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Flute56 · 2024-10-21T16:16:45+00:00

To cut a long story short I'm on holiday seeing a friend who is more of an acquaintance because I don't know how that well and she is too full on because she wants to do everything for me pay for things for me take me wherever I want to go and I was telling somebody else about this and this other person thinks this woman fancies meant this woman is a lesbian I'm not sure but it's all very creepy because she's been taking all these photographs of me without my knowledge and sending them to me saying here I've taken these pictures of you and I'm like oh right I had no idea it's very creepy

Thanksforyourlackofthought · 21/10/2024 17:49

Take a breath OP before you pass out.

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Flute56 · 21/10/2024 17:50

Catandsquirrel · 21/10/2024 17:46

Cultural difference? I have friends from other countries which shall remain nameless. Hospitality to visitors is a HUGE deal to them. I've seen physical scuffles over not only restaurant bills but the supermarket checkout when buying picnic supplies. They wouldn't hear of allowing a guest to pay the bill on a short visit without a lengthy insistence if not some trickery.

Yes I think you are correct so my friend who suggested that she fancied me is totally wrong

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MumOfOneAllAlone · 21/10/2024 17:51

Flute56 · 21/10/2024 17:33

I didn't make it quite clear I'm not on the holiday with her I'm in her country in the town where she lives and I met this woman twice last year when she was in the UK visiting a mutual friend. Then the mutual friend said to me if you are going to be in her country and her town because you've met her before it might be nice if you could just meet her for coffee and say hello and I honestly thought that was all it was going to be but when I met this woman she said to me anywhere you want to go I will take you and she's bought me three meals and drinks won't pay for any petrol and she's even bought me a travel card thing with money on so I don't have to pay for public transport and I find it a bit much because I've only met her twice very briefly and that was a year ago

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Ohhh OK, that's definitely a bit different!

I would tell her that you've had so much fun with her but you want some time to yourself, tbh. Politely though as you'll probably see her again. Maybe she's just awkward and is unintentionally being full on x

MolkosTeenageAngst · 21/10/2024 17:53

It does sound full on but does not necessarilly mean that she is gay and/ or that she fancies you. Are you gay? Do you know for a fact that she is? It may just be that she is financially well off and feels like as you’re in her country that she should host; this would be culturally appropriate in some places. I have been in situations overseas where I was treated like royalty by locals and they wouldn’t let me pay for anything despite the fact I certainly was in a better financial situation. She may just be being kind, but if it’s ok and you’re not even in the country specifically to visit her it’s okay to distance yourself or it’s okay to insist on paying for things.

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Flute56 · 21/10/2024 17:56

MumOfOneAllAlone · 21/10/2024 17:51

Ohhh OK, that's definitely a bit different!

I would tell her that you've had so much fun with her but you want some time to yourself, tbh. Politely though as you'll probably see her again. Maybe she's just awkward and is unintentionally being full on x

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I will be having time to myself because tomorrow I'm seeing her for the last time and then I'm moving on to another part of the country for two weeks

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Flute56 · 21/10/2024 17:59

MolkosTeenageAngst · 21/10/2024 17:53

It does sound full on but does not necessarilly mean that she is gay and/ or that she fancies you. Are you gay? Do you know for a fact that she is? It may just be that she is financially well off and feels like as you’re in her country that she should host; this would be culturally appropriate in some places. I have been in situations overseas where I was treated like royalty by locals and they wouldn’t let me pay for anything despite the fact I certainly was in a better financial situation. She may just be being kind, but if it’s ok and you’re not even in the country specifically to visit her it’s okay to distance yourself or it’s okay to insist on paying for things.

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I am not gay and I have no idea about her anyway I think it's just a cultural thing

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Flute56 · 30/10/2024 13:24

midgetastic · 21/10/2024 17:36

Sone people are just hospitable , sone countries people tend to do more for visitors

Do you fancy her , is that why you are asking? To see if you should push things forward?

I do not fancy her but rightly or wrongly I thought she fancied me and I'm going home next week and she and I arranged to have one last final phone call before I fly home and now she's saying she may not be able to speak to me next week and just lifted at that and she said she might have other plans she might be too busy so she's now become quite cold and distanced I don't know if I've done anything to upsetter I've asked her but she won't say so a really good close friend of mine said just forget about it you'll go back to the UK you won't see her from her again so just forget about it and leave it at that

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