To have run the petrol down to 40 miles left

[Baby3or]

I recently drove 115 miles on a motorway back to London suburbs. I was watching the petrol number the whole way (it gives it in miles left to go before it’s empty) and at 70 I was considering stopping for petrol (lots of places on the motorway and then lots of places in city suburbs on the way to our house). I decided not to stop as baby was asleep and also our older child was keen to get home after a long journey.

we live less than a mile from a big supermarket with a petrol station and also plenty of other places to fill up.

husband had a go at me saying ‘what would I have done if we had run out of petrol / how had I let myself get in that situation’ I said I was fully aware how much was left and I made a decision not to refuel as on balance it was low but not empty.

AIBU??

I have suggested counselling a number of times recently but he refuses as ‘doesn’t want to be blamed’ for things in our relationship that is not good. He’s a coward

I'd be interested in the replies if I wrote "My DH went out with our two DC , baby and toddler , on the motorway . He didn't fill up the tank on the way home , I;m furious"

It would be What a prick , how can he think of driving on a motorway on low fuel , there are roadworks and hold-ups everywhere . He could use Pay At Pump , wouldn't need to leave the kids , Is he always this irresponsible ?

My other half is weird about this, and likes to fill it up about half way. Completely bonkers.

What did he think was going to happen exactly?

I live in Cornwall where petrol stations are much more sparse and I always drive with less than 40miles in the tank.

I’m not being obtuse OP but why are you still with him if you’re so unhappy?

Rarely let ours get below half a tank. There are no 24 hour petrol stations around here and I dont want to be worrying about running out of fuel if there was an emergency.

🤦‍♀️ffs!

Thank you so much.

i could post my life in its full ugliness but ive split it up into lots of different posts in the pasts (one about his affair, one about his temper, one about his drinking which is actually the only thing possibly resolved), and the LTBs are so fierce. Posters starting getting angry saying she’s not going to leave him what’s the point in even replying to this thread it’s a waste etc. and that was to purely one of my issues not even the whole shebang.
it’s so easy to say ltb on the internet. It’s not easy when you have a 1yo and another older children who adore their dad, and there are good times and you have a comfortable life in some ways and being SAHM watching our little people when our DC1 was so distressed at nursery for such a long time. The bad times are never the full picture.

The only way I would be annoyed was you had separate finances and if you were always leaving an empty car for me to fill up, never contributing to the cost of fuel.

Do you fill up the tank?

Very very good point

I got mine down to 5 once! Don't make a habit of it but my usual petrol station en route back from Nottingham to Leeds before the M1 didn't have any diesel, and I simply (stubbornly) wasn't willing to pay the exorbitant Motorway service station prices! I did refuel at the petrol station round the corner from my house though!

I’m a SAHM and sometimes he might pay for it in his personal account. I probably wanted to avoid using the joint account as there’s never enough money in it

Hahahaha! 🤣

that’s hilarious

I fairly frequently get in our car to find my wife has left it with ‘0’ miles left in it!

That's plenty nowhere near running out! I've ran it down to single figures before... I don't recommend though 😆

No it's not. The carburettor ends up being clogged with the sludge left in the bottom of the engine.

Noooo. There can be a load of gunk at the bottom of the tank. 😬

I‘m another one who fills up at about 1/4 tank left. I worry about the sediment, getting stuck in unexpected traffic jams and petrol stations being shut/out of fuel/refilling when I get there. Also remember 2020 or whenever it was and nowhere having any fuel.

I drive on a motorway everyday for work. Still don’t fill up with 40 miles to go as it’s not 40 miles to my home. People can do basic maths and assess a situation. We are a 1 car family. I don’t interrogate DH on his last trip.

If I was doing a 200 mile journey and set of with 40 miles left that might be different.

You’re trying to make this about misandry. It’s not.

God I get twitchy if it goes below 100 miles left.

I think there are two types of people in the world. Petrol tank pessimists and petrol tank optimists. I've been very, very close to running out on a ridiculous number of occasions. Dh likes to keep his topped up and can't understand why I'd let myself get into that position. Neither can I, tbh, but it always works out.

I always panic and fill straight away but that's just me. There's no one to 'tell me off' though. He's a dick

There's loads left!

My husband also has a panic attack if we have less than 1/4 of a tank, he doesn't inflict his neuroticism on me thankfully 😂 he does always fill up the tank whenever he drives my car though! 👍🏼

YANBU

This!

40 miles is loads! I regularly run the gauntlet on zero miles and have only actually run out once.... and that was while living abroad and about to hand back a particularly troublesome
And gas guzzling lease car...... petrol was really expensive where we lived and as the car had given us so much trouble (which the company knew about) and was so expensive we really didnt want to spend any more money on it than necessary so we were filling up a few dollars at a time for the last few days....

it finally ran out on our street about 6 doors down from our house so DH pushed it the last few meters, parked it outside our house and phoned the leasing company to warn them they would need to bring a can of petrol to collect it (which they were quite happy - and rather amused - to do as they knew how much trouble this particular car had been!)

I have often run my previous car down to quite low.

I can't remember the exact numbers but ...

Recently, in my new car, I was driving along the motorway at night (alone) and my car said I had something like 40 miles of petrol left. Home was about 15 miles away so I thought I'd be fine and would fill up the next morning.

Suddenly it immediately dropped from 40 miles left to 10 miles.

That was a bit nerve wracking but fortunately a 24 hour petrol station was coming up (although I didn't know that at the time)!!!

My petrol gauge obviously isn't very accurate so I'll be careful in future!