To find it annoying and entitled when men start demanding photos?

[Lyannaa]

It pisses me off when someone starts chatting to you and they demand photos in an entitled way. You know they're probably also talking to 100 other women which I don't particularly care about but I also don't feel particularly invested to send them a whole bunch of photos of me in different situations when I will probably never meet them.

I'm always happy to do FaceTimes if people genuinely want to check I exist. But I don't feel like giving them to-order photos. AIBU?

YANBU but it is normal to want to know quite quickly what both people look like as there has to be an attraction, limited wasted time then. Sadly some people are just on looks and won't meet so miss out on the chance of genuine chemistry.

But a video call is easier to establish that, I think.

I don't get this, surely you have a few photos on your profile in OLD anyway? If they ask for more, I just say no. I do include one whole body shot though, as usually what they mean is 'are you fat?' or 'will you send me sleazy photos?' and so that's why I never send any more photos than what's already there, which are not filtered and do include pics of me.

If everyone is asking for more photos, check if your original photos are clear, not heavily filtered and show the whole of you. If not, it can be a bit cat-fishy.

If you prefer a video chat, say that!

But with a video call they have to put effort in, talk to you, if they don't fancy you then they'll feel awkward.

I don't have OD, this is a man who started messaging me on FB. He didn't friend request me though. But when I did online dating I did of course have photos. They want a whole bunch of other photos in other situations.

I probably wouldn't bother, unless you know him already, he's obviously seen enough to text you, it's a bit weird to then start requesting lots in different situations- what kind of situations?! Just say no, this is not a good starting point.

That's why dating apps have profile pics.

The ones who randomly add on Snapchat and demand a pic are the ones that will do the same teenagers but too many MNetters don't supervise their kids.

Clearly a sleaze, don't waste your time.

Be wary of people on facebook saying they like your profile and want to be friends. They are usually dodgy.

I've had that and I give absolutely nothing away about myself in my profile and my picture is of a cat. It's hilarious when they tell me how taken they are with it, and would like to see more photos of me.

I thought this but his original conversation came across like online dating.

Good forbid that someone should put any effort in when they were pursuing you, eh?

I would be very sceptical on FB but that's because I only have handsome pilots and surgeons in the US Air Force wanting to be my friend on Facebook. Sadly on OLD sites I've tried to find these handsome silver foxes but they've all disappeared...

I would just completely ignore this one. I certainly wouldn't be sending out photos.

I don't date now but when I did it would make me furious when men would say hey or hello and nothing else.
If they can't find anything interesting to say they should bugger off. I don't respond to hey.

Demand? No, never came across it. I've been asked though and in some circumstances, it may be appropriate.

It just irritates me. I notice they hardly ever offer extra photos of them! Maybe I should ask him to prove he's got a 6 pack 🤣

Do people really chat to random men who message them on Facebook? I just always assume they're scammers/catfishing and block them!

I probably should talk to them you're right. This one did look normal though.

I have never in all my years using FB (over 10) been messaged by a genuine stranger and asked for a photo. Yes the silver haired pilots and swarthily handsome oil rig workers abound, of course they do but real people? nope.

this.

The ones you mention are quite prolific and always come out with the same patter. They often attach themselves to groups people by the quite elderly and target widows who they think might have money

Oh well if they think I've got money, they're barking up the wrong tree 🤣

But the thing is, anyway that this is fairly typical male behaviour on dating sites. Men making you feel that you OWE them pictures.

Its quite fun to string them along sometimes then do a reverse image search snd go “ oh look I have found your long lost twin brother”