dd messing around in class

[FlakySwan]

dd1 is 14 and now is in the end of year 8 (year 9 in the UK) at school. In the parents teacher conference, some of her teachers have reflected to me that her attentiveness in class can be improved.

I have talked to dd1 about this, and she told me that since at her school the year 7s and year 8s use the same textbook and are accessed on the same things, just at different levels, she already knew everything from last year for some lessons, so she just joins in the classmates who are messing around (quietly).

I feel conflicted about this as I value a good attitude in class and to learning, but I also see little harm in her not paying attention as long as she is on top of things and does not disrupt class.

OP has terrifyingly low aspirations for her daughter. Let’s hope the child has another parent with higher hopes.

Honestly I’d be appalled if my DD did that.

Teachers are pretty good at knowing where their pupils are and giving the appropriate work to match. I can almost guarantee your daughter is not as smart as she thinks she is and should be doing the assigned work and not messing around.

How can you possibly be trying to justify this behavior? It is absolutely appalling and your daughter is being completely disrespectful and rude. I cannot fathom how you aren't completely disgusted by her behavior. School is teaching children how to interact and behave once they are graduated and go into the workforce. Do you really think if your daughter is bored in a meeting one day that she can just flounce off and do whatever she wants? Smart students know this behavior is wrong. And if they still do it they are proving how rude and nasty they are. A good parent would back the school and let their child know this behavior will not be tolerated and there will be consequences.