To keep going to a hairdresser that makes me feel uncomfortable?

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I’ve been going to the same hairdresser for a while, and while he does a good job, he’s made it clear that he’s interested in pursuing me sexually. This has made me feel quite uncomfortable during my appointments. The problem is, he knows my hair well and is reasonably priced, so I keep going back. But every time, I feel uneasy. Should I find someone new, or am I overreacting by letting this get to me?

He sounds borderline dangerous. Do not go back to him. And work on your awareness of situations you should steer clear of.

Even if he makes you look like Beyoncé this just isn't worth it, just go somewhere professional, yuck

These types of threads pop up on here all the time I find it so incredibly strange that someone would find time for and pay good money for a hair appointment that makes them feel uncomfortable when there are so many hairdressers out there and it’s hardly a specialist subject. Just go to someone else…

No. Yuck. I'm unsure why you're asking because this is so out of line - has he kind of groomed you? Do you not like making a fuss?

Send him a text saying 'stop texting and calling. I won't be coming to your salon any more.' and block his number and find a different hairdresser. No hairstyle is worth this amount of grossness!

Well I’m not sure I would allow myself to be harassed just because he’s my regular hairdresser. I’d find a new one myself.

Very annoying but you can’t stop creeps being creeps. You could put in a complaint I guess but I would only do that if I wasn’t going back.

Oh I’ve just seen he’s the owner of the salon. No point in complaining then 😑

There are 100000's of hairdressers out there, find one.

I wouldn’t even text back, I would block him. And never go to that salon again.

You just can’t help yourself, can you? This isn’t a wind-up; it’s been a real issue for me. Maybe try to approach this with a bit more understanding.

He’s pushing and pushing at your boundaries to see how far he can get. I wouldn’t give him the opportunity to find out. I would absolutely expect him to at some point physically assault you.

I had a similar situation (not a hairdresser but along those lines) in my very early twenties and my forty-something year old self now is horrified by how much I let him do and how far it got. He was a manipulative creep who found an easy target - I only got rid of him when my Dad got involved and threatened to involve the police and his professional body.

Your hairdresser is preying on you and depending on the fact that women in these situations are often too embarrassed, awkward, self doubting etc to get out and just go along with things. Please just block his number and find another hairdresser.

OP you have got to stop going to this hairdresser. Please.

This! What's that MN saying - there are so many red flags waving here, you've got a nice string of bunting??

I will, for sure. Thank you x

What a creep! I know how rare it is to find a great hairdresser - but sorry OP, this one is far too much of a sex pest.

I'm actually feeling worried about your safety. He has crossed so many boundaries I also think he may not stop.

Does he know where you live, where you work, or any personal details like that?

I would try and make sure there is an ending that doesn't lead to him trying to seek you out. Could you tell him you're moving away? Make sure all your social media profiles are private, change your name on Facebook etc. And block block block.

I’m shocked that you’re thinking of returning to an uncomfortable situation with a sleazeball just because he gives a good hair cut.

Sorry OP but you’re being really unreasonable. Just bin him! I wouldn’t think twice about going elsewhere.

I used to take my son's to a barber that was dirt cheap and good but they had a new guy once that kept on looking at my boobs without hiding it if that makes sense. I found somewhere else

It might have sounded harsh but why would you put up with this for so long, and be wondering why you should leave?

OMG OP that's not Ok and the fact that you're questioning yourself just goes to show how we are so bloody conditioned as women to think we're overreacting. Do not go back there ever and make sure you block him on everything and please tell a friend or family member.

Jeez - he can't be THAT good at cutting your hair to make you consider putting up with all this bullshit?

I appreciate your concern for my safety; it means a lot. He doesn’t know where I live or work, and I’ve kept my personal information private. On Saturday, he tried to invite himself over, suggesting I could cook for him, and then he asked if I felt scared where I live, specifically mentioning my flat. He knows I live alone but nothing more. I’ve started looking into new hairdressers already, my online presence is secure, and I’ve also blocked him everywhere. Thank you for the advice.

Block him and never go back.

Block him right now.

There are other hair stylists.

With those updates Op, you need to block him & find a new hairdresser!

I'd also suggest talking to your local police as he's bordering on harassing behaviour and sounds like he might not stop.
You're probably not the only woman he's done/doing this to.....