For being annoyed with my GF when she lets our DS interrupt

[Plaidspeed]

Let me set the scene: last week I met my GF and DS (10) in a park. I started discussing our plans for the following weekend, but as I did so my son interrupted. I pointed out to him that we were having a conversation and that it's rude to interrupt, and then I looked over at her and she was taking a photo, so she wasn't really paying attention either. I got a little annoyed and said there was no point in talking to her if she's not going to listen.
This has now dragged on for three days of her being angry and passive-aggressive with me because I think it's rude for my son to interrupt conversations. Today she said I had "Victorian values" and that I should let my son talk — even if it does interrupt our conversations. AIBU?

You are quite right. I hate it when a kid of school age/over interrupts for the sake of it. My grandchildren used to do that and get pulled up about it. It's bad-mannered.

Indeed

Sorry, just to clarify as I can’t tell from your OP when you mention meeting them in a park. Do you live with your girlfriend and son?

FWIW, I think you are right to teach him not to interrupt and I think GF should talk to you rather than be silent. But there is always nuance etc.

Of course you can multi-task but if someone is talking to you it is good manners to look as well as listen or it appears you're taking no notice

Not all of us like to look directly at someone the whole time they're speaking 🤷🏻‍♀️

"I started discussing our plans for the following weekend, but as I did so my son interrupted."

Might your son say that you both started a fresh conversation in an empty conversational gap at the same time, then you assumed priority?
Might some of your extra seconds of precedence partly have been inside your head whilst initially forming your conversational plan?

You've both overreacted massively, to be honest. It should have been a simple, "Hang on a moment, (child), I'm talking to Mum. Wait your turn." Why are there such hurt feelings and ignoring each other for days? Over a really simple, non-event in parenting.

He has a 10yr old with her 😄

This. You sound like you want to be in charge of everyone.

However a three day sulk isn't great either. The two of you need to learn to communicate effectively.

@Screamingabdabz the child is his. He has had 10 years to teach the boy not to interrupt and he hasn't bothered and laid the blame on the gf as if he had nothing to do with the situation. I suspect that is the issue the gf is pissed with and although sulking is not great OP sounds like a twerp.

It's interesting he refers to them as 'bf/gf' rather than as 'partner'. He clearly isn't a partner in the raising of their child.

Is GF the child's mother?
Have you ever been described as boring or someone who fails to pick the right moment?

Same! Once I was trying to talk to a friend snout a bloody cancer scare and she kept letting her child interrupt and then got into a conversation with him instead. Over and over and over. Then it would be “oh what were you saying?”

Drives me mad and I genuinely don’t understand why parents let it happen!

You’re not wrong about teaching kids not to interrupt but getting pissed off with someone for taking a photo sounds needy and a little controlling tbh.

It makes me wonder if you have form for being short tempered and controlling. Either that or your GF is batshit - the three day sulk is grotesquely over the top.

Do you mean "interupt" or do you mean "join in with the conversation"?