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To ask for my child to be put in a different taxi

187 replies

Odearr · 24/10/2024 16:09

My 11 year old ds goes to a sen school, mainly the needs of the children are semh -he had autism and adhd.
he loves school. Feels safe, everything there is good.
however, my son has been out in a taxi with 3 other children from the same school who are older than him (they are year 9) and this past week he has been threatened with being strangled, put in a headlock, had his phone taken and they kept calling me telling me "I'm f**king your son" "we're beating you're son up"
and today came home with a pumpkin he'd carved at school smashed up and the other child had thrown it at him, put his phone inside it, put pumpkin bits all in his hair and over his clothes.

No way is he getting in that taxi tomorrow, and I have emailed the council transport team and tried to contact the school but waiting on a call back.

AIBU do insist that this transport isn't appropriate or safe and they he's given alternative transport ? I know the la are going to be hard to convince because it will cost
more money, but he can hardly be expected to be subjected to this every day

OP posts:
EndlessLight · 25/10/2024 20:43

SunQueen24 · 25/10/2024 20:37

Sorry £900 per year, not month!

Im not sure how it’s dressed up but in my area most people are paying - many years ago my parents paid too!

However it is dressed up, DC attending their nearest suitable (qualifying) school which is further than the statutory walking distance (3 miles for secondary pupils) are entitled to free transport. Those parents need to speak to the LA.

BrendaSmall · 25/10/2024 21:14

GreyBlackLove · 25/10/2024 13:01

Do you really expect people to believe that where you grew up parents regularly paid £60 a day for their children to attend the nearest suitable school?

Even if the situation doesn't carry on for weekend, £60 a day is more than many can afford

Edited

No parents didn’t regularly pay £60 a day, it was cheaper than that!!
We had no other way of getting to school so parents had to pay!

BrendaSmall · 25/10/2024 21:15

LetMeGoogleThat · 25/10/2024 15:53

You are aware that mainstream pupils have a choice, a child with SEND has no choice of where specialist provision is located, hence why the LA that has a duty to educate picks up the costs.

It's not a luxury and those children end up educated outside of their community, denied the option of making local friends and get to spend their days with other pupils who just have SEND too.

Yes!!
Where I lived we all had to travel to get to school and parents had to pay!

BrendaSmall · 25/10/2024 21:17

SunQueen24 · 25/10/2024 20:37

Sorry £900 per year, not month!

Im not sure how it’s dressed up but in my area most people are paying - many years ago my parents paid too!

Same with where I lived, parents had to pay for their children to get to school, unless they lived the other end of the village and then a few got it free!!

BrendaSmall · 25/10/2024 21:27

x2boys · 25/10/2024 12:41

No its not a new thing ,my parents chose to send me to a Catholic school and I had toi get a bus there and back daily ,the local school was a ten minute walk away ,difference was it was a ten pence journey which even in the 80,s wasn't that much not £60 / day
Also it was my parents CHOICE!

my parents had to pay for transport for us to get to school, they had no choice!

BrendaSmall · 25/10/2024 21:30

Potentialmadcatlady · 25/10/2024 11:59

You really aren’t listening are you. I have two children- one I drove to school everyday of her school career. The other needed specialist provision which meant going out of county and was over an hour away. You don’t get a choice.

We didn’t get a choice!
we had to pay to get to our closest school, had no other way of getting there!

GreyBlackLove · 25/10/2024 22:08

BrendaSmall · 25/10/2024 21:14

No parents didn’t regularly pay £60 a day, it was cheaper than that!!
We had no other way of getting to school so parents had to pay!

Ok, so what you're saying is that your comments and experiences are not comparable to the OPs, not relevant to this scenario or helpful to her.

It's like me telling the OP she should just pay £60 a day for her own taxi because I would, and I'm baseing that off the way my mum used to pay £2 a day for someone to pick up our family dog and look after it on the days she was at work.

Why are you posting? What point do you imagine you are making?

x2boys · 26/10/2024 10:43

SunQueen24 · 25/10/2024 20:24

Whilst I agree with the sentiment it is pretty usual for parents to have to contribute towards transport for their secondary school children. It’s around £900 pcm. It might pale in insignificance vs the cost of a taxi but it’s not true to say they don’t pay at all.

But for kids in mainstream its still.a parents choice where their kids go to school
I know some people might send their children, to a school that isn't their local school because its outstanding or whatever and thenn hsve to pay bus fairs to get their kids to school, but the fact remains the parents could of chosen the not so illustrious local school and not pay anything for transport
When you have a child in a special school, it's not a parents choice. ,it's up to the LEA.

SunQueen24 · 26/10/2024 11:01

x2boys · 26/10/2024 10:43

But for kids in mainstream its still.a parents choice where their kids go to school
I know some people might send their children, to a school that isn't their local school because its outstanding or whatever and thenn hsve to pay bus fairs to get their kids to school, but the fact remains the parents could of chosen the not so illustrious local school and not pay anything for transport
When you have a child in a special school, it's not a parents choice. ,it's up to the LEA.

I’m not saying you should pay for SEN. Just saying that is not unusual for parents to make a contribution and the SEN provision in mainstream might be why you’re not sending them to the nearest school, just because they’re not in a special school doesn’t mean they don’t have some SEN.

x2boys · 26/10/2024 11:14

SunQueen24 · 26/10/2024 11:01

I’m not saying you should pay for SEN. Just saying that is not unusual for parents to make a contribution and the SEN provision in mainstream might be why you’re not sending them to the nearest school, just because they’re not in a special school doesn’t mean they don’t have some SEN.

Edited

Which is a totally different argument
And actually there are kids in mainstream with EHCP,s who get funded transport .

SunQueen24 · 26/10/2024 11:18

x2boys · 26/10/2024 11:14

Which is a totally different argument
And actually there are kids in mainstream with EHCP,s who get funded transport .

I’m not arguing - I was just making a point in what I saw as an inaccuracy to a statement made here.

There’s many reasons, amongst undiagnosed or kids awaiting EHCP’s to send them to another school. The fact remains that some parents do make a contribution to their children’s school transport, irrespective of the position on SEND transport.

Sevenwondersofthewoo · 27/10/2024 09:04

@SunQueen24 could you give examples of parents contributing for transport as I’ve never heard of it, it’s always been paid for by the LA

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