To be pissed of at husband

[AnnoyingH]

I don't know how to describe it other than "accusations" he makes about me. It makes me so angry. Am I overreacting?

Example 1: he's going out for the day with DS and I suggested he might consider going for lunch at a particular restaurant 5 mins walk away from their venue that DS likes. So he accuses me of trying to be controlling of their day. I respond that I was just making a suggestion. He insists I'm trying to be controlling.

Example 2: I don't have a personal laptop but can use my work laptop for personal stuff. On my day off I sit at my laptop doing personal things. It just so happens that a work email pops up just as he looks at my laptop so he accuses me of spending my day off working. I explain that's not the case and he insists that I am.

Both within 24 hours. It makes me feel like he's saying I'm lying.

@Harry12345 you understand exactly my frustration. He had a whole day with DS but no plans yet from 12 onwards. It was just a lunch suggestion and turned into an argument with him repeatedly telling me I'm being controlling and me repeatedly saying no it was just a suggestion.

The second example turned into an argument lasting 2 days because he was angry that I had chosen to spend my day off working and wouldn't believe that I wasn't. I then had to give him a blow by blow account of what I had done on my laptop to prove to him I wasn't working. It's really shit because I am the one who works part time so that I can do all the school pick up and drop offs, the laundry, the cooking and food shopping, playing with the children etc while he chooses to work until 9pm every night doing unpaid overtime. He always has to know better and it makes me feel like he's accusing me of lying. It wasn't even possible for me to be on the laptop all day as I did the food shop, got home at 10, sorted out the dishwasher and lunch for us, then left the house again at 2.30 to do school run and clubs.

I'm taking DS away on holiday for a few days while DH has to work. DH had reminded me to pack this and that and the other. I'm really grateful he's reminded me (even though they are all things I had already packed - but I could have forgotten). I don't see that as controlling, but if I had done it to him he would have.

He's generally a know-it-all. Knows better than the doctors, better than any tradesmen that come, better than the teachers, and I think this is one of those things where he knows better than me.

He sounds insufferable. I hate know it alls. Don't go out of your way to make him believe you about things. Say it once, if he doesn't believe you just move on. He sounds absolutely ridiculous, and he sounds more controlling than you do!

Yes but why is it always the husbands fault?

It takes 2

The op can 'yeah but' all they want I don't need suggestions unless I ask for them

Is it really that much of a big deal if you had done some work? It's your day off. Perhaps you realised you had to do something and did it. Why has that become such an issue?

Stop being defensive all the time. It was a big revelation to me when I learnt I didn't ever have to defend my actions.

who Cares if you are answering work emails? It’s none of his business what you do on your day off - and I would tell him this straight.
stand up for yourself and don’t be bullied by this ridiculous man. you gave him an idea for lunch, not an eviction notice - why the overreaction. Tell Karen to calm down.