to feel a shiver of dread that somebody on MN knows who I am, but hasn't revealed themself to me!

[MadameCh0let]

This poster has only ever made three messages and one of them was to make the comment that left me in no doubt she knows who I am in RL.

I have never said my name on MN. I have said the approximate area I live in but not the exact town name. So whoever this person is has obviously been following posts for a while and has pieced together details that identify me. Where I used to live, where I live now, the fact that my ex is wancher etc etc...

It makes me feel really apprehensive. I don't know if it's somebody in England or Ireland. If it's a relative of mine or worse, of my ex's.

I feel a bit sick now. I even paid the £5 quid to join CAT and then CATd the person to ask her to let me know who she is...only to find that they don't receive CAT messages.

Help. Should I be worried? As I was posting each post, I saw it as an individual piece of information. But if somebody knows who I am and trawls through every single post, I suppose there might be something damning about somebody or something in there.

Just name change for a bit. CAT or FB your most cherished bestest quiche friends so they know who you are.

Just change your name? I'm thinking of doing this too cos I think I've been identifying myself too much.

someon in my son's nursery is a fellow mnetter. It was obvious she new who I was as I have my picture on my profile. SHe has her profile hidden. I was a little unnerved. Now I just think she must have far better things to do than sit and read my tosh.

I've name-changed recently because I felt I was becoming identifiable. I think you should do that as well.

YANBU.

Tis very "off" to do a 'I know who you aaaa-are' kind of message and not let on who you are.

You could name change if you wish, letting your mates know who you are (but how do you know who will miss you posting?) tis a toughie.

I hope she sees this thread and realises what she's doing, and lets you know who she is.

She may not realise quite what she has done.

I can't believe how edgy I feel about it. It's like somebody was watching me through the window and I didn't know they were looking. I may only have been washing up but I feel exposed.

I will have to change my name now.

Oh dear MadameC, this doesn't sound nice.

Are you sure that this person knows who you are or could it be a weird coincidence?

Have you any reason to be scared of your ex knowing your whereabouts or that you have posted less-than-complimentary things about him?

If the answer to either question is 'yes' then maybe a non-traceable namechange is called for - it's a shame but at least that way you can continue to post.

I felt the same as I know someone on here knows who I am but has not revealed themselves to me.

I am very careful what I say now.

horrid feeling isn't it

Message withdrawn

and you're a fish

If was a relative of my ex's I should be worried. A while ago I did post something that I shouldn't have done. It could have given my ex a heads up so to speak. I genuinely wanted advice at the time. I saw a solicitor who advised me but didn't 'act' for me at the CAB yesterday and I'm getting my certificates of sole guardianship signed by a commissioner for oaths at the local court tomorrow, so if you're somebody reading this who might be telling my ex "guess what...." then too late. If you're a bloody FRIEND of mine then just let me know! don't make me sweat like this!!!

If you want any specific posts deleted you can ask mn-hq.

I think you might be able to have all your posts deleted if you really want.

Oh, yes and you can have all posts deleted if you want.

Thanks DSM
I've sent an e-mail to [email protected] asking them to delete all my posts. Then I'll come back and I'll be so much more careful about what I say. I never thought anybody would figure it out though.

Poor you I don't blame you for namechanging, but it's a shame that you need to.

Well I won't do it right this second. I'm going to try and think of something good and if anybody is remotely interested they can e-mail me at [email protected] and I'll tell them who I am now.

Sorry MadameC Hope to see you around under your new name.

Hmmmmm, this thread has made me think about all the info I've spilled over my time here MC, so I've asked for mine to be deleted too and I've name changed slightly, so I'm still recognised on here as Doodle but a search would show up nowt.

Thanks PW

dsm

Kerryk.. you know who I used to be don't you?

yes, glad to see you are still around

Are you absolutely sure the person knows you? I ask this because a Mnetter catted me once to ask if I knew her in RL - because I had mentioned that I knew someone with a dc who had the same name as one of her dc's (an unusual name) and worked in the same sort of job... was just a coincidence. I also noticed that a poster here had dcs with the same names as someone I know in RL so did a bit of a search but again, just a coincidence - she lives at the other end of the country to me...

Tbh though, I think many people (including me) sometimes give out too much info over the years. Don't think it would be easy to come onto MN and "find" someone instantly unless they had given out very personal information but when someone posts a lot they can give out snippets here and there and if you read their posts over a long period of time you can glean a lot...

Plus ireland is a very small place - my BIL and best friend recently met each other through work - live at opposite ends of the country and had never met before!

what is catting please and how do you do it?