To block someone who unfriends you on social media

[PJames84]

This is a bit tongue in cheek but something that does give me great pleasure, even though I do know it’s totally petty and pathetic.

It’s hard to find out who has unfriended you on Facebook but I’ve worked out a way to do it. If you look back on old posts and check who has liked them, if the person is still your friend it offers the prompt to message them but if they’ve unfriended you it prompts you to “add friend”. When I’m bored I go back on all my posts and check and if anyone has unfriended me I go and block them. It’s totally pathetic I know but it makes me feel like I’ve taken back a bit of control of the situation - ok, you don’t want to be my friend but now you can never undo that. Does anyone else do anything a bit petty like this to make themselves feel more in control?

For AIBU
YABU - this is pathetic, don’t waste your time.
YANBU - this is an ok thing to do if it makes you feel better.

I unfriend people whose posts are irritating or off-putting in some way. So they'll probably be relieved to be blocked by you too, if they even notice. Or you could reflect on what you post and why so many people might have unfriended you. I'm assuming it's several people in order for you to have come up with all this.

Why are you unfriending 'lovely friends' who you enjoy spending time with? Just because you're bored with their online presence?

And your own MOTHER, just because she posted something about online safety? Bit harsh. You do know that you can just unfollow them don't you, then you won't see their posts. No-one I know would unfriend 'lovely friends' and their own mother FFS! 😆

No, my mother takes online Facebook quizzes which then scout her friends lists for personal information. She gives all kids of permissions and has very poor online safety awareness. And no, I don't want to see 50 inspirational quotes a day on my Facebook. I am not sure why you are so horrified. I am friends with these people in real life and we message each other and meet regularly. Facebook is entirely inconsequential and we don't put any stock in it and prefer real life interactions. Like, you know... normal people

Just unfollow them @Catza Unfriending genuine friends, and your own mother 'because I don't like to see what they post' is really quite dramatic and attention-seeking behaviour.

I seriously doubt your mother is the only one on Facebook who does the quizzes on there! (And gives the people who put the quizzes on Facebook access to her friends list.) You may as well deactivate your Facebook if you're that paranoid about it!

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FGS, It's a discussion forum not a bloody fastest fingers first competition.

You sound as pathetic as the OP.

Jobless behaviour indeed.

Try again.

Well at least we all know why so many people are unfriending you! Bizarre behaviour, please look into finding a hobby or something

While I wouldn't waste my time like this (I have plenty of time wasting activities of my own), I can understand that it is very satisfying to OP. You do you, OP and be as petty as you like. Don't concern yourself with what others think.

I wouldn't take unfriending personally - there are a lot of reasons for doing it, many of which aren't about you as a person. They could be doing a digital de-clutter. They might want their friends list to be tight and limited for reasons of personal security. It could even be because their account was hacked and they had to set up a new one.

Blocking is another matter. It's a statement: go away and keep going when you get there. I only block when I have my own very solid reasons for doing so, eg, the couple of old school-friends who turned a bit stalkerish, another who used a thread I'd started about getting my covid jab as a platform for conspiracy theories, etc. The use or not of emoticons (they are so blunt and lacking in nuance you can't rely on them) and unfriending (see above) wouldn't feature.

Why waste your time - get a hobby

Life is too fucking short! 😆

People are being a little unkind OP! But no, I don’t think I would necessarily block someone who unfriends me. Sometimes it can happen accidentally if your account is hacked which happened to me. Some people just have clear outs of the friends they don’t talk to much or see in real life. It’s not necessarily personal. If it’s a person who is unlikely to try to contact you randomly then it makes no difference if they are blocked or not. I think I would only block in harassment type situations, where I wanted to send a message to someone who was likely to contact me that I wasn’t interested in talking to them.

Social media has melted some people mins ffs

The blocking is petty I agree but sometimes it can be fun to be petty. The actively checking who has unfriended you is really unhealthy behaviour, it’s not the kind of thing that someone who is in a good place would do, certainly not on a regular basis.

Unfriending isn't an act of aggression, it generally just means that the two of you don't really overlap any more and a lot of people like to keep the list to just closer people. I find it mildly sad because I quite like that ring of casual acquaintances, but I wouldn't think to block.

half-term poster

Nah, that's pathetic. Who's got the time and energy to check who is or isn't friends with you.