was hoping to get first dibs with the LL if the rent was affordable.

You still don't walk right in. Stay on the doorstep until invited in or not! YANBU at all, OP.

Hmm...I think considering it was a flat you were leaving and, almost out of, I wouldn't have been fussed. Seems like you shat it a little.

Would have just answered her question and then 'sorry, I'm a bit busy atm, but the estate agent is xyz if you want to arrange a viewing or anything' then walked her out.