Wedding gift - how much money would you give?

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Not really an AIBU, but I wasn’t sure where else to post. It’s more of a WWYD.

We are going to wedding in the next few months, all day and a dinner the night prior, DH has known the Groom since school but they aren’t massively close. We’ve not seen them him in a few years and never met his partner.

The Bride and Groom have asked for money towards a honeymoon. We haven’t been to a wedding for years and I’m not sure what is an average amount of money to gift.

How much would you gift?

We usually put in £50.

Weddings can be expensive for guests (if you factor in hotels/petrol/dinner etc) so I think £50 is more than reasonable.

You factor it into the costs along with travel, accommodation, childcare etc.

That's terrible, isn't it?

That's not terribly helpful information, though, is it? This is a casual acquaintance, not a grandchild!

edit - I was trying to quote the poster who said what she gave her granddaughter.

No. It's normal.

@IlooklikeNigella not really, no. I'm in Ireland and whilst people are definitely more generous with cash gifts here I'm confident that everyone in my circle would be horrified at the thought of someone not coming to their wedding because they couldn't afford a €200+ cash gift.

For just an evening invite we give £40 in a nice card.

For a full day I would give £60, again in a nice card.

Very few people want loads of bottles of sparkling wine, better to give cash so they can spend it on whatever they want.

£50 but this is why I hate the requests for money! generally just buy a bottle of champagne now that most couples are already set up in a home

I don't understand the dislike for giving money, it's easy and you know they'll appreciate it, why buy something they might not want?

What ridiculous replies ! £100? £200?!! Really?
You give what you can afford, simple as. Take no notice of these posts.

The answers in these are always extreme, hence why money is such an invidious gift. People on another thread were talking about covering the cost of their attendance, so weird.

I actually think wedding gifts are an outdated concept now. Especially with the often great cost of attending

£100

Yes I find the whole "cover your plate" attitude bizarre in the extreme. If I have guests over for dinner I don't present them with a bill for what the food and drink cost afterwards.

I see that written a lot on MN, but always think it is terrible idea.
I don't want one bottle of fiz, let alone 50.

Very few people want loads of bottles of sparkling wine, better to give cash so they can spend it on whatever they want

Exactly.

£50

As I said, I think wedding gifts outdated. We specifically said no gifts

I've given £20 before. Reality for me is that I'm on benefits and a lone parent. I spent £300 on two nights in a themed hotel this week for my son's birthday which I had to save and save for. If I flung £100 at people getting married I'd not be doing what's best for my son. If I got married I would expect people to give what they can afford, even if that's nothing.

You had the right idea.