to feel a shiver of dread that somebody on MN knows who I am, but hasn't revealed themself to me!

[MadameCh0let]

This poster has only ever made three messages and one of them was to make the comment that left me in no doubt she knows who I am in RL.

I have never said my name on MN. I have said the approximate area I live in but not the exact town name. So whoever this person is has obviously been following posts for a while and has pieced together details that identify me. Where I used to live, where I live now, the fact that my ex is wancher etc etc...

It makes me feel really apprehensive. I don't know if it's somebody in England or Ireland. If it's a relative of mine or worse, of my ex's.

I feel a bit sick now. I even paid the £5 quid to join CAT and then CATd the person to ask her to let me know who she is...only to find that they don't receive CAT messages.

Help. Should I be worried? As I was posting each post, I saw it as an individual piece of information. But if somebody knows who I am and trawls through every single post, I suppose there might be something damning about somebody or something in there.

Can't remember what it stands for - contacting another Mnetter - the people at HQ will forward an email from you to someone else but you can't get that person's email address unless they reply to you...

I'm absolutely positive she knows who I am. It was a combination of two pieces of information in one short post. Deliberately put together to leave no doubt. One on its own would have been enough. The two together

Ireland is a small place. But most Irish parents know about Rollercoaster.ie and haven't heard of mumsnet. I go on RC occassionally, but I have been really careful on that board. I thought I was safe here, on a UK board! ANF I didn't even say Oh I'm Sarah/Sasha (not my name!)

I will be looking crooked at all the people I sort of know, but don't really know.

if you ask MNHQ to delete all your posts you won't need to change you name....just be careful what you post and carry on with this one.

This does sound almost sinister so I don't balme you what ever you decide.

Oh Madame thats terrible, you must feel as if you have been violated, name change, I dont have any personnel info on the profile stuff, its a shame that someone has taken such liberty's with another mnetter, name change, and try to stay neutral, although how you can have an honest and frank discussions in code I dont know, she should be ashamed for behaving so badly, the shady git.

I think it's really not on and bad manners. The woman concerned should be ashamed of herself.

Get anything you don't want her to know/identifies you deleted and name change.

Update. Unfortunately I still don't know who the creepy person is, but the shock of knowing that somebody out there had identified MadameCh0let and was reading my posts, finally galvanised me to put something in order. I'd been meaning to do it for a while, and today I just got on with it. So thank you creepy person whoever you are. My ship is now in order or whatever the expression is.

I went to a solicitor today and got the certificates for sole guardianship of my children witnessed and stamped.

It was a stressful day, and I bought a bottle of wine on the way home from the solicitors.

As soon as the children are in bed it will be the perfect temperature...

Au revoir from MadameCh0let!

Oh well done for getting that sorted. Good luck with the next phase of your life and new identity!

Aw that is creepy, MadameC. Someone appeared on my local thread, announced that they had been lurking for a while and knew who some of us are, including me, but wouldn't say who she was. How she expected a warm welcome I don't know! And she certainly didn't get one from me. Creeping people out is not the way to make friends.