For being annoyed with my GF when she lets our DS interrupt

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Let me set the scene: last week I met my GF and DS (10) in a park. I started discussing our plans for the following weekend, but as I did so my son interrupted. I pointed out to him that we were having a conversation and that it's rude to interrupt, and then I looked over at her and she was taking a photo, so she wasn't really paying attention either. I got a little annoyed and said there was no point in talking to her if she's not going to listen.
This has now dragged on for three days of her being angry and passive-aggressive with me because I think it's rude for my son to interrupt conversations. Today she said I had "Victorian values" and that I should let my son talk — even if it does interrupt our conversations. AIBU?

YANBU. Kids should be taught not to interrupt someone talking or a conversation - adults shouldn't be interrupting, and we learn not to do it ideally whilst we are children.

You said he's your son. So if you parent him properly he won't be rude. As for your GF not listening to your "discussion " maybe you were waffling on a bit. Just guessing on that based on your OP. How has your relationship been prior to this?

If this is the full circs of the issue yeah it's annoying and he should be taught not to interrupt. A friends DS does this and I find it so rude.

You're right he shouldn't be interrupting. It's not Victorian to instill basic manners. You should have each others backs and letting this drag on for days is very immature.

I'd say that she doesn't like being challenged and doesn't want you to have an opinion.

You seem to be blaming her for your son's behaviour, but you're his parent too, and are just as responsible for this. You've had 10 years to knock it on the head.

YANBU to expect to be able to teach children not to interupt.

The three days sounds weird. EITHER, she really hates any sort of argument or criticism, even of the mildest sort, in whch case you have a bigger problem. OR you went on and on and on about it, made a huge deal, behaved like some kind of weird victorian disciplinarian, in which case she has a bigger problem. Impossible to say based on the OP.

I totally agree op. But this is MN so very soon you’ll be told off because children should be allowed to do what they want and to even suggest that they be reigned in would be traumatising, isolating, suppressing their self expression or any of the other wanky excuses people have for not teaching their kids manners.

Your GF is sore because you pulled her up on rudeness too. Don’t have kids with her, she sounds like a dope.

Fully agree with you. It's rude and you are teaching him it's good manners to wait.

I have a mid-20's person working in my office and eventually, I've had to explain it's rude to constantly interrupt. I may be explaining something which has no relevance to his job to someone else and he will butt in. Or if I am explaining something to him, instead of waiting until I've finished, he will interrupt. I've have done it gently but firmly and he seemed totally unaware that he shouldn't keep doing it. He is much improved now which makes things a lot easier.

It sounds like you have different approaches to parenting.
Maybe she feels patronised by you.
It's a pity it's dragged on for three days. Can't you apologise?

My own mother used to do my head in, I would be telling her something (often important) and one of the kids (mine or my sisters) would go up to her for something and her attention would go straight to them, and she wouldn't even bother coming back to our conversation

Totally agree with you. I'm child-free and have witnessed this so many times with parent acquaintances and it's wild to me that parents even do this to each other!

You have 50% of the responsibility here. Why in 10 years have you not already taught him to wait his turn?

Tye GF sounds like hard work! Does she often have 3 day sulks? Tell her to grow up!

She's probably angry with you for being a stroppy git that she was taking a photo, not because you told off your son for interrupting.

People listen with their ears and can multitask. Plus you weren't speaking to her at the time, you were telling off your son. Which didn't require both of you to be involved.

Did you just want her to be gazing at you soulfully, hanging on your every word?

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I mean getting annoyed she was taking a photo is silly as we can infact multi task, but yeah interrupting is a no no for me, not hard to wait your turn.

It is rude, and they should be pulled up on it in an appropriate way, but kids do get excited at times and forget about their manners, I wouldn't see a problem with you telling him it's rude, but if you really went off lecturing about it and ruining a perfectly good park trip within 2 minutes of getting there I'd be peeved with you too.

If she was taking a photo while you were lecturing your son, then you start lecturing her for not listening to you (even though you weren't actually speaking to her at the time), then double whammy of annoyance.

It actually sounds like you were frustrated before you even got there, such a small thing as your child interrupting you and your girlfriend taking a photo *she can listen while doing that BTW), shouldn't have set off such a high level of annoyance from you IMO.

Is there more to this then you are saying?

Let me set the scene:

Oh dear........ pompous, much?

I got a little annoyed and said there was no point in talking to her if she's not going to listen

You sound remarkably like my ex-husband. Thankfully, we're now divorced.

It all depends on the reason he interrupted.

I know someone who allowed her children to constantly interrupt. It's very rude and really tedious. Mind you, she was from a family where if you didn't speak very loudly and interrupt, you were just not heard

It’s also rude to talk about things in front of people who aren’t allowed to join in the conversation.

If she’s happy to have an ill mannered child, I’m not sure there’s a lot you can do about it. Some parents are like that. 🤷‍♀️

There’s a good Bluey episode on training kids not to interrupt and why it’s rude. Show it to your girlfriend.

YANBU.
Interrupting people's conversations is bloody rude and children who don't get corrected become adults who don't know when they need to stfu.

so in the whole 10 years... only now are you telling your child not to interupt? i'll wait for the drip feed i think