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To cut a long story short I'm on holiday seeing a friend who is more of an acquaintance because I don't know how that well and she is too full on because she wants to do everything for me pay for things for me take me wherever I want to go and I was telling somebody else about this and this other person thinks this woman fancies meant this woman is a lesbian I'm not sure but it's all very creepy because she's been taking all these photographs of me without my knowledge and sending them to me saying here I've taken these pictures of you and I'm like oh right I had no idea it's very creepy

Ooh, she's used her lesbian powers to take away your ability to punctuate, too.

We are meeting for one last time tomorrow before I move on to a new destination and again for a meal so I said I'll meet you at the restaurant and she said no I will meet you at your hotel I'll pick you up at your hotel I don't like it it's all very weird and my other friend is convinced that this is a woman who is gay and she fances me

Yes she fancies you

Does it matter if she fancies you?

Are you writing this in a rush??

She's just doing what half of MN expects of someone to do when hosting...

And she's sending you the photos, presumably of you enjoying yourself, it's not like she's taking photos of you changing

Oh dear

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Op, if you're on holiday with her, I'd consider that she's your good friend and maybe that's just how she sees it.

The photos thing is weird, I'd tell her straight that it makes you uncomfortable, but if you're not her friend, it was unkind to go on holiday with her

I hope I've understood your post correctly x

She may fancy you, but at least you can be prepared with a suitable response if any advances are made. 'I'm very flattered and like you very much, but I'm afraid I'm only interested in men in that way' is a standard. If she's spent a lot of money on you, you might offer to pay for dinner too.

I didn't make it quite clear I'm not on the holiday with her I'm in her country in the town where she lives and I met this woman twice last year when she was in the UK visiting a mutual friend. Then the mutual friend said to me if you are going to be in her country and her town because you've met her before it might be nice if you could just meet her for coffee and say hello and I honestly thought that was all it was going to be but when I met this woman she said to me anywhere you want to go I will take you and she's bought me three meals and drinks won't pay for any petrol and she's even bought me a travel card thing with money on so I don't have to pay for public transport and I find it a bit much because I've only met her twice very briefly and that was a year ago

I'm dying 😂😂

Sone people are just hospitable , sone countries people tend to do more for visitors

Do you fancy her , is that why you are asking? To see if you should push things forward?

Is anyone getting steak cut chips vibes?

She even commented on the way I looked because I happen to say to her that I was not very well a few weeks ago and I lost weight I just innocently said that and she said you don't need to lose and there are several other things she's tried to do for me like lend me things and I don't know it's too much to go into but it makes me feel really uncomfortable

Oh no and now you’re thousands of miles away in a strange country WITH A LESBIAN

OP some cultures are very hospitable. She's putting herself out to be kind and hasn't done anything inappropriate. Buy her something to say thanks.

It may just be her way of being kind and this is not a strange country because I've been to this country before and if she really was a lesbian she would try it on with me

Please, please use punctuation.

I've read everything now. Just because someone is gay doesn't mean they're going to try to shag you. Dear god.

Cultural difference? I have friends from other countries which shall remain nameless. Hospitality to visitors is a HUGE deal to them. I've seen physical scuffles over not only restaurant bills but the supermarket checkout when buying picnic supplies. They wouldn't hear of allowing a guest to pay the bill on a short visit without a lengthy insistence if not some trickery.

I can think of both Italian and Indian friends - would behave like this in these circumstances. And if I sent a friend to their city and let them know would go out of their way to host them - even if they’d never met before - as an act of love for me rather than necessarily because of the person themselves.

let it be, thank her, insist on paying for supper as a thank you for her hospitality.

Do you your Mum and Dad know you’re out of the country? Maybe a bit of growing up needs to be done by you.
So because someone is being nice to you they must be a lesbian and they must also fancy you. Grow up!!!